Post # 1
i did and it still bothers me! i always like to have meaning in my dates, celebrate anniversaries and such. and i always wanted to pick a wedding date that meant something, but i wasn’t able to and it still bothers me. i look at my date, the day before my fathers birthday which i don;t like because i wanted the date to be about US. and i am just like, what is this boring number, 19? it means nothing. i am slowly getting attached to it. but for so long i hated even saying it. anyone else ever feel like this and got over it? (or not).
Post # 3
@dynamic_duo: so ours is the 16th and its on a monday night! talk about different! it was purely because everyone, including us, has to travel to get there and we know that we are staying several extra days. besides the HUGE price break on the venue rental!
Post # 4
Ours is based on logistics as well. We chose a Sunday for monetary reasons/we would rather the day be more about us than the party which we think Sundays do.. and because Fiance is from Australia, we had to do it during a Uni break since his friends all are in college and his mom works for one, and we had to choose a date within 90 days of when we plan to move back to the US for visa reasons.. it doesn’t bother me though, I think June 26th sounds nice 🙂
Post # 5
@kingytobe: June 26 does sound nice! i think that is what bothers me, i dont like the sound of April 19th. i would like April 17 because August 17 is our dating anniversary. and i would have like April 5 or 15 because its a round number. but i guess my problem is with 19! oh well. it IS starting to grow on me, but will take more time i think.
Post # 6
I completely know what you mean! Our venue only had November dates available. I had my heart set on Oct 2nd. Me and FH love October because we get to watch horror movies and carve pumpkins and everything smells like fall. I think November is going to be too cold. My brother wont be able to attend either because he is being deployed at the end of October.
Still upset about it but there’s not too much that can be done now. The area we’re having the wedding in doesn’t have very many venues in our price range.
Post # 7
yep. it doesn’t bother me. it was when the venue had an opening and that was good enough for us.
Post # 8
@SBourgeous: i understand. i had to factor in price AND weather. we didnt want to go when it was TOO hot, well Fiance didn;t and i want him to be happy and comfortable on our wedding day – so that eliminated the summer. and going to Jamaica before mid-April would have put us in February/spring break, way too expensive. then we chose Tuesday so we would be there for a couple of days before the wedding to get everything organized.
now that i started this thread i am realizing that ON and AFTER April 19, that day WILL be special, because we will have said our vows to each other and got married! silly me. how else did August 17 become special – because that was our first date! but we didn’t chose it based on the number, it was the first saturday coming up when Fiance asked me out!
Post # 9
Hmm I will answer yes! Heres the deal, our ORIGINAL justice of the Peace ceremony was June 23, I kinda like that date, although we didn’t have too much of a choice in the dates since he is a member of the US MILITARY and we needed to go ahead and seal the deal before he was sent for deployment. We always planned to have a REAL wedding, so after him being deployed for 2 years and dealing with other outings due to his career, 5 years later we are getting married. We wanted a date close to our original, but also needed a date that fell on a weekend due to our families or one family traveling and we also needed a date in the summer time, over my husbands 3 week break of classes. We wanted June 25 but it was overpriced since it was the ASPEN food and wine festival, so we had to go with the 18. I am not sure what we will say is our anniversary date yet, but I know its going to get confusing, even though we tried not to make it confusing!
Post # 10
Yep, ours was completely based on logistics.
My husband works 4 on, 4 off and leave is never approved until the last minute. So we narrowed it down to weekends in the year that he would be on regular days off.
Then there was a leave restriction during the Olympics and G20 summt, so February and June were ruled out.
DH’s family is full of teachers, so his parents asked us for a summer wedding, which left two possible weekends in July.
We contacted the venue we liked, and one of them was available.
Happy July 9th!
Post # 11
We chose ours basically due to the fact that it landed over my spring break, was before when my finals prep would kick in, and wouldn’t interfere with studying for the bar. We’d really looked at fall, I would have loved an October wedding or 9.10.11, but everything was booking up already. Plus, a fall wedding would have created winter commute of 75 miles one way for me or living separately while married, neither of which we found appealing. So March it is…not so romantic, but I just remind myself that when we’re celebrating our anniversary we can leave the Midwest tundra and go somewhere warm 🙂
Post # 12
Ours is purely logistics… we don’t even have a rock solid set date because of this reason! I don’t know when it will be because the Marines are so iffy LOL and I am still kind of upset because I wanted it to mean something as well…
Post # 13
We sort of did. We got engaged on August 15, 2010. I’m in my second year of law school, so I really didn’t want to have the wedding during the school year. So that meant either summer 2011 or after May 2012. It probably wouldn’t have been possible in 2012 until August or later, since I will be studying for and taking the bar exam in summer 2012. So summer 2011 it is. But since it was already a little late to start planning for next summer, we already had a few friends & relatives with weddings planned and many of the wedding times at the church were already booked. During my first phone conversation with the priest he had me tell him what date I wanted… and all the ones I suggested were already booked for the 2pm ceremonies. Luckily he mentioned they also do 11am ceremonies, so I went through a list of dates again. June 4 it is. FI had been certain I would want August 2011 since our 9 year dating anniversary will be August 31, 2011… but honestly, I wanted an earlier date and the only date in August that would have worked with my school schedule would have been the 13th (kind of cool since the dating anniversary is the 31st) but then I would have had to go straight back to school right after the honeymoon. I didn’t have my heart set on any particular date so I’m really happy with it, even though the date didn’t have any previous significance. I kind of like how short and sweet it sounds. =)
Post # 14
I am picking my date by price! I don’t care if I have a Tuesday wedding. I want a certain feel to my wedding and vendors are cheaper if you don’t have a weekend wedding! I can have a FABULOUS wedding for WAYYYY less if I choose a non-weekend day.
Post # 15
We had an incredibly difficult time coming up with a date!
- As a same-sex couple, we had to have the wedding in Massachusetts, even though we live in the DC area.
- We wanted to have it in the fall, because we figured that was the most beautiful time in Massachusetts.
- Massachusetts has a three-day waiting period for a marriage license. Since we didn’t want to have to spend three days there before our wedding, we had to get permission of a court to waive the waiting period. Both the court and the marriage license office are only open weekdays, and we were told we needed to allow a full business day to get the waiver and the marriage license.
- Because we were having a Jewish wedding, we could not have it on Friday evening, or Saturday before sundown.
- We couldn’t have the wedding in September due to the Jewish high holy days.
- Our at-home reception venue was having a big event at the end of October, so we couldn’t have our wedding in the last half of October or the first half of November.
With all that, we basically had to have the wedding on a Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday in the first half of October.
Post # 16
Ours was based on logistics and availability as well. We really wanted to get married in October because we had always imagined ourseleves getting married then but all of October and all of September were booked and we werent going to wait a whole extra year. There were only 2 dates available in August – the 14th and the 21st. One of my closest cousins couldn’t make it on the 14th so it is the 21st. It is somewhat cool because January 21 will be our 5 year anniversary (and 5 month-aversary) so I guess 21 does have *some* significance (its a stretch). I think over time you will just become attached to that date – especially once you actually have the wedding and are married because that day will become special!