- 2 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
So I may sound like a crazy person here, or it may be all the pre-wedding festivities currently going on for my cousin. Either way, I just had the most intriguing conversation with my boyfriend and really wanted to get the Hive’s input! And hey, if I’m completely off my rocker, please bring me back to earth!
In summary, SO and I went into our long-distance relationship with the intention of getting married one day, and that hasn’t changed after over a year and a half of dating. I know that doesn’t sound like a long time, but we’ve known each other since 2010 and were talking about relationships almost a year before we made it official. I think it’s safe to say I’m waiting.
Anyway, he was talking about needing to get a hold of his sister and visit her some point soon (“The sooner the better.”) because she has some of his things from when they sold their mom’s house. I’m going to be in her area next weekend for my cousin’s wedding, so I offered to try and meet up with her to pick up his things. He then got a little evasive and finally admitted that he needed to get something from her by himself. After a little bit of joking around about widgets and Holy Grails, he admitted that it was some sort of heirloom.
But here’s the weird part. He apparently knows that this mystery heirloom exists that he is due to inherit, but he doesn’t know what exactly this heirloom is. He says that his mom told him about it when he visited her this past week, but why wouldn’t she tell him what it is? At first he seemed pretty sure of himself and claimed he wasn’t going to give me any hints about this mystery object, but after the word “heirloom” was dropped, he was saying that he doesn’t know what it is yet, just that it’s an heirloom and he needs to get it from his sister.
I really, REALLY want to think that the mystery heirloom is some sort of heirloom ring and that he would want to re-set or tweak for an engagement ring. We’ve talked marriage, he’s been bringing up the thought of our honeymoon of his own accord, and he also mentioned tonight that he’s feeling good about his personal finances and is due for a promotion at work. In addition, he’s moving into a house soon so he’ll be living on the park where he works as a ranger and paying super cheap rent. All of these things seem like a good foundation to encourage a guy to propose, based on what I’ve read on the Bee and elsewhere, so I would like to think the proposal is on his mind.
So what do you think, Bees? Does my theory about the mystery heirloom hold any water? What other options could it be? And is it true that guys like to “get their ducks in a row,” so to speak, before popping the question? Thank you for your honest feedback!