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i did and it still bothers me! i always like to have meaning in my dates, celebrate anniversaries and such. and i always wanted to pick a wedding date that meant something, but i wasn't able to and it still bothers me. i look at my date, the day before my fathers birthday which i don;t like because i wanted the date to be about US. and i am just like, what is this boring number, 19? it means nothing. i am slowly getting attached to it. but for so long i hated even saying it. anyone else ever feel like this and got over it? (or not).
@PurpleUnicorn: so ours is the 16th and its on a monday night! talk about different! it was purely because everyone, including us, has to travel to get there and we know that we are staying several extra days. besides the HUGE price break on the venue rental!
Ours is based on logistics as well. We chose a Sunday for monetary reasons/we would rather the day be more about us than the party which we think Sundays do.. and because FI is from Australia, we had to do it during a Uni break since his friends all are in college and his mom works for one, and we had to choose a date within 90 days of when we plan to move back to the US for visa reasons.. it doesn't bother me though, I think June 26th sounds nice :)
@kingytobe: June 26 does sound nice! i think that is what bothers me, i dont like the sound of April 19th. i would like April 17 because August 17 is our dating anniversary. and i would have like April 5 or 15 because its a round number. but i guess my problem is with 19! oh well. it IS starting to grow on me, but will take more time i think.
I completely know what you mean! Our venue only had November dates available. I had my heart set on Oct 2nd. Me and FH love October because we get to watch horror movies and carve pumpkins and everything smells like fall. I think November is going to be too cold. My brother wont be able to attend either because he is being deployed at the end of October.
Still upset about it but there's not too much that can be done now. The area we're having the wedding in doesn't have very many venues in our price range.
yep. it doesn't bother me. it was when the venue had an opening and that was good enough for us.
@SBourgeous: i understand. i had to factor in price AND weather. we didnt want to go when it was TOO hot, well FI didn;t and i want him to be happy and comfortable on our wedding day - so that eliminated the summer. and going to Jamaica before mid-April would have put us in February/spring break, way too expensive. then we chose Tuesday so we would be there for a couple of days before the wedding to get everything organized.
now that i started this thread i am realizing that ON and AFTER April 19, that day WILL be special, because we will have said our vows to each other and got married! silly me. how else did August 17 become special - because that was our first date! but we didn't chose it based on the number, it was the first saturday coming up when FI asked me out!
Hmm I will answer yes! Heres the deal, our ORIGINAL justice of the Peace ceremony was June 23, I kinda like that date, although we didn't have too much of a choice in the dates since he is a member of the US MILITARY and we needed to go ahead and seal the deal before he was sent for deployment. We always planned to have a REAL wedding, so after him being deployed for 2 years and dealing with other outings due to his career, 5 years later we are getting married. We wanted a date close to our original, but also needed a date that fell on a weekend due to our families or one family traveling and we also needed a date in the summer time, over my husbands 3 week break of classes. We wanted June 25 but it was overpriced since it was the ASPEN food and wine festival, so we had to go with the 18. I am not sure what we will say is our anniversary date yet, but I know its going to get confusing, even though we tried not to make it confusing!
Yep, ours was completely based on logistics.
My husband works 4 on, 4 off and leave is never approved until the last minute. So we narrowed it down to weekends in the year that he would be on regular days off.
Then there was a leave restriction during the Olympics and G20 summt, so February and June were ruled out.
DH's family is full of teachers, so his parents asked us for a summer wedding, which left two possible weekends in July.
We contacted the venue we liked, and one of them was available.
Happy July 9th!
We chose ours basically due to the fact that it landed over my spring break, was before when my finals prep would kick in, and wouldn't interfere with studying for the bar. We'd really looked at fall, I would have loved an October wedding or 9.10.11, but everything was booking up already. Plus, a fall wedding would have created winter commute of 75 miles one way for me or living separately while married, neither of which we found appealing. So March it is...not so romantic, but I just remind myself that when we're celebrating our anniversary we can leave the Midwest tundra and go somewhere warm :-)
Ours is purely logistics... we don't even have a rock solid set date because of this reason! I don't know when it will be because the Marines are so iffy LOL and I am still kind of upset because I wanted it to mean something as well...
We sort of did. We got engaged on August 15, 2010. I'm in my second year of law school, so I really didn't want to have the wedding during the school year. So that meant either summer 2011 or after May 2012. It probably wouldn't have been possible in 2012 until August or later, since I will be studying for and taking the bar exam in summer 2012. So summer 2011 it is. But since it was already a little late to start planning for next summer, we already had a few friends & relatives with weddings planned and many of the wedding times at the church were already booked. During my first phone conversation with the priest he had me tell him what date I wanted... and all the ones I suggested were already booked for the 2pm ceremonies. Luckily he mentioned they also do 11am ceremonies, so I went through a list of dates again. June 4 it is. FI had been certain I would want August 2011 since our 9 year dating anniversary will be August 31, 2011... but honestly, I wanted an earlier date and the only date in August that would have worked with my school schedule would have been the 13th (kind of cool since the dating anniversary is the 31st) but then I would have had to go straight back to school right after the honeymoon. I didn't have my heart set on any particular date so I'm really happy with it, even though the date didn't have any previous significance. I kind of like how short and sweet it sounds. =)
I am picking my date by price! I don't care if I have a Tuesday wedding. I want a certain feel to my wedding and vendors are cheaper if you don't have a weekend wedding! I can have a FABULOUS wedding for WAYYYY less if I choose a non-weekend day.
We had an incredibly difficult time coming up with a date!
With all that, we basically had to have the wedding on a Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday in the first half of October.
Ours was based on logistics and availability as well. We really wanted to get married in October because we had always imagined ourseleves getting married then but all of October and all of September were booked and we werent going to wait a whole extra year. There were only 2 dates available in August - the 14th and the 21st. One of my closest cousins couldn't make it on the 14th so it is the 21st. It is somewhat cool because January 21 will be our 5 year anniversary (and 5 month-aversary) so I guess 21 does have *some* significance (its a stretch). I think over time you will just become attached to that date - especially once you actually have the wedding and are married because that day will become special!
Yep, and I don't really care about the date.
I picked dates that were open and convienient.
As far as the date "having meaning", it will have meaning after the wedding!
@abbyful: yes exactly:
As far as the date "having meaning", it will have meaning after the wedding!
I did! we got engaged in July and knew we didnt want a long engagement. My brother (who is 10 months younger than me and one of my best friends) is in the marine corps. He had orders to deploy to afghanistan and they kept switching dates around. When they finally decided on late february FI and I picked the farthest date out without compromising my brothers attendance at our wedding. He leaves 1 week after our wedding day.
Im ok with the date now but at first i was a little put off - i really wanted to have a spring wedding, april or may. I also HATE HATE HATE the fact that we are getting married valentines weekend - so cliche -it was just the farthest date out with my brother still being in the states.
I had originally wanted our wedding date to be between both of our birthdays (we are only a couple weeks apart) but that was the high season for travel. Then I wanted it on a monthiversary of our first date, but my SIL was in school still and could only travel at a certain time, so we made our date during that time. :) In the end I'm happy with 10-15-10 as a wedding date to remember, but I was a bit bummed at first.
We picked our date based on logistics, the only thing I cared about was keeping it in April/May. I actually don't understand when brides get obsessed with the perfect date and then complain it falls on like a tuesday this year so they HAVE to push the wedding back to next year.
Yup - we had certain months we preferred, and besides knowing a few dates were out because of birthdays/holidays, we were pretty open as to the date.
@Atalanta: I agree totally..."it will have meaning after the wedding!"
we did too. we needed something over the summer (lots of teachers in my family plus fi is in school) and our date is the first summer sunday allowed by the jewish calendar.
Mine was purely logistical too. I didn't want to take too many days off for the wedding so I booked it over a long-weekend. Think of it this way.... April 19th has no meaning yet. But when you are married on that day, you will make it meaningful. The day you pick does not need to start with a meaning. That way it will get divided between THAT meaning and your wedding. 19th is free and clear for nothing else but your wedding. :O)
We picked our date solely on availability but I’ve never been upset about it. The only date that really has significance for us as a couple is May 29th because that’s our dating anniversary but considering we wanted a fall wedding, that wouldn’t really work. When we went to our venue we had a few dates in mind but we weren’t really attached to any of them. We ended up booking October 7th because its peak fall foliage. The other options we were given were either in September (when the leaves wouldn’t be as vibrant) or late October (when the leaves are starting to die and the weather may be crappier). Our wedding date is 2 days before my FMIL’s 50th birthday but the day is still 100% about us (even though we will have a small cake for her at our reception).
June 26th is my birthday and I've always thought it has a nice ring to it too!
We picked ours because August is a slow month for us with not many obligations, and many people are no longer on vacation since school is about to start up again, so we knew most of our guests would be available for the wedding. I chose the 20th because I like even numbers and the chapel was open that day. So pretty much it was chosen for convenience and for the fact that the other available week it was open was the 13th and I'm too superstitious for that.
We made a list and each took turns crossing out a month until we ended up with September, then chose a date from there.
Then we ended up changing it because my grandpa got sick and I wanted him there, so we picked the day that worked best. Now he isn't coming to the wedding anyway, but I am glad we moved it up.
I always wanted a fall wedding, and I was so excited to see that September had a Saturday on the 24 (my favorite number since first grade). Unfortunately, our venue was booked. We're 9-10-11, which is cool I guess, but I still wish it could have been the 24th.
I did refuse to have it on an odd-numbered day because I really like even numbers :).
Ours was mainly logistics but the more I've thought about it the more I like our date. I've always liked May, both the month and the sound of it.
And having it on Memorial Day weekend means we'll always have a 3 day weekend to celebrate in years to come.
The number 28 doesn't mean anything to me, but I'd almost rather have a number that we can give meaning to rather than one that already had something associated with it.
I wanted 9/24 because that was our dating anniversary but no facility (within my price range) was available. So we settled on 9/10.
But it still works because the date reads as 9-10-11 and that is still kind of cool.
I tried really hard to pick a date with some kind of signifigance. But not in a special meaning kind of way, but more... I wanted a date that had good number play. (Yea, I'm weird like that). But it totally didn't work out. I ended up just going by what the venue I loved had open and what was 'allowed' by asian superstitions for non-bad luck days.
yes. we chose the date the was far enough away from our friends' wedding, available, and had the date with the full moon (we had two weeks to choose from in that month). Neither of us felt the need to pick a cetain date, so I also consulted the person I wanted to be our photograher to make sure when she was avialble before we chose our date as well. The decision was 100% made based on getting what we wanted and when, not having anything to do with the actual date.
I went with my date for practical reasons. First, I couldn't afford a Saturday evening wedding and I knew a Sunday or weekday would make it more difficult for out-of-town guests. My second reason was that it was one of the last Fridays available by the site we really wanted.
We chose our based on which day worked the best. It doesn't bother me at all. Just a chance to make another day special!
totally picked date based on availability. it's hard enough to find a good date that's not booked already without being picky about the specifics. I went in with a general spring time frame, with one or two weekends out b/c of my bro's med school grad. I would have preferred April but wound up in June, which honestly is probably nicer (April would have been cheaper and much further from my bff's July wedding)
I don't think you need to pick a "meaningful" date or a nice round number because once you are married, it's going to have so much meaning that I think you will wind up loving the number!
Yep. Our date means nothing. Until it comes, then it'll be our wedding anniversary and I think it'll mean a lot :)
Yup, it was totally a logistics thing for us. Our wedding overseas and while we gave a range of dates we were okay with (from late August to early October), the actual date was based on the venue's availability. It works for us, though, because it happened to be a Saturday, and it fell two days before my birthday so we combined it into a wedding/honeymoon/birthday extravaganza in Paris.
Totally logistics. I wanted a Sunday wedding because the venue's minimums were going to be about 4k cheaper. I could pick the Sunday of either Memorial Day, July 4th or Labor Day. Thankfully, most of my relatives are immigrants or first generation immigrants so they are not upset about coming to my wedding and not celebrating those holidays at home or their leisure. However, can someone please tell me how you can ask for price breaks from vendors for Sunday weddings? No one has offered me anything yet :(
Ours was based on availability only. My DH wanted to get married that year, he didn't want an engagement lasting longer than one year and the only Saturday evening wedding slots available at the venue we wanted were either Labor Day weekend or the weekend before Thanksgiving. I refused the weekend before Thanksgiving since that is the weekend my DH had gotten married to his first wife and by default that means we went with Labor Day weekend. It doesn't really bother me since in the end, we got married and now the date does have meaning.
We did. I wanted to get married in October, I wanted it on a Friday for an better price. Our date really means nothing to us, except after the wedding when it'll be our wedding anniversary!
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