Post # 1
Let me preface this by saying that I don’t think anyone HAS to give us ANYTHING. I would be somewhat surprised if certain people didn’t just because in my family everyone is pretty giving, but hey, that’s their choice and we’re not just doing a gift grab here!
That being said, on the one hand, if people are going to get us gift gifts, not cash/giftcards, I want them to get something we’ll actually use. And us being 20 & 21, my mom says a lot of people will want to give us an actual gift rather than cash/gift card because we’re young so they’ll figure we need a lot of stuff (we need/want a few things) But on the other hand, we could really use some cash…so rather than asking for cash (bad etiquette), I was thinking that if I just didn’t register, maybe people would just figure to give cash? Did anyone else do this? How did it turn out?
Post # 3
The people who want to give you a physical gift (not cash) will still get you a physical gift, so just be prepared to end up with random things that you may not want, lots of decorative items such as frames and crystal bowls, or duplicates (four toasters, anyone?) of useful things. It might be more helpful to you to have a small registry filled with useful things that you know you could need (comfy sheets, towels, pots, pans, etc.)
Post # 4
LOL I was hoping they’d just give up and give cash, that’s what I usually do 😛
The other thing I didn’t mention is that we already have lived together for about a year and a half (officially) and everyone knows this. Thanks for the reply, we’ll look into it.l
Post # 5
We didn’t register, mostly because we wanted to discourage people from giving us anything. We told our parents that, if anyone asked, they should encourage gifts to two charities we picked out. Still, we got a decent number of physical gifts, and it’s true that some of them were kind of bizarre – which we could have avoided by registering.
I think, though, that this kind of thing is going to vary hugely by location/culture. If cash gifts are common where you’re from, then your strategy might work better.
Post # 6
IDK, I almost feel more guilty about registering and asking for certain things… Then again it’s not like people HAVE to buy what’s on the registry. Only a few of my friends having gone through the whole wedding thing, it’s so foreign to me!
Post # 7
We did not register. We don’t need gifts! I now have more decorative bowls than I know what to do with…
Post # 8
We are not planning to register. My Fiance feels uncomfortable with people buying us gifts, so we’re not registering. I”ve heard that we should be prepared to get weird gifts anyway, but I would say it’s more likely that we won’t get anything before the wedding, and then get cash at the wedding, since I’ve never heard of people bringing gifts to the wedding in my area. If you do need some things, I would register for those few things so people at least have the option. I wish we could register–I want a bridal shower!
Post # 9
i would create a registry of some kind. in the beginning we didn’t have one and got some really odd gifts. (everyone warned me about this) so we’ve done a small registry at macys (we couldn’t take it very long, got overwhelmed). and we’re doing the rest with depositagift. it’s a cash gift registry. we’re registering for parts of our honeymoon, and for big items for our home that people can contribute towards. so far it’s working out well!
Post # 10
We moved in together 2 years ago and everyone was so generous then. We have EVERYTHING we need (kitchen especially) and so we did not register.
We got crap from a few relatives (ok, mainly ONE who is a bitch) but most people are understanding. A few ppl have given us gifts at our pre-wedding parties that we didn’t register for but we are grateful for their kind thoughtfulness. I also would have felt guilty registering for things I already ahve or things I don’t need!
We DID register (just on our wedding website, with instrcutions to email a Bridesmaid or Best Man if they were purchasing) for a dyson vacuum. We also have a registry for our honeymoon (but it has barely been used) and registered for our photog’s gift cards (got about 4 for $50 each, but we took it down now as it’s paid off.)
Non-traditional things like that are really good ideas.
Post # 11
Wow I had no idea there were this many options!
I have only rec’d one gift for the wedding so far, toasting flutes. And I don’t think I”m having a shower, and we didn’t have an engagement party, so I think we’ll probably just do a short registry then! Thanks for all the tips!