(Closed) Did he ask your dad?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did he ask your dad (or your mom or other close relative)
    He did and I wanted him to : (135 votes)
    52 %
    He did and I did not care either way : (34 votes)
    13 %
    He did not and I wanted him to : (18 votes)
    7 %
    He did not and I did not care either way : (34 votes)
    13 %
    He did and I did not want him to : (6 votes)
    2 %
    He did not and I did not want him to : (27 votes)
    10 %
    Other - please explain : (8 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    158 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    He asked my parents, and yes it was very important to me–not that it would have stopped me if they’d said no.  I just think it shows a certain amount of respect.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6065 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    He did ask my dad and I was very pleased.

    My dad really really loves my FI and even though we are all modern people, and it’s not really necessary…I think it is respectful and sweet as a gesture.

    My FI told me later that my dad was crying on the phone…so cute. poor dad…i can’t imagine how he’ll be on the wedding day!

    Post # 5
    Member
    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    He did, and I loved it 🙂 He knew I wanted him to, and that my parents would REALLY like it. They wouldn’t have been upset if he didn’t, and wouldn’t have mentioned it to me… but I knew it would score him extra points. It also gave him a chance to bond a bit with my dad, just one-on-one, which never happens. So I really liked that.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I picked the last one, but if it had been an option I could have picked “He did not and I didn’t want him to.”  If he had asked my dad, it would have been a sign that he didn’t know me well enough to get married, ha!

    Post # 6
    Member
    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would say other, because I would have been pissed if he asked my Dad.  I can appreciate how others view it in a different light, but I feel like it’s our relationship, I’m 29 years old, and who I marry is my decision.  And I’m not that close with my Dad so it would seem kind of strange.  

    Post # 7
    Member
    5658 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My FI wanted to ask my dad, I didn’t really care. Turns out my dad told him months before he proposed that he thought the whole idea of someone asking him if they could marry me was silly, so in the end my FI did not ask him.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    He asked my Dad for his blessing. He took him out the day before he proposed. He already had the ring and the plans, it was basically just out of respect to get his blessing. I know that my Dad really appreciated it. He has 3 daughters and with all of us and my Mom he usually feels like he’s the last person to know anything so it meant a lot to him that FI cared enought to talk to him about it and he loved that he was “in on it” when no one else was!

    Post # 9
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I knew how important it was to my dad as I do come from a very traditional family and I am the only girl. DH knew this as well so he did ask my dad before he proposed.

    Post # 10
    Member
    921 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My FI asked my Dad. My brother-in-law asked my Father as well and sort of set the standard.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2512 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @Evie19: Exactly this!

    I know that my dad LOVES my FI more than he loves me LOL but it was still nice of him to ask him!

    Post # 12
    Member
    2703 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    He asked my brother/dad via phone (they were both out of state) and I completely wanted him to… <3 melts my heart when I think of my brother telling me the story after his proposal…

    Post # 13
    Member
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    He asked my dad the morning he proposed and I really wanted him to.

    It was more asking for his blessing then really asking permission. My dad would have never said no. My dad grew up a southern gentleman so it really meant a lot to him that my FI called him.

    Since it was so important to my dad, it was really important to me that FI asked. (I’ve always been daddy’s little girl). I am also the oldest of 2 girls so he still sees me as his “little girl” sometimes.

    Post # 14
    Member
    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My husband asked both of his parents and both of my parents for their blessings before proposing.  I thought it was sweet, although I didn’t really care one way or another. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    6065 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    @tranquility: It’s so sweet, right? 🙂

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