Did anyone regret having a small wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Id be interested in knowing this also.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I don’t know from personal experience as I haven’t gotten married yet, but when I hear about regrets regarding the size of the wedding, the regret is usually the person/couple wishing they had a smaller wedding. 

Sometimes, however, people who eloped have regrets. They wish they had family there with them, and they regret not having the cake and pictures, and maybe even the first dances. 

Basically, when people regret the size of their wedding, they usually wish they had a wedding about the size of yours. 

 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Absolutely no regrets. It was everything we wanted and more. If I had to do it again, I would make the same decision.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wonder that too.  We’re probably going to have about 20 people at ours, but as long as my immediate family is there, I don’t think I will regret it.  

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I only had 22 peope at my wedding ceremony. It was perfect and felt a lot more meaningful to us to be surrounded by our closest family who were so happy for us.  

However, I did have a fairly huge evening celebration later that same day. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I am on the fence with this as well. My family alone is over 20 and then my friends the list is endless, like pushing 300+!, I am ready to throw in the towel and just have immediate family. Thoughts? 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@albella1986:  I would opt for the smaller and more meaningful group. That way you won’t have as much stress from planning, you’ll be able to see and spend time with every guest, and you wil still have enough people for a lively celebration. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

my SIL.wanted a small wedding (about 50-70 ppl) and in the end bc it was a destination she only had like 40.. she was definitely a little sad.both.that so many ppl.didnt.come but that she.didnt invite many friends/family in an effort to all her FH to ‘know everyone’ (they live on opposite coast so he never met like 3/4 of the ppl in her life bx they only came ‘home’ once or so while dating)

 

i’m having a medium wedding (175ppl) and it makes me sad to think of the friends and family we cant invite- that being said I feel like day of I will be too.busy to notice/care

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

we had less than 40 people and it was fabulous. we have absolutely no regrets. we had time to talk to everyone and it wasn’t chaotic or stressful. it was also what we could afford so we came out of it with no wedding debt.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@albella1986:  Our cut-off was immediate family and friends we hang out with regularly (or would hang out with regularly if they lived in our state). Using that cut-off, our total invitation list was 35. These are the people who still come to the parties/events that we host, invite us to theirs, and are an integral part of our life 2 years later. They are the people we turn to when we want to celebrate the good in life and when we need support to get through the bad. I am so glad that we chose to share our day in a meaningful way with them instead of spreading ourselves thin with a larger guest list. I can’t tell you what is best for you, but maybe this perspective will help you examine your own situation. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

we only had 38 guests and it was wonderful; only our close family members and a few friends.  it was so nice because we could talk to everyone.  not to mention, we didn’t have to invite anyone out of obligation.  we sincerely wanted all of our guests there.

we both agree that it was perfect and wouldn’t have changed a thing.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

See…

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/questions-for-those-who-eloped-had-private-wedding-or-are-going-to#axzz2cj79HkE3

We’re planning a small wedding (for 14) in a vineyard in Sonoma, followed by wine tasting & then a catered family dinner in the evening. We’re hiring a holiday home that sleeps everyone for 4 days so our families (who live on opposite sides of the world) can meet & get to know each other. I can’t wait!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lovekiss: +1, we used the same criteria for our guest list and I don’t regret it for a second!

We ended up with 32 guests which was perfect for the place we had selected for the reception. Considering the amount of stress I experienced the days before the wedding I’m SO happy that we didn’t have more people attending, I would have worked myself to death otherwise. If I could change something with the wedding I would probably have eloped!  

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