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My FI hasn't even met my parents yet! I met his, and we talked to them about getting married, and they're all for it. Unfortunately, my parents are super religious, and since neither he nor I are of the same religion as they are (and I haven't officially informed them that I don't want anything to do with the religion I was raised in), it's going to get a little sticky. He offered to ask my dad, but I told him that I would rather him not ask. I didn't want my parents to get the impression that I necessarily needed their permission...or blessing...because once they discover that we aren't going to raise their grandchildren in their faith, I highly doubt that I'm going to get either their permission or blessing. Sigh...we'll handle it though!

Yes, it was very sweet.  He dressed up in a suit and brought the ring over to show them.

My FI asked my stepdad one night when we were over for dinner. They were outside talking for a while alone, but my mom and I didn't think anything of it. My FI knew that if he asked my mom, she would never be able to keep it a secret. We are so close and talk everyday and she would be too excited to handle it!

He sure did! He called them to ask permission, and my parents were thrilled. I enjoy the tradition, and  I figured my FI would call.

 Funny thing is, when he called my parents I was in Switzerland visiting a friend. His plan was to propose someplace gorgeous in Switzerland. So, of course I said yes, and when I called home to tell them, they were excited. But slowly, as I made other phone calls to family....  I realized that everyone already knew =) My mom was SOOO excited that she told most of her family, and even put flowers in the church in "honor of our engagement"... all before he proposed!!  =) I love my mom!

My husband did ask, but over the phone since my parents live 2000 miles away.  I was impressed that he came out of his shell to do so!

I originally was okay with my FH not asking (because it made it a complete surprise to everyone, and you know, we're freaking adults), but now I kind of wished he at least did a heads up.  He mentioned that he had a very complicated plan to get to from London to Chicago and ask, then find a way to get into my work in DC and propose.  It was just too difficult to organize, so he nixed it.  Oh well, our parents had already met, everyone is happy, so no big deal. 

The Mr asked my dad if it would be okay if he proposed, now a bit of background of the Mr he is really shy and nervous about things. So my dad told him Of course it would be okay that it wouldnt make him any happier.

I think its the sweetest thing ever and I love tradition. I think that it is only proper to ask permission or to ask for the blessing of the parents.

I don't think it has anything to do with being 'adults'...there are plenty of 'adults' that make 5 yr. olds look like 60 yr. olds!

IMO, it has to do with tradition and RESPECT. As a girl/woman, if you have a good relationship with your parents, is the best way to start a marriage (In-law relationships). Plus your FI gains ++++ brownie points. 

My fi asked for my father's blessing in person and then called my mom (they're divorced) to tell her that he'd be proposing.  While it wasn't necessary, I'm glad he did because it made my dad feel special.  I'm really surprised my mom was able to keep it a secret for 4 weeks because we talk almost every day!

He didn't.  At first I was a little upset he didn't.  But he thought there was no need to... being we had been together for 7 years and they knew it was coming.  I had always thought he would, and I love hearing the stories of the guys talking with your fathers.  I think it's very respectful, even if it is unneccesary in this day and age.  Oh well, the FI had good reasoning that I agree with.

He asked for my dad's permission....and in turn, my dad blew the surprise!"

"It' my understanding that this young man is planning on asking you to marry him, and I just wanted you to know that I gave him my blessing."

Oops!