Post # 1
Hopefully this doesn’t sound crass – did people give any of the married bees gifts after the wedding? We only received 8 wedding gifts (out of over 100 guests), and while I know they certainly aren’t required, I have to admit to being a big bummed. And now that the wedding is over, I really want to go buy the things we registered for and didn’t receive, though if it’s common for people to buy things after the wedding perhaps we should wait. I know the economy is bad and am not offended if we don’t receive gifts, I just have to admit I’d hoped for more!
Post # 3
I’m not married yet but I think that is really statistically low. And I would be bummed too. I wonder if there was a shipping or address error?
Post # 4
We received a few after the wedding but not many.
Post # 5
If there’s things you NEED, I say get those. However, if you didn’t get things from your registry, a TON of stores will give you 10% or 20% off all items you registered for that you didn’t get. So keep that in mind :).
One of my roomies moved out when she got married & her mail still came to my house. She received a few cards & a box but that’s it. I’m not sure if she got anything at her new address. So I say give it a little while, like 2 weeks.
Post # 6
We got about a dozen late gifts–most within a month or two of the wedding. 8 gifts out of 100 seems like a low rate to me. Have you checked your registries to see if anything is in transit or if something was unexpectedly backordered? Or was your wedding really expensive for guests (like a destination wedding?) I would imagine that you’d get fewer gifts if it cost everyone a fortune to attend.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Only 8?? Wow. 🙁
I was only married 2-1/2 weeks ago, but since then we’ve received one more gift and one more has been purchased off our registry. We got gifts or checks from about 2/3 of people before/at the wedding, though.
Post # 8
I know I’m notoriously bad at getting people gifts in a timely manner when I’m a guest….though never if I’m buying off a registry, since I do assume people are going to be sorting that out sooner rather than later. (The ironic part is that it translates into people I don’t know as well getting very timely gifts, and people I know much better for whom I’m not buying off the registry getting much later gifts—something to work on!)
How long ago was your wedding? I’d wait it out a few months first and see, I think.
Post # 9
We only have one item purchased off the registry that we haven’t received so far. We did receive a bunch of gifts at the shower but they were mostly in the $20 – $40 range so I had kinda thought at least some of those people would bring a gift to the wedding. (And I swear I’m not counting, just bummed that I always see these overflowing tables of gifts at weddings and ours was so empty). Not to mention a lot of people were at the wedding who weren’t at the shower, so having that gift count for both wouldn’t really fit for them. I know the economy is still not the greatest, but I’m the type of person who spends at least $50 at a shower and still does a $100 range gift at weddings, so I was kind of hoping I’d get the same treatment from at least a few people (again, not expecting that from everyone and not trying to sound like a brat).
Post # 10
Oh – and the wedding was three weeks ago, and nothing has shown up since. And we’ve lived here for years, so it’s not a case of an address forwarding mix up or anything like that.
Post # 11
I think that you etiquette wise guests can send wedding gifts up to a year after the wedding. Maybe some people are waiting for the money to get you guys a nice gift (pay day). I know it’s disappointing and I don’t think you sound like a brat 🙂
Post # 12
That’s pretty odd. Are you sure there isn’t a stack of envelopes forgotten somewhere? Generally if your social circle gives gifts 8 gifts would be very startling. I’m sorry. I usually tell people to never ever ask about gifts but in this situation I’d ask your mom if she had any thought about why that happened. Just cuz my mom usually knows what’s going on with family.
Post # 13
Look at the bright side, less thank you cards to write! But, really, that is a little disappointing.
Post # 14
That does sound odd… that said, FI and I nearly always send a gift a week or so after the wedding (so it arrives around when they get back from they’re honeymoon), so maybe that’s the case for some? I’d definetly do a little casual digging though -you’d hate to find out people sent gifts and they ended up elsewhere…
Post # 15
we got one gift after the wedding (although more are coming in from announcements we sent out to people we didn’t invite).
Post # 16
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Wow, that is very odd! I would definitely ask your mom/FI’s mom if they know anything about it.