Did anyone make him Wait?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I didn’t really. I suppose we both just agreed upon a certain timeline, and neither of us had to wait. But I definitely know you’re not the only one. The waiting women are just heavily represented here.

Post # 4
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Wannabee

Oh, he had to wait a LONG time. We started dating when I was 14 and he was 17. He was really eager to get engaged when we were still in high school but I was adamant about it and told him no. Then when I graduated I told him no. He got a ring for me about 6 months after I turned 20 and engaged to me last month and I finally told him yes 🙂 We’re still not going to have the ceremony until I’m out of school which puts me about a two weeks after my 23rd birthday.

Post # 5
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229 posts
Helper bee

I AM making him wait… I’ll admit, it kind of sucks to say, but I’m just not quit in the right place in my life to feel completely comfortable getting married. Whereas he’s been wanting to for the past two years. 

Luckily, we’ve talked about it and have come up with a good idea of a “timeline” that we’re both ok with.

Post # 6
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4 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I made him wait until I finished uni. No way I was going to marry him before.

Post # 7
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4918 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yup.  It took me a looooonnnngggg time to be ready for marriage.  Not that dh was pining away or obsessing on it.  He’s a very patient man.

Eventually, it just made sense to go forward.

Post # 9
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1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@saritacg7:  I feel like FI and I moved so fast for a young, non-religious couple in LA lol. We met online, I moved in with him 3 months in, when I was 21 and he was 23, partially because I didn’t like driving half an hour to see him, and I had roommates and he didn’t. 5 months later we’d started talking about a theoretical wedding enough that I mentioned I’d rather wait at least another 6 months until getting engaged, so the answer to your question is sort of, though I don’t think he was super eager quite then. He waited 9, so it was just a year and 5 months in.

Some people just feel ready to “settle down” in that way sooner than others, and 99% of the time there’s nothing wrong with different paces 😛

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@saritacg7:  Kind of, he told me once he wanted to propose on my 23rd birthday and I said it was too soon. Then when my 23rd birthday happened I realized I really was ready… and he proposed a month and a half later lol. But yeah I def wasn’t one of those girls pushing for a proposal for ages!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@saritacg7:  I did. I told him in no way would I want to get married until I had graduated with my Masters. He would have proposed (he kind of DID) YEARS before he actually did if I hadn’t made that clear.

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