Post # 1
My FI and I were looking over our guest list last night and feel pretty confident that we know who is and isn’t going to come since out of our 120 person guest list about 100 are family and all family is considered close family on both of our sides. Even some people we counted out because they are far away have let us know they bought plane tickets, can’t wait to attened, ect. (No we didnt send out invites yet but did do STDs) All of that being said I feel kind of silly assuming about 110 out of 120 people are going to come. (Although we of course wouldn’t hold it against anyone if they couldnt/simply didnt want to). I feel like even if Aunt Gertrude loves you dearly sometimes she just can’t or simply doesn’t. SO did anyone have any guests they thought would surely be there NOT come?
Post # 3
We had a few people (distant friends) that were surprised to see. We also had one cousin that we really didn’t WANT to invite, RSVP’d no and showed up anyway. Can’t win haha!
Post # 4
@excitedtobeMRSF: We had really good friends who had another wedding on the same day (in Texas, ours in Boston). They were really bummed to miss it and we thought they’d be a sure thing!
Post # 5
One of my best friends has already told me she can’t make it. She’s not in the bridal party so we are ok there. She has a big test for work that only happens once a year and it just happens to fall on our wedding day and is 8 hours from here 🙁
Post # 6
We had lots of verbal yesses and then all those ppl never sent their RSVP card back so they didn’t get a seat reserved. Since its in the Caribbean, I’m fairly certain they won’t show unannounced. Every single person we thought would go did not and those that we counted out were the ones who accepted early on.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@excitedtobeMRSF: LOTS of DH’s friends couldn’t make it due to work and one couldn’t because there first baby was due in a few weeks, that was a bummer. Then I had very close family friends turn down our invitation. We invited 125 and ended up with 100.
Secretly, every time we got a “no” in the mail I refigured our budget and did a little dance of JOY!
Post # 8
We had a friend who comes to every single event RSVP no. We actually had to drag it out of him after our RSVP due date and he responded, “You guys know that I go to Burning Man every year that weekend!” No, no we don’t.
Post # 9
Absolutely. Only a couple people that we really thought would come RSVPd “no”. But I had a cousin who planned on coming for a year and then had an emergency right before the wedding and had to cancel. And another couple couldn’t come because she threw out her back the day before the wedding. And that’s not counting the 6 people who RSVPd yes and then no-showed and I never heard from…
Post # 10
Yep, my own brother just RSVP’s “no” for our DW reception back home. But since he’ll come to the DW itself I can forgive him!
We’ve had mostly positive surprises- people that we thought wouldn’t show up. And the ones we thought were a sure bet we haven’t heard from yet!! We’ll see how the final count plays out.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
A few family members couldn’t make it due to health problems that cropped up at the last minute. Besides that, we were lucky. ALL ~150 or so of our close friends and family, who are scattered all over the country, all came to the middle of nowhere Wyoming for us 🙂
Post # 12
@kestane: We have had a few of those too! I am assuming the three people who we thought were sure nos that bought plane tickets plan on coming unless something comes up since airlines rarely let you get a refund on a ticket nowadays!
@JenGirl: Ah the dreaded no show…TERRIFYING! That is one of my biggest concerns and I have no idea why!
@vorpalette: hahahahaha Burning man oh man you mean you DIDNT plan your wedding day around when burning man was taking place?!
@mchitt329: My FI is the same way everytime I say “oh you know I don’t think so and so will probably make it” He is like well thats $100 we get to keep! haha
Post # 13
My first instinct was to be ticked, but that doesn’t really gain me anything and leaves me feeling crummy, so I just didn’t let it bother me. We had padded the numbers a bit with the buffet caterers so we didn’t overpay by too much.