did anyone not include rsvp cards?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think people might wonder how they are supposed to RSVP. We had a website so we didn’t have inserts. However the website was listed right there on the invite and it said “RSVP via website”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We had an email and a phone number listed on the invitation instead of rsvp cards.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

We are also doing RSVP by website so our invitation has a line towards the bottom that says: “RSVP and details at” website address.  You could also have it say RSVP by DATE at PHONE NUMBER or EMAIL ADDRESS.  Make sure to add this info for just in case they forget how to RSVP without an RSVP card.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We did not have reply cards either, and had about 50 people at our wedding.  We gave them an e-mail address, phone number, or Facebook options for RSVPs.  We didn’t have too many problems.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

A friend of mine didn’t have RSVPs for her wedding. She invited about 100 people and made sure there was enough food for everyone. Some people called to tell her they weren’t going to make it but no one had to by a certain date. It worked out for her.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

R.s.v.p. cards are common for weddings, but are not used at most other formal occasions and are not considered rigourously “proper”, even for weddings. An amazingly high proportion of otherwise etiquette-unaware people either know — or manage to google the subject and find out — that the proper way to respond to a formal invitation received by mail is with a hand-written note on your own stationery. If in addition, you have a phone number and an email or website address, you will have covered all bases.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Penelopeee:  We are doing online RSVPs, and we’ll put our phone number on the invites and website as well.  All of our older guests are extremely tech-savvy and would not be intimidated by a website.  Our younger guests would prefer it.  I lose everything, so it’s better for me.

It just seems like a waste of postage and printing for our particular guest list.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I, also, did not do return cards.  We put an insert in the invitation (pocket folds) that said to RSVP please visit our wedding website, http://www….com.  All other details including accommodations and registry information can also be found on this site.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I’m adding RSVP cards. Not everyone in my family has a computer (older folks)  I think they’d get really confused on what to do if I didn’t include rsvp cards.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I didn’t use RSVP cards. We added some small text at the bottom that included an email address and a phone number to RSVP to. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

We included a phone number and email address with our invites for guests to RSVP – worked out perfectly and we had 90 guests. 

To reduce confusion we also included an ‘RSVP by’ date and a line that said ‘__ seats have been reserved in your name’.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m using our wedding site with wedding wire for our online rsvp. I will include a note with website in our invitations. I’m only inviting 70 guests and the website makes it easy to use from a desk top or mobile to rsvp. Like pp mentioned I’m just making sure to have enough food and drinks and everything should be ok.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@rickhurst35:  What those of us without computer literacy would do is write a hand-written note and send it to the return address shown on your envelope. Some of us may not have developed computer skills to match your generation, but we have put-a-stamp-on-it-and-walk-to-the-mailbox skills that were tried and tested in an era when the internet didn’t exist.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Penelopeee:  You could put your phone number or an email on there so they can RSVP. We have a wedding website and are asking guests to RSVP via that so we can just skip the cards altogether.

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