Did anyone not enjoy ring shopping like they thought they would??

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

A good friend of mine said that her ring shopping experience really wasn’t fun…but I honestly think it was her fault.  She’s a spender and wasn’t happy with the choices that her SO’s budget allowed – which was $7,000 and plenty for a nice ring, I think. :/

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I didn’t like the way we were treated by a lot of sales people, almost as if we were just there to waste their time.  That was a bit disheartening, but I did learn a lot from the few who really took the time to help us.  All in all, it was fun but shocking to see how little you can get for the money.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t have, by choice, an engagement ring but I do remember getting trapped into a jewellery store being shown a whole range of wedding bands that were astronomically expensive and not what I wanted at all! DH and I are pretty savvy about shopping and avoiding pressure sales but for all that, we found ourselves coming up with an excuse and doing a runner! Not what we’d hoped for when ring shopping!

We did find my perfect ring just around the corner as it happens in an antique jewellery shop where they were delightful and absolutely not pushy. But the awful thought that we’d never get out of the first shop without spending around $10,000 on something I didn’t want was not a happy one!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@242beauty:  I felt a lot of guilt because I knew about what he wanted to spend but everything I fell in love with was over that budget. I told him I would love anything he picked, that I’m sure there’s something in every price range I would like, but that if I am looking to fall in love my taste ranges a little above what he wanted to spend. I also didn’t like how pushy some of the sales people were. One wanted to run SO’s credit before showing us anything so he would know what SO was qualified for (ie, only show us the most expensive in the range) He backed off and eventually passed us off to someone else when I spoke up and said we weren’t buying today we were just looking. I would love to go again, though. I feel like we fit too many stores in one day and SO sort of “checked out” of the whole thing towards the end. Oh well! He got business cards and knows some of the things I like in a ring.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I loved it. We had a great salesman we worked with who we’ve since become friends with.  I think the salesperson you work with can make or break the experience.  It’s definitely a frustrating process at times, but don’t settle, take your time.  Many stores don’t have rosegold, but it doesn’t hurt to inquire about if certain rings can be made in rose gold or what it would cost to go the custom route.

Also, don’t overthink the thing with his mom – I’m sure that’s not what she was thinking at all!  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@242beauty:  I wasn’t, it wasn’t because I didn’t have the budget to get what I wanted it was just that I could FIND what I wanted. 

We went to countless stores and nothing. I tried on so many diamonds/sapphires and nothings was “me” and my FI was stuck on getting me a round diamond which made it harder because I didn’t really WANT a diamond…it was all stressful but I eventually found what I wanted and I love it 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@242beauty:  I didn’t shop with FI for a few reasons (mostly because he forbid it ha) but honestly, I’m glad I didnt.  The ONE time we went into a store before he proposed (turns out the ring was already being made there, actually) I literally almost had a panic attack. Something about talking to him about such an important and expensive purchase totally freaked me out. I’m glad we didn’t do it together!

I also did my “prelim” shopping alone and then only with a few close female friends who knew our rough budget and have a similar financial situation- I would never have shopped with my mom or sister because I don’t think it would have been fun shopping for something of that cost with people who “disapprove.”

My advice moving forward would be to go it alone or tell FI you dont want to be involved!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I got annoyed by it. My DH was much more picky than I was and it took sooo long for the two of us to find something we both loved.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I would have preferred to shop around but my bf found a local jeweler that he liked the sound of on Google reviews (!) and we rode with them the whole way. Small nondescript store downtown, upon arrival they were snobby and not terribly helpful until they gleaned that he’s rich and hadn’t give me a concrete budget. After that they kinda pulled out “the stops” which consisted of getting me a plastic cup of water cooler h2O-there was only so much they could do because it isn’t a glamorous store at all, just a little family shop with nice pieces if you care to look closely enough.

It was kind of a pain in the ass for me, multiple multiple visits while they called in favors from their vendors to get me a sizeable, ethically sourced, excellent quality stone-something I’m not sure they were used to at all. He’d ship in 2 or 3 at a time and I rejected the first 8. Also, I wear a size 8, so I could never try anything on, as every sample was a size 6 or below (wtf-do we need plus sized jewelers too? just have a variety geesh!)

When I imagined ring shopping in the past, it was always at Cartier or Tiffany and there was definitely Dom and some scones somewhere in the scene. Alas-I’m not a Kardashian so my ring experience was very real world. I’m pretty sure we could have gotten a better deal but overall it was important for him to support a local business and we’re pleased with the ring.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

I didn’t enjoy the ring shopping experience as much as I thought I would.  I like rose gold too! And vintage style that is not really popular right now in the big jewelry stores.  We went to store after store and I didn’t really see much that I liked.  Then we would go to vintage jewelry shops and I loved everything, but my BF didn’t! He wanted a new ring with the style I liked.  I get frustrated easily with shopping and this was no exception.

The most fun was creating a secert pinterest board with my BF where we pinned rings we liked from the web (to get a sense of what we both envisioned).  By the end I had no doubts he knew exactly what I wanted, although I’m still waiting so we’ll see!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@242beauty:  I feel like the idea of ring shopping is almost as romanticized as the idea of dress shopping: real life, for a lot of gals, just doesnt measure up to the made-for-tv-movie they had it played up to be in their heads. So I think that is perfectly normal.

We had looked casually in a variety of stores before I actually tried anything on. We were super independent and were either trying not to pester the sales folk, or actively trying to get away from the sales folk pestering *us*.

I only actually tried on rings in one store, and it was a pleasent experience. The salespeople were very sweet and understood we werent ready to buy, but still were enthusiastic. I found a ring I like a lot and I was sure we’d buy it there. That was in December. I enjoyed it the visit, but it wasnt blowing my mind and making me see stars or anything. It was just a fun errand.

Fast forward to April and we found a ring online we loved WAY more, and it’s the one FI purchased for me.

I think that, at the end of the day, the brides perception of these events has a lot to do with a) how high her expectations were of a magical experience and b) how emotional/sentimental she is.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@242beauty:  I did. I was realistic and didn’t get suckered in to the high priced rings we couldn’t afford. What we picked out is the most beautiful ring and I love it. I had a hard time keeping my excitment composed. LOL.

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