Post # 1
kinda cringe at the post from the motherOfTheGroom. This is nothing about the post itself (I actually feel bad for her) but as I was reading it I kept thinking, could this be my Mother-In-Law complaining about me? I know my wedding is over and done with but I just couldn’t help get this feeling that I could see my Mother-In-Law come on here and complain about me. It’s a bit scary.
Here’s the post. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/do-the-grooms-parents-get-a-guest-list
Post # 3
I actually would love it if my Future Mother-In-Law came on here for advice – I think the bees are so helpful with sticky situations, and if Future Mother-In-Law actually cared enough to get their opinions (and change her behavior accordingly), my wedding experience would be easier 🙂
Post # 4
ha ha ha I agree with you @girlwitharing….I would love for someone other than me to tell my fmil things such as “no, it’s not ok to print ‘cash or checks only’ on the bottom of our wedding invites” LOL.
Post # 5
I have to agree with GirlwithaRing too. Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t have daughters or any girls/women she is close to. She’s never helped someone pick out a prom dress, nonetheless plan a wedding. Awkwardness and confusion abounds in my interactions with her. I would certainly not mind (and would encourage) her to seek advice via the internet ;o)
Post # 6
Haha – I could totally see my Future Father-In-Law coming on to “vent” about me!! I was chatting with him last week about invitation stuff, and I don’t think he appreciated that he and I have different ideas about what they will look like. Fiance & I are casual people, and I want something with fun cartoon-y whimsical birds and bright cheery trees and flowers (ceremony & reception on a farm, doing a lovebird theme); Future Father-In-Law wants more traditional ivory carstock with olde english font requesting the honour of so & sos attendance. We’re serving corn on the cob at this thing – it’s NOT formal! We’re just on totally different pages at every turn. Of course, since Fiance & I are the ones paying, we’re the only opnions that matters (I keep trying to tell myself this…)
Post # 7
Actually I’d love it if my Future Mother-In-Law had an opinion about our wedding at all! And I’d love it if she would actually come to me and ask me questions. But yes, I wouldn’t want her to come on here either. I’m always a bit concerned that it could be my Future Mother-In-Law complaining about me and I would hope that she felt close enough to me to be able to ask me questions directly.
Post # 8
All really good points. I guess for me my Mother-In-Law, all she does is complain about me and if she really need some advice, it would how to deal with her DIL… me. Probably wouldn’t go too well for me.. because she has her side and I have my side.
I wish I still had a Mother-In-Law that still got along with me. She has burned so many bridges, I don’t even think an apology will help our relationship.
Post # 9
I don’t have problems with my Mother-In-Law, but seeing posts like that really gives you an idea of the flip side of things. I think a lot of posts on here show just the one side of an issue, and everyone is quick to jump on the bride’s side for Future Mother-In-Law issues, but that really brought home that decisions made by the bride and groom can really affect the MOB/MOG too!