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Every single woman on "Say Yes to the Dress" who says "yes" has that moment where she realizes this dress is THE ONE. Did anyone here not have that moment? Did you buy a dress you really liked, but not necessarily one you "OMG FELL IN LOVE WITH!!!111!!!"
I'm somewhat suspicious that I'm not going to be one of those brides who falls in love with a dress, and I don't want to get stuck in this endless cycle of visiting dress shops and trying on dozens and dozens of dresses. But I also don't want to settle for something, and then regret it. I've already tried on a bunch of dresses at three different shops, and while I found several that looked really good, I didn't get that "THE ONE" feeling from any of them. I'm going shopping again on the 21st, and I'm wondering - should I go for "good enough"? Or keep looking, even though I'm nervous about getting totally overwhelmed?
I never got "the feeling" when I was trying on dresses. I loved my dress and thought it was fantastic, but I never cried and felt really emotional about it. I think I'm someone who doesn't make decisions easily and I don't always have a love/hate feeling about things. I felt great in my dress and really loved it, but I just didn't experience the "OMG, this is my dress!!!" feeling. FWIW, one of the consultants told me something like "It's just like when you met your fiance--when you meet the right one, you'll know immediately", to which I replied, "well, I kewn him for 9 years before we even started dating, so..."
IMO, you can totally love your dress and make the right choice without experiencing that feeling you see on "Say Yes to the Dress".
I personally did not have a moment, but my mom and MOH did. However, I also really doubt my dress and worry constantly that I could have found better and that I settled for good enough just because I was caught up in the excitement of buying my dress. So I say, wait for "the Moment" or at least a really big wow. Because if you don;t you might regret it.
i definitely didn't cry when i found my dress.
ironically MY dress was the first wedding dress i'd ever tried on...
it was the dress that we compared every other dress to....
i tried on 10-15 other dresses after... but narrowed it down to a couple dresses with the help of my BM's... then a couple of weeks later, i tried IT on for the mom and mom-in-law and they both fell in love with it.
and we bought it. i spent a total of 2 hours dress shopping and im absolutely in LOVE with my dress. :)
I didn't really have a moment. I tried on a bunch of dresses, found two I liked, then went back two days later and realized that 1 of the 2 was really the one that had stuck with me. I love the dress, but it was something I cried and celebrated when I found "the one." I think this whole moment thing is a bit over-hyped, personally.
I had a bit of a reaction to seeing myself in a veil for the first time, but so far I haven't had a definite "this is it" reaction to any of the 15-ish dresses I've tried (even though I've liked a few of them quite a lot). If you think you're the type that probably won't fall totally in love on the spot, I think it helps to take a ton of pics so you can accurately remember them and maybe looking will help you solidify your decision. Also see what kind of reactions you get from family/friends... or you could do what I did and post a dress poll of your top few choices to see if that helps you gain clarity :)
I think I went for good enough and regret it quiet a bit. The dress I got is everything I could ask for but there is still this nagging feeling that I should have tried on this Maggie dress that I had my eyes on for quiet awhile but everyone read the descrition and gasped at what the cost could have been- I don't know how much it would have been to this day but I always blame it on the price to make myself feel a little better :)
The dress I got: everyone loved it and cried when I put it on. I did feel good in it and I was a little giddy when I saw pictures after we ordered it but there's still that part of me that regrets buying it. When I went for alterations, the lady oohed and ahhed and made comments on how expensive it was (I thought it was average) and a great maker.
You are 10 months out so I wouldn't make this trip on the 21st your "have to have your dress by" deadline.
What kind of dress are you looking for? I know I was very picky and although there are many beautiful dresses out there, I didn't find many that were me.
I didn't have that big emotional moment either. I hated 99% of dresses I saw in magazines and I hated pretty much everything I tried on. When I tried my dress on, I liked it. The price was right and the sample fit so I wouldn't have to order it. I love my dress but I certainly didn't get emotional over it.
I didn't exactly, considering I bought my dress on eBay...here's my story...but when it came in the mail, I tried it on to make sure it fit and decided to buck the trend and show FI (in my defense, I had gross hair/no make up, etc) and the look on his face did spark a "moment" for me! =)
I had a "moment", but it was not like the women I see on SYTTD. I found the dress in a picture online. Then I couldn't find any salon that had the sample to try on. So, I went to 2 stores and tried on dresses with my MOH. Every dress I tried on I just felt "meh" and it made me want to try on the one I saw online. Then, I called another salon and they had the sample but my MOH would not be able to go with me. My Mom went with me. When I had the dress on in the dressing room, I had a moment and I also felt relief because I didn't want to try on any more dresses. Then I came out of the dressing room and my Mother had the "meh" face. So, I tried on like 4 more dresses and I didnt like any of them. When I put my dress back on, I knew.
I still 2nd guessed my dress, because it's hard not to keep looking at dresses when you are on WB all the time, but I'm in love with my dress again. Now that it's in my closet, I have a hard time not trying it on again and again!
I love my dress, but definitely didn't have a "moment" when I put it on.
Then again, I never (and I mean never) thought about getting married when I was little or spent time thinking about weddings until I got engaged. There wasn't a picture of myself as a bride that I carried around in my head while shopping and, thus, no expectation to meet.
The dress I bought makes me feel gorgeous, and that's really all I need it to do.
While I really like my dress - I definately didn't have a moment either - I mean I thought 'whoa I look good in this' but I wasn't all like bells ringing and tears and rays of sunshine.
My sister who lives about 6 hours away and couldn't come ended up giving me a huge lecture over the phone about how its my wedding day and I should looooooooooooove my dress. I'm like it's a freaking dress. I love my husband, but a dress? Don't get me wrong, I like my dress, think I looked good in my dress, but love? I never understood the THE ONE feeling - that's reserved for my hubby.
Nope...no moment here. I think I look fabulous in the dress...don't get me wrong. But there were no tears of joy or even a sheen across the eyes...LOL. I just found a dress I looked great in and that was comfortable and suited for the type of wedding we are having. I guess I will have a moment when I see myself put together on my wedding day.
I didn't get the "feeling" when I was trying on dresses by myself or with one of my girlfriends. But when I took my mom dress shopping, she MADE me try on a dress that I totally didn't think I would like or look good in (she's good at this, half the clothes in my wardrobe are things she MADE me try on that I didn't think I would like!) So I tried the dress on and walked out of the dressing room and my mom, my sister, and my two other BM's with me all shut up and just stared. When I looked in the mirror, I knew it was the one! I think if I had just been by myself, I wouldn't have had that feeling, but because I was with other people, I knew it was the one because of their reactions, more than mine.
Also, I had/am having a short engagement and moved to a different state, so when I went the last time, it was pretty much with the idea that I was going to buy my dress that night, because it was probably the only time my mom could come with me to look. That might have had something to do with it. I suggest trying on every dress you like and once you buy, stop looking.
@pendola - I really like Maggie Sottero gowns. The two I've liked the most are Krisha Marie and Symphony, and I'm attempting to attach pictures of me in both - we'll see if it works. I also really like Sara, but haven't found a store that carries that dress. However, the store I'm going back to on the 21st is having a Maggie trunk show, so we'll see if it's there then. I like asymmetrical a-lines without a lot of beading up by the arms, as my skin is sensitive and I don't want a giant rash in my wedding photos :)
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I thought "the moment" was an overhyped creation of the WIC until I went through two dresses before I found *the* one. I had *the* moment, found my dress, number 3 and was very happily married in it. Nothing felt right until I had the dress right and once I had the dress, I really knew I was getting married. Even with two wedding dresses in the closet, it didn't really get to me until I found my dress.
I'm a very critical person. I feel like most people who have "the moment" aren't that critical. It seems like all those girls on Say Yes to the Dress only actually try on like 5 dresses and one of those is "The One." There is no way i could ever only try on 5 dresses. I have to know that I've looked at all of my options. I've tried on almost 100 dresses, and I keep on circling back to one, so that is the one I'm going to order tomorrow! So pretty much I used the process of elimination to pick my dress :)
My mom and my aunt and my sister all had the moment, but for me, it wasnt a moment like on SYTTD. I put it on and was like, "oh! I like this, this is my dress. Done and done." Everyone;s reactions are different, I knew Id never have the crying OH MY GOD this is my DRESS moment! Im not a warm squishy person, I didnt expect some fabric to change that :)
@Jacqi - OMG, I'm the same way! The women who try on three dresses and they're done - I just don't get it! If I'm spending WAY more on an article of clothing than I ever have before, I want to know that I've at least explored my options.
I had a hard decision between two gowns, but in the end i went with the simple less expensive gown and a beaded bolero jacket. I didnt cry or make a big "to do" about it. I just chose the dress i was comfortable in.
I kind of got the "this is the one" feeling after I tried on a dress that was clearly out of my price range. I'm not sure why I did that to myself. I didn't get that dress because of the cost, but it's always been on my mind ever since. The dress I wore, while I loved, I more breathed a sigh of relief when I found it because I knew it was my wedding dress. But perhaps not "the dream dress."
I say I kind of got that feeling with the dream dress I tried on because I didn't get emotional or weepy or anything. I just had this very, very happy feeling run through me and I knew that if money was no object, that would have been the dress.
Sigh. Oh well. I still felt amazing on my wedding day.
I think part of what ruined it for me was looking at wedding dresses with my friends and the lady helping us would squeal at everything and try to convince us that we shoudl be feeling a heaven sent feeling when they just weren't right for my friend at all. She ended up getting a dress at another shop that she really really liked and we all had a kind of awwwww moment.
But the squealing by that lady at random dresses that did not look good just really made it seem so fake, which I know it isn't always, but def think it left a bad mark on me. I came out of the shop thinking I'm never doing any of this wedding bullsh__, sell you a bunch of crap you don't even want and doesn't even look good. But then I kinda found where my niche was.
@redherring- yeah! the price totally has a lot to do with it I think. I'm not just going to slap down $1000 for the third dress I try on... haha. And honestly, price did have a factor in which dress I chose. Selecting a dress that was $200 cheaper than others I've tried on makes me love it that much more! Just make sure you can envision yourself walking down the aisle in the dress and wearing it for the reception, and you should be fine.
It's funny you say this, because I was just watching SYTTD the other day and Randy was saying although many brides have "the moment" there are still some that don't and never will. I didn't cry or go "THIS IS THE ONE" or anything like that when I got mine. I had scoped it out online and knew it was a style that fit my body type. I went to the store to try it on, I liked it, I said "yeah, I think I'm going to get it" and that was it. Don't stress out about it, just look for something you really like.
Ah you guys are great! I didn't have "the moment" either, I just found the dress that was exactly like what I pictured, pondered it for two months, then went back and put down the deposit. I tried on quite a few dresses, maybe 20 or so, but couldn't imagine trying on more. The more I tried on the more I dresses I liked "tied for first place", so I just decided to cut it off and pick one!
It's a bummer when the shows and stuff convince you should have a moment, but in general I'm not the type to get visibly emotional or excited and I was actually pretty sure going into it that there would be no "moment"! Lol though I was going on a drink between each store I visited, maybe a few more stores and I could've drunk myself into a moment ;)
I didn't have a moment either. I tried on a bunch of dresses, had one I liked alot. Went to a huge sale and found a different one for cheap, so I bought it. I'm happy with my purchase.
i think i'll have the one moment because i know EXACTLY what i want and what i want to look like. i just need the dress to fit into my vision and be the right price range... i don't want to go and look a million places because i'm too danged indecisive, if i let the thought oh wow that could be better seep in omg it would take FOREVER!
I am watching SYTTD right now and they say that some brides just aren't the type to fall in love with the dress..... I think you just need to find one that feels right for you!
i'm still in the process of making my decision, but i think i found the one yesterday...! i didn't have the "omg this is it, done and done" feeling immediately--i loved the dress, and i felt like it was stunning on me, but i tend to come to decisions more slowly. i went to 5 stores 5 days in a row (CRAZY, i know), and have probably tried on around 30 dresses by now, 5 of which i think are amazing. and i'm going back to the first store this weekend to see the first dress i loved again. but this dress yesterday really felt amazing, like a total show stopper. really the first time i felt like people would turn their heads when i walk down the street or something, it makes me feel gorgeous. so yeah, i'm pretty sure it's it, but in the moment i was feeling hung up on another dress i had just tried on, even though i wasn't sure it was as flattering. and i'm still not sure about the dress at the first shop, since i didn't have anything to compare it to...
I didn't have that moment at all, but like someone else said, I was never the girl that dreamt about wedding dresses and when I finally went shopping, the process was very overwhelming for me and I just wanted to get it over with. One thing I will say is that watching SYTTD can be dangerous - you see all those girls have their "moments" and you start to doubt and I did end up a 2 dress bride. After months of angst, I finally realized the first dress I bought is a great dress and I don't have to have that - this is it! - feeling. I feel beautiful in it and really that's all that matters.
Someone else, I don't remember who, once posted that when they went shopping, they tried to think of it as simply finding a really great dress for a really great party and I kind of liked that. I think it takes the pressure off of finding "the one."
I had tried on this Alfred Angelo. Thinking it was the best from the day and I looked pretty. Not necesarilly a WOW moment though. I came back a few months later planning to buy it. I asked to try on a few more gowns just to be sure. That is when I found my gown. The second I put it on it was perfect.
From my experience, wait until you have that moment. It is wonderful. Just be frank with what you want to the bridal consultants. If you have gone through round one of dress shopping and realize you hate taffeta and ballgowns, don't let her bring you a single taffeta gown. I said that I wanted the ruffled/layered skirt look out of lace, organza, or chiffon. (light fabric) She brought me 4 gowns of this look and that made it easy for me. They all looked beautiful but nothing compared to my gown.
I didn't have that moment when I tried on my dress. I knew I liked it, though. I thought I had it when I tried it on the second time, but I wasn't sure. I actually had it a few hours after I bought it!
I actually surprised myself and did have a moment. I tried on the dress I thought I loved first and it didn't look good, so I was disappointed. I tried on some more dresses that were ok, and my mom, grandma and aunt all teared up, but I thought they were being overly emotional. Then, I tried on my dress, and lo and behold, I cried, too! I was SHOCKED at my reaction. I don't think it's something that happens to everyone though, which is why I didn't expect myself to have a reaction in the first place.
I totally never had THE MOMENT. i loved nearly every single dress I had on (around 40 dresses). That was hard for me. I wanted them all! The dress I chose is the one I kept going back to which is how I decided on it. My mom had 'the moment' when i first put it on which sort of helped my decision a bit. I went through a phase of second guessing but went back to try it on and definitely loved it.
I think it's totally normal to just buy a dress that you love and feel good in without having a whole emotional moment with it.
When i was looking for a dress I actually started getting frustrated because I felt like I wasnt going to have that moment. There were some I liked but nothing i loved. Finding the perfect wedding dress was so important to me, and I didnt seem to find anything I absolutely was in love with. I had to look ALOT, but I finally had " this is the one" moment. I think if youre picky like me, its a matter of how searching to find the right one.
I never had "the moment" I love love love the dress I ended up getting but I'm just not the type of person to get over excited or emotional over an article of clothing. I ended up getting it at a small boutique but tried some on at Davids Bridal before and felt like the women there were trying to make me feel guilty because I didn't "light up" when I tried on any dress. I think it's just depends on your personality. Just because you don't have a "moment" doesn't mean you love your dress any less.
I didn't have "the moment" either. I tried on about 10 dresses by the time I got to mine, and decided that was the one I liked the best. I tried on a few more over the next few days, then went back, tried it on again, thought "man I look hot in this!" and bought it. Like KellyV, done and done. Let's move on.
@smitch - I had a really similar experience at all three shops I've tried. The consultants seemed ... not insulted, but sad (maybe) that I wasn't lighting up. To the point where I almost started feeling bad about my (lack of) reaction. Two of them did somewhat make it their mission to get a reaction out of me, which was cute. But I just don't know if I'm going to be that bride who bursts into tears over a dress.
I definitly did not cry over the dress. I just felt that it was the right dress and nothing else would be more perfect. I dont think everyones moment is the same. I think the only thing people mean is when you put on the right dress you will just know. It will just feel right and you will totally see yourself getting married in that dress.
Does it count if you had "the moment" but it didn't involve crying? I knew fo sure, and I was just really happy and smiley - my mom cried though :)
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