Post # 1
I know to expect some guests who RSVP to no call/no show, but did anyone have any guests go without sending an RSVP? I’m worried some people will not send it in because they think I should know they’re attending.
Post # 3
@cindeeeh: Well I haven’t had my wedding yet, but I’ll tell you after this weekend! FWIW, I called and made sure I got at least verbal responses from everyone I sent an invite to.
Post # 4
@cindeeeh: No, but i did have guests not respond who assumed I knew they were coming. I only knew bc i tracked them down after not receiving their response card.
Post # 5
@cindeeeh: Yes, I had people come without sending an RSVP, I can’t remember how many it was exactly but more than 5. I spent the entire photo session in between ceremony and reception stressing and on the phone with the caterer. Not cool!
Post # 6
@mrsmay07: That is *beyond* shitty. I cannot wrap my mind around some peoples entitlment issues. I’m really sorry that happened to you!
Post # 7
@mrsmay07: I’m really sorry to hear that. If anyone does this to me, I will set aside some Cheetos and water for them. They’re not getting dinner.
Post # 8
@mrsmay07: That’s awful! I agree with @cindeeeh… no chairs or dinner for such rude people! You are way nicer than us hehe. 🙂
Post # 9
I voted no, although going through the photobooth photos, there was a random girl in the pictures with family friends. She wasn’t there for dinner (I stopped by their table), but may have showed up later. A little random, but not really a problem. I’ve never asked them who she was… But I didn’t have to pay for her or anything, so no skin off my back!
Post # 10
@cindeeeh: My situation was a bit strange. I sent formal invitations and then my MIL issued informal verbal invitations. We had agreed on a family only wedding because she wanted to have one and she offered to pay and plan it but I made it clear that it should only be family only so we wouldn’t have to worry about inviting or not inviting friends. I knew that the nine other people would show up who were neighbors (or as she says, family of the heart – there was a big disagreement over it where I almost called off the wedding). One of the neighbor’s son (who is DH’s childhood friend and around our age) invited his girlfriend too (I knew he would!).
So officially I guess we had 10 people come without an RSVP but of those I knew who were going to come anyway, we had one extra. Oh well…
ETA: These people couldn’t hide because we only had a total of 43 guest including the 10 extra.
Post # 11
I did not, but when working at wedding events I have seen it first hand. Being way over count and running out of food. I had people who RSVPed they were coming and did not show up- only like 1 or 2 people. That is why I felt it was important to do a seating chart (even for my small 80 person wedding) for the reception…Opps you don’t have a seat because you did NOT RSVP.
Post # 12
I’m afraid of:
1. No RVSP but going anyway
2. Taking a guest
Post # 13
Yes I had 2 people that I didn’t include that came with someone I invited.. Luckily I had 2 no shows so they took their place.
Post # 14
i hope not i have about 30 people not accounted for. So we are thinking of allowing other family to attend. Bad idea? Also REALLY weird we have an rsvp from a man we dont know! Its from a batch my mom now says she misplaced the rsvps were numbered and do not add up to the family no one knows who he is! What should i do?
Post # 15
@Elizabeth_A: you definitely need to call/email/smoke signals contact anyone whose RSVP card you have not received. Please, please don’t just assume they aren’t coming, or you could end up in quite a jam on your wedding day!
Post # 16
@iarebridezilla: we have done all we can to try and contact them with no reply at yhis point ill have three empty tables