Post # 1
If you do a search on here for first look, there are heaps of threads about having a first look. I can’t find any about not doing it. My whole life I have imagined my groom seeing me come down the aisle and going “wow” as he sees me for the first time. But as we get closer, I realize the entire day is going to be a whirlwind and having a quiet moment together before everything kicks off might actually be a better option.
I’m torn between traditional and a concept I hadn’t even heard of, let alone considered until we booked our photographer. Did any of you wait until walking down the aisle? Did you have regrets? Are you glad you did? Please share your pros and cons!
Post # 3
We did an Around the Corner. No first look! =)
IMO it worked out perfect for us. Just seeing his hand peek out from around the corner got me SUUUUPER excited.
And seeing him for the first time that day walking down the aisle… lets just say we BOTH bawled.
Post # 4
I’m curious too. We are not doing a first look, i”ve always just imagined seeing my groom at the end of the aisle waiting for me but with the timing of our wedding and reception it would be so much easier to do the pictures first so would include a first look.
Post # 5
We didn’t do one. I had never heard of one before WeddingBee. I didn’t want one because I wanted to hang out with my family/bridesmaids before the ceremony.
I did do a first look with my dad. I had him, my mom and brother come into the bridal suite for some pre-wedding family portraits. I wanted to have something to commemerate the last time we all shared the same last name. This was more important to me than the first look with hubby. I knew we’d have lots of pictures of the two of us post ceremony.
Post # 6
I’m not doing a first look. I want my moment down the aisle, and in my opinion most ‘first look’ photographs look exactly the same. Because my wedding and reception are in the same place, we are offering food and drinks and because it is a nice scenic place I don’t think that me stepping out to take pics is going to make much of a difference. Also it is not very common in my area, and a gap is very common, so non of my guests will think less of me because of it!
I also like having the ‘alone time’ inbetween the ceremony and reception. (for me first look is just a fancy way to say, taking pics before the ceremony), you can still steal some time alone after the ceremony though, but if you are going right into cocktail hour after the ceremony you are not likely to get this time.
Post # 7
I don’t plan on doing a first look, but I do plan on strategically placing someone w/ a camera (who knows how to use it) so that he/she can take some pictures/capture video of his face 🙂
I WILL do a “first look” with my dad though! I so want a picture of his face. And mine. As I bawl.
Post # 8
I think it depends on the wedding truly who likes doing a first look or not. Like we did it for our wedding because he would see me walking down the aisle for a LONG time since it was outside. There wasn’t really an “opening the doors moment”. I think that really is what makes it depend on who loves the first look v. who loves that moment. Most of our church or indoor weddings like the “moment” more. Most of our outdoor couples love the first look more.
Post # 9
We didn’t do one. Never considered it either.
Post # 10
i’m not doing one!
but i went through the same dilemma as you a few months ago. i for whatever reason got really anxious that i’d be anxious on the day-of, and want to spend time with him.
i seriously considered doing a first look, despite my feelings against it.
i ultimately got over it, and we’ve decided not to.
i am however, spending the night before the wedding with my fiance and we’ll get breakfast together before i head off to get all bridey. 🙂
Post # 11
We didn’t do a first look. I actually wanted to but DH was insistent on being traditional. So happy with our decision. Walking down the aisle and seeing him for the first time is truly my favourite memory of the entire wedding.
Post # 12
I think it’s a cute idea, but my SO is superstitious and doesn’t want to see me before the ceremony.
Post # 13
I was on the fence about it, so I asked my husband and he didn’t want to do it. He said he wanted to experience that first moment of seeing me as I was walking down the aisle to marry him. 🙂 How can you turn down an answer like that, haha!
I am very glad we didn’t, it was a powerful moment and while I don’t know if a first look would of changed it or not, it was great just as it was.
Post # 14
We will not be doing one, I dont want to but even if I did FI would have nothing of it. He wants to see me when the doors open. I’m thinking about doing a first touch or an around the corner thing like someone above mentioned. Just to calm the nerves and get a few cute shots but just make sure he doesn’t see me.
Post # 15
We didn’t do one and I loved it. My FI saw me in the morning all bed-head and then the next time he saw me was walking down the aisle all done up! It was really special moment seeing him standing at the end of the aisle way all done up too.
Post # 16
@AnnieAAA: That’s exactly what my FI said when I mentioned a first look to him! 🙂