Post # 1
(So I’ll insert right away that of course we would love any gift and are not trying to gift-grab, we only have like 50 people coming anyway!)
BUT… did anyone else feel like no one knew their registry even existed? How did you let people know?
We had a link to our wedding website on our invites. The invite just said “go to our website to RSVP and for more info”. And then we had a link to the registry on our website.
Well, our wedding’s in 18 days and not a single thing has been bought off the registry. I’m wondering if people have even seen or realize that there’s a registry link on our page. I assumed that one should never, ever make any mention of a registry on your invites, but now I feel like NO ONE KNOWS ABOUT IT! Only one person has even ASKED if we have a registry!
(Our invites also clearly said, of course, that our wedding was on a Sunday, but still 2 people booked travel thinking it was a Saturday. So I don’t have much faith that people even read the invitation..)
Post # 3
@batbrain: 2 weeks out and nothing was bought off our registry. We ended up getting quite a few registry gifts, and almost all of them were bought within the 5 days prior.
Don’t stress too much about it. I imagine that 7-10 days before the wedding people will ask you where you are registered, and start buying from it (even though we had a website, and the registry information there, friends still texted or emailed asking for the info).
Personally, i was glad people waited. By the time they started purchasing from it I was too busy to registry stalk, so it was quite the surprise come our post-wedding brunch.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I got nothing off my registry, it was such a hectic wedding that im people just couldnt be bothered to keep up with it. We did get a lot of cards and money though and we were really grateful for that and understood.
Post # 5
We were planning a bigger wedding but wound up eloping, but people knew we had a registry if they wanted to buy us something that was leftover from the “real” wedding. No one bought anything off of it, hahaa. I think people just like feeling like they’re giving you a more personal/thoughtful gift. <shrug>
Post # 6
no one looked at my wedding website. every asked me where i was registered. my MOH put the 2 stores i was registered at on the shower invite and yet people still asked.
the best way to let people know where you are registered is by word of mouth. tell your mother to spread the word to relatives, tell his mother, tell your MOH, etc.
Post # 7
@batbrain: I was’t registered, but no one looked at my wedding website. Everyone that wanted to know asked my mom if I was registered rather than visiting the website.
Most people will more than likely give you money (so then you can buy your registry items if you so choose) or they more than likely will shop even closer to the wedding. I know I am one of those people that doesn’t get a gift or card until the week of (oops).
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
Oh my gosh, I could have written every word you said, lol!
And we have the same wedding date. We also put a link to our wedding website in our invitations, and everyone HAD to go there to RSVP anyway! I’ve had a few people ask about the registry (and ask me to add more items… we dont’ have a large registry because we don’t want a bunch of junk we don’t need and we already have most things because we’ve been together for almost 9 years and we have a brand new house, and a toddler, we’re full equiped, lol) but so far, not a single item has been purchased. BTW, October 5th is in 17 days, unless your date next to your username is wrong?
Post # 9
Most people asked me or a BP member.
For my bridal shower, the things that were purchased off registry were done the DAY OF the shower. I wouldn’t worry this far out. People tend to do that kind of stuff last minute.
Post # 10
If you haven’t had a shower, it’s not unusual to have nothing purchased off the registry at this point. Although I’ll say, most of the registry stuff for me was purchased at the shower — the wedding gifts were basically cash and assorted weird stuff that the gift givers chose themselves.
Post # 11
I was actually the opposite. I was one of those people that – *gasp* – put our registry info on our invite. Not directly on the invitation, but on the “reception and other info” card with the invite. This is pretty common in my area. I’d say about 75% of the weddings I’ve been to had registry info with the invites.
I totally stalked our registries, and people started buying things within a few days of mailing out the invites. By 3-4 weeks out, we had to start adding things because almost everything was purchased. About a week before the wedding it was all purchased but we didn’t want to add random stuff that we didn’t want. We got plenty of cash and gift cards as well.
Post # 12
@batbrain: my FSIL said the same thing, she looked at it like 4days before hand and only 1 thing was purchased…but she got EVERYTHING from her registry…she had 75 people show up OMG that took forever for her to open and talk and thank EVERYONE…. everyone seams to wait till last minute…. I was reading other boards and they say dont put it on yuor wedding invits but its ok in the shower invite…and your mom, aunt, MOH should spread the word oh “how awesome and how much fun you had with your wedding registry….you should check it out”…Im lucky i guess this is my mom “HEY did you look at Andys registry…you beeter look at it…” SMH…thank GOD im not aroud when she does that! ha good luck and hope you get some good stuff!!!
Post # 13
Our big white wedding in June. We got nada off our registry.
It wasn’t too big of a deal, considering they were just small “Well if you’re gonna…” type gifts. We already had everything we wanted or needed.
No shower, nothing was bought for the wedding, and the registry info was passed around via MIL & MOB.