(Closed) Did anyone say NO when asked

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

No, I’m pretty much hoping for a big deal proposal.  I feel like I’ve always envisioned it to be something grand and very romantic, a big gesture.  If he didn’t make it a big deal, I think I would be disappointed.  I would say yes, but I would just wonder why he didn’t want to make the effort.  Also, he said he wants to make it a big deal from the first time we started dating, so I would wonder what changed between then and now. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I requested it be semi-private, just us preferably, not in a crowded restaurant or something over the top. He proposed on a moonlit walk on the beach, there was no one else on the beach at that time (at sunset, when he was planning on doing it, there were people EVERYWHERE) it was perfect 🙂

Post # 6
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I know a guy who dated this girl for two years and he propsed. She said no. It was sad because he was so in love with her. Turned out she had been cheating on him most of their relationship. He’s married now to someone else though.

Personally, I think that people should not propose unless it’s been discussed before. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I said no the first two times he asked, on the grounds that I thought it was too soon in our relationship. But I said yes the third time, about three and a half months after we’d met. None of them were big elaborate proposals. They were all private, sweet, and spontaneous.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think you’re going to find many ladies that said no on a wedding planning website! 

I would’ve said yes even if the proposal was in public even though I told him I would prefer a quiet moment with just the two of us.  He proposed on the beach, there were other people around but no one paid us any mind!

Post # 9
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6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@FauxPas2012:  Whoops!  Totally misunderstood you originally.

I’m super curious to know why you’re asking? 

Post # 10
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94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I said no to my ex’s proposal. We stayed together for about another four months, but he really wanted to be married and I really didn’t. Plus he was kind of a d-bag…So yeah Tongue Out

I’ve also said no to my current SO’s proposals, but they don’t really count because they’re not serious ones. I’ll say yes when it’s a real proposal – we are waiting a while and enjoying being stable and happy after a tumultuous period.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Edelweiss:  Woah, he’d proposed three times within 3 and a half months of meeting you?!  That guy definitely knows what he wants Smile  Out of curiosity, how long were you engaged before you got married?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I said no to a proposal – I was 20, he was very sincere, his whole family was there, I was VERY SURPRISED, and this is why you talk about marriage beforehand. It had nothing to do with the style of proposal, it was very heartfelt, but I was NOT READY and did not feel that way about him. It was horrible.

Obviously this was like…12 years ago for me, and has nothing to do with my current relationship.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I said no the first 2 times FI asked me – the first was before our first date, and jokingly in a text message…the second was ON our first date, and I think he was kind of serious. The third time, a year and 10 months after we started dating, I finally said yes when he finally asked for real. 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

yes, i did..twice, i believe. I hated to hurt him but i knew he wasn’t the one..terribly of me to be with him that way, of course..alas for the life decisions at some point. Fortunatelly i got the chance to return to my inner-self path,  if you understand what i mean..

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