(Closed) Did anyone see that What Would You Do? episode…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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596 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry to hear you are going through this.  Is this something that has only started happening since you got engaged or has she always been critical?  Is she projecting because she hates her own wedding pictures, or she is afraid that if you don’t start to take care of your health now, you may end up like her when you are her age?  You also mention that this past year has been very busy for you so you haven’t had time to go to the gym as much – is she concerned that you are starting to become less active?  I’m borderline underweight but I try to be pretty diligent about going to the gym because I am at risk for diabetes due to genetics and I know all the other health risks associated with inactivity – so my doctor and my husband are always encouraging me to exercise but I know they are definitely not trying to tell me I’m fat!

NOT that any of this makes her attitude towards you okay, she is still being very hurtful.  I think you have dealt with this as maturely as you possibly can, all you can do is continue to tell her "that’s great, thanks for sharing again" and then change the subject.  You can also remind her that you can’t lose any weight or the dress won’t fit anymore! 

I’m sorry you are going through this.  Best of luck!  

Post # 4
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ugh! I know how you feel. I am by no means overweight but I am maybe 30 pounds heavier than I was in high school. My mom on the other hand is significantly overweight. She constantly makes small little remarks about something not fitting the way it used to on me or let’s me know it when it looks like I’ve gained weight but almost never mentions it when I have lost weight. I’ve never said anything back to her but lately I feel like the next time she says something I have to say something back.

In the end I think our mothers do not understand how hurtful it can be. I hope it all works out for you. Best of luck and have a beautiful wedding!

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