Post # 1
We have a “guest book” page on our wedding website, and our videographers are going to tape video messages from guests during the reception- should we still have a guest book at our wedding? If we had one, it would be an actual book that people sign- either a photo book of our engagement pictures or just a plain book (none of those new “sign this fabric for our quilt” or “put your thumbprint on a tree” things- they’re cool, but they’re just not us).
I’m not opposed to having one, it’s just that it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal to me right now. If don’t have one, will we regreat it later? Do married people go back and read their wedding guest books?
Will guests care? Wil they think it’s overkill to have the website “guest book,” the video message option, AND a regular guest book? Would the more traditional guests be upset if we didn’t have one?
Did anyone not have a guest book? If so, did any of your guests notice?
Post # 3
We had a guest book, and honestly, it is kind of a waste. We looked at it yesterday for the first time and we were like “this is it?!?!?” We also had a picture for people to sign bc my MIL made it and so we figured might as well. It is cute and all, but I will probably never hang it up bc it is just not really my style. I hope this helps.
Edit: I don’t think I really answered your post….since you are doing the video messages I would skip a guest book. No one will notice or care. A guest book IMO is a waste. It is literally a book with a couple pages of signatures.
Post # 4
I am going to have a cut out of our monogram either on really heavy weight paper, or just on normal cardstock mounted on wood. I am not into these display items either. We will probably mount ours on a coat rack or something ridiculous like that.
Anyway, the point is, no I don’t want to lug out a book to see people’s poorly written names and addresses. I know who is coming and should have pictures that will mean a lot more than a book. Plus, how many times have you seen your mom’s wedding guest book? Never! Seen the dress, the pictures, the freaking cake cutter… but no guest book. To me that answers your question as to whether married bees think it is necessary.
Also, can I offer my opinion on something? Ok, I will anyway. Please don’t have your videographer go to all the tables (have them off to the side with a background screen and let people know that messages are being recorded at “x”). Or if they do, have them (or the MC) let everyone know first that they will be coming around for a table-wide/coordinated message. Individual ones suck. I always feel put on the spot and awkward (and I am normally not a shy person). Even if it is just for a few seconds, do you really want to do that to the guests? It totally ruins all the good parts of the wedding for me and all I ever remember is the stupid message.
Post # 5
We didn’t have one, we had cards from everyone I’ve stuck into a pretty photo album. The guestbook thing reminds me too much of those guestbooks you sign at funerals so we by passed that whole thing.
Post # 6
I don’t think we are going to have one at all. No need. I know we’ll never go back and look through it.
Post # 7
@09bmlaw: Haha, don’t worry- we will not have the videographers putting people on the spot or bothering them while they are talking or eating. Our reception will be in a 12 acre museum, so there are lots of options for cool backgrounds that are far away enough from the music. At each guest’s seat, along with a menu and museum map, will be a card telling them that the videographers will be filming messages at X location from [start time] to [end time].
Post # 8
We didn’t have one, and I have never regretted it. To be totally honest, I kind of dread signing guest books at weddings because I feel pressure to say something profound. I’d rather get my thoughts out in a card, when I can think it over and am not also trying to socialize.
Post # 9
I had one, honestly, it ended up in the garbage after time.
Post # 10
We aren’t planning on having one. I honestly don’t think I would ever look at it again after the one time post-wedding. People give cards with their well wishes and we will have the photos, I don’t think the guest book is necessary.
Post # 11
I’m not doing one. No offense to anyone who is, but I think the whole thing is kinda pointless. When we were throwing around the idea of having one, I asked my mom how many times she’s actually looked at hers since marrying my dad nearly 30 years ago and she said she’d only pulled it out like 3 or 4 times…to me that’s pointless! We’re just having people sign a large matte around one of our engagement pics and I plan to hang it somewhere in our house so that we will actually see the sweet things that people had to say to us on our wedding day.
Post # 12
I was also thinking about the guest book and realised that it’s a waste of money. How often will you be going through it to see ? I mean with photos and all… no one really looks back at their guest book i don’t think.
So instead we will have rocks and people can sign them, then they will be kept in a decorative clear vase and be part of our home decor. I thought it’s a new fun way of having a rock solid marriage LOL
Post # 13
We won’t be having one. I don’t see the point in a “traditional” guest book, as all of the ones I’ve seen you write your name and your address…but if you got an invitation, the couple should have your address, so…what’s the point? I’m a fan of non traditional ones, like something the couple can hang in their home. I think we’re going to do question cards on each table.
Post # 14
We’re having a photobooth, so part of the included service is that they cut the strips in half, put them in a book, and people can sign next to them if they want. I like that idea.
IF we weren’t having the photobooth, I would definitely not have a guest book.
Post # 15
@stillme:+1! I’m so bad at coming up with something good at the spot. I always panic and end up putting down nothing more than my name.
Personally, I love guest books in lighthouses and mountain cabins – but that’s pretty much it. To have a wedding one feels like adding another item to our house that’ll collect dust. However, FI thought we should have one… So, we compromised and decided that we’ll have a “wine box”. The idea is that we’ll leave a bunch of small notes by a nice wood wine box, people write whatever they want on the notes and put them in the box. We’ll add our favourite bottle of bubbly and seal it all for our 1-year anniversary, when we’ll have the wine and read the notes.
Post # 16
I saw a practical idea of having a rolodex and having guests sign their contact info, and maybe wishes on the back of their card. Very functional, and you may actually use it!