Post # 1
I recently joined this site and I have been seeing a lot of posts about waiting for a proposal and being frustrated by the waiting game.
I started dating my hunny when I was 22, he was eager to get married after a year (we moved in together after 4 months) but I wasn’t. I basically told him if we are still together when I’m 28 then you can ask, but before then don’t because most likely I will say no.
So I was wondering did any of you make him wait?
Post # 3
I didn’t really. I suppose we both just agreed upon a certain timeline, and neither of us had to wait. But I definitely know you’re not the only one. The waiting women are just heavily represented here.
Post # 4
Oh, he had to wait a LONG time. We started dating when I was 14 and he was 17. He was really eager to get engaged when we were still in high school but I was adamant about it and told him no. Then when I graduated I told him no. He got a ring for me about 6 months after I turned 20 and engaged to me last month and I finally told him yes 🙂 We’re still not going to have the ceremony until I’m out of school which puts me about a two weeks after my 23rd birthday.
Post # 5
I AM making him wait… I’ll admit, it kind of sucks to say, but I’m just not quit in the right place in my life to feel completely comfortable getting married. Whereas he’s been wanting to for the past two years.
Luckily, we’ve talked about it and have come up with a good idea of a “timeline” that we’re both ok with.
Post # 6
I made him wait until I finished uni. No way I was going to marry him before.
Post # 7
Yup. It took me a looooonnnngggg time to be ready for marriage. Not that dh was pining away or obsessing on it. He’s a very patient man.
Eventually, it just made sense to go forward.
Post # 8
Its nice to know I’m not the only one. For me also I was never in a rush, I had a lot of other things I wanted to accomplish and focus on before the marriage thing came into play. Also I wanted to at least pass the 5yr mark, I felt more at ease with the idea after that.
Post # 9
@saritacg7: I feel like FI and I moved so fast for a young, non-religious couple in LA lol. We met online, I moved in with him 3 months in, when I was 21 and he was 23, partially because I didn’t like driving half an hour to see him, and I had roommates and he didn’t. 5 months later we’d started talking about a theoretical wedding enough that I mentioned I’d rather wait at least another 6 months until getting engaged, so the answer to your question is sort of, though I don’t think he was super eager quite then. He waited 9, so it was just a year and 5 months in.
Some people just feel ready to “settle down” in that way sooner than others, and 99% of the time there’s nothing wrong with different paces 😛
Post # 10
You did put on the brakes a little. But trust me, I totally understand the L.A. living situation. I moved in with my FI after 3 months too, we had an hour drive between us and we wanted to hang out everyday. I had a roomate and he had his own place so he invited me to move in. But I did want to wait on the marriage thing.
Post # 11
@saritacg7: Kind of, he told me once he wanted to propose on my 23rd birthday and I said it was too soon. Then when my 23rd birthday happened I realized I really was ready… and he proposed a month and a half later lol. But yeah I def wasn’t one of those girls pushing for a proposal for ages!
Post # 12
@saritacg7: I did. I told him in no way would I want to get married until I had graduated with my Masters. He would have proposed (he kind of DID) YEARS before he actually did if I hadn’t made that clear.