Did anyone not exchange anniversary gifts?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m not at the one year mark yet but I have no intention of exchanging gifts.  I think we will celebrate somehow, but no gifts.  I think your going away next week will be a celebration of your anniversary and that marks the occasion nicely.  

Post # 4
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We bought a car about 6 months after we got married and agreed to call that our 1 year anniversary “gift” to each other.  We didn’t exchange anything on our around our anniversary itself other than Darling Husband getting me flowers.

Post # 6
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ours is coming up next month. I wanted to get him something tangible but we are also putting our finances elsewhere.

Ah well, I guess a private strip tease and heartfelt card and yummy dinner will have to do 😉

Post # 7
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We didn’t exchange gifts either. We took a three day weekend from work and went out to dinner.  We’re not big gifters, even on holidays. We pretty much just do birthday gifts.

Post # 8
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We didn’t exchange gifts for our first or second anniversaries, either.  How much crap do we all need, really???  It’s so much more important to just spend some time together doing something fun — in my humble opinion.

Post # 10
3943 posts
Honey bee

We arent married yet but we bought our first house last year which obviously is a huge expenise each month. Last year for our dating anniversary we didnt exchange gifts. I made him a scrapbook of our years together and a fancy dinner (with red velvet whoopie pies! yum!!) and he made me breakfast in bed. It was wonderful!!

When you have been together for a while it can be hard to come up with gifts.  I love spending money together-going out to dinner, buying stuff for the house, etc.

Post # 11
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was hemming and hawing about exchanging gifts because our budget has been really tight, but it was totally worth it. We totally surprised each other with really heartfelt gifts that are now part of our home decor and it’s really nice to look at them and remember our 1 year anniversary.

Post # 12
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I don’t think we are going to be exchanging gifts.  I think we’ll end up with a tradition of either buying something for our home or doing something jointly vs individual gifts.

I’m having our vows written out and professionally framed – so maybe that will be our ‘gift’ to ourselves for our 1-year (kind of goes with the paper theme, anyway).


Post # 13
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think it’s a bad omen :). We’re probably just going to go out to a nice dinner so that will be sort of our “gift” to ourselves. We just bought a house and are having a baby next year so we have way too many other things to be spending money on! I know it sounds very unromantic but at this point of our lives, I’d rather our disposable income was put towards fixing up the house then personal stuff we probably don’t need.

Post # 14
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

lol I don’t think it is a bad omen. We actually didn’t even go out to dinner or anything like that. We just stayed home together and snuggled up on the couch and watched some movies. It actually was perfect I think. He did end up getting me a little gift even though we agreed not to. It was inexpensive though so he at least stuck to that idea 🙂 He got me a really sweet little carved Willow Tree figure that is the ‘Anniversary’ one. I thought it was thoughtful – it has ‘I love thee’ carved in the tree stump they’re sitting on.


Anyway, you don’t need anything but each other to honor that occassion so I think its great that you aren’t getting each other presents!

Post # 15
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I guess we didn’t “technically” exchange gifts.  We went on an awesome vacation, and kind of felt like we didn’t need buy presents on top of that.

Post # 15
1 posts
  • Wedding: January 2004

old thread, but for anyone else that finds it:


girls… let me put this clearly. Best gift for a man, is waking up to bacon and eggs, (or scambled eggs on french toast – depends on his personal favourites).

Second best gift, wear lingerie while you cook it. OR Alternatively, if he is going to spend money on beer, it doesnt hurt to buy a “six pack” of his favourite beers. It is not “money wasted” if it is something he is going to spend himself. But the fact that you went to effort for him, means the world.

ALL these suggestions may cost a small amount money, BUT it is minimal. It will make them feel special.


Note for feminists only: Im not trying to be rude or sexist, but men dont need xbox / ps4 / etc to make them happy. The above will. And dear feminists, my suggestion of cooking breakfast once a year should not be offensive. in no way am i suggesting that this is any genders role, I am simply suggesting that men love it if once a year they get bacon and egg cooked for them, if this upsets you, then I dont believe you are married.



MEN, you HAVE TO GET SOMETHING for her! A gift of a candle, (such as a scented one), is affordable, practical, can be used.if she baths, then bath soaps, or stuff could be the key.

OR look for another gift that is practical, AND shows that you care about her. Budget can be very low.

Another suggestion (might be over an affordable budget) is if you know the sort of books she is into, try and get a book for her. (keep the recipet so she can exchange).

For her to get anything, will make her happy as she can see you put alot of thought into it. Even if you spend less then $5.


– try and cook her favourite food

– take her to a nice, but affordable restaurant, or maybe one of sentimental value to both of you.

– clean the house top to bottom / or something like that

 note: avoid buying kitchen stuff, some women take this as being sexist and will hit you with it. Its the only day a year you cannot buy kitchen stuff.


For some people, it seems to be a cultrulal norm to spend a fortune on gifts. To be honest. I dissagree with spending massive sums of money on extravagent gifts, especially on the first annivarsary as it can take a financial toll (and negatively affect the relationship). ALSO, next year they may be dissappointed….

MEN, I also do not like spending massive $$$ on flowers. I have learnt it is better to spend say $5-$20 (or even $0) on flowers and go out for dinner.


Honestly, if low funds / or high debt, just spend $5 on a gift. being finacially responsible is a “gift” in itself. overspending that burdens you, and can affect your relationship is NOT a gift regardless of what you brought.


Been with my partner almost 14 years now. Sometimes I get it wrong…. but Best memories are the suprises i planned, and experiences we shared on different valentines day. But while we remember all these different things, she cannot remember the flowers I gave her over the years. The flowers withered and died, but remembering the things we did, and where we went can make us both smile.

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