Post # 1
Did you let your BF buy your ring on your own without any guidelines whatsoever (you wanted to have something he picked for you, you wanted it to be a surprise).. If so were you happy with it?
I have showed links and pics to my bf of what I want as a guideline. (I liked Tacori settings and showed him an affordable tacori setting in order to put most of his budget towards the center stone. After telling him so much about what i want i kinda thought: Maybe i should back up and stop and let him do his job and surprise me. But I am deeply afraid that could come at an expensive cost (DISAPPOINTMENT) if I dont like what he ends up choosing.
Did your BF/FI pick you a ring ENTIRELY on his own without any Hints/Pics/You asking your girlfriend sister to tell him what you wanted, etc ?
Bees that had no say in the ring shape size color etc – were you happy with it or did you wish you had done it together?
I feel like if I dont let him to the most of it by himself I am killing the surprise factor of the moment and the romance of it as well. But I am a control freak and feel super scared when people try to decide styles for me. Im torn.
I hope he at least surprises me on the proposal! I’ve NEVER been surprised in my life because I’ve ALWAYS accidentally found out or got highly suspicious that I was about to be surprised.
I’m praying for a surprise and for a happy moment. I am so anxious that I will find out about it and will be frustrated, or that I will be surprised but wont have my hair/ make up done/ or that there wont be a photographer to register the moment (which i really want but I dont wanna be telling him everything he should do cuz its HIS Job to surprise me, if I tell him how he could surprise me it wouldnt be a surprise anymore duh. I fear that it wont be anything elaborated and exciting like the proposals we see online. (Some ppl have raised the bar up too high geez! lol)
Sometimes I almost feel like I just wanted to be in charge of it all. I’m a person who is always taking matters into my own hands. And this is killing meeeee Will he do a good job?!?!? LOL
Being a waiting bee is not easy….
Post # 3
@brazilian_american: mine completely designed the ring on his own, we never even looked at rings and he did pretty amazing if I do say so myself 🙂
Post # 4
@brazilian_american: although we had no photographer, he had my ring wrapped under the tree and gave it to me as an early Christmas gift in 2012, it was a complete surprise since I had no idea he had bought it. He kept it hidden in our apartment for 3 months and through all of my snooping I never found it
Post # 5
our entire ring conversation went like this – DH said “I always thought you’d like something antique”. Me – “yes I would”.
That was it. The rest he did totally on his own (and 9 months later). I had no idea he was looking or had the ring.
Post # 6
I guess I should mention – I ADORE it. Love it completely!!!
Post # 7
I’m not very picky, but I did know that I wanted white gold (or something else sliver colored). I made a point to talk about jewelry to FI a few times – pointing out how I don’t wear gold colored jewelry (“Oh, that’s a pretty necklace. Too bad I’d never wear it because it’s gold” and so on). I felt confident in his jewelry picking ability based on previous presents he’d given me. If I didn’t, I might have tried to have more conversations with him. For the record, I absolutely love my ring.
Obviously, I don’t know how you will feel, but here’s my two-cents about the proposal in the form of my gushy feelings: my proposal was the happiest night of my life so far – but it was far from picture perfect. I was in sweats. I was getting ready for bed (make up off, hair in a ponytail). There was no one around to take a picture and even the pictures FI took of me right after all came out blurry (his hand wasn’t steady from exictement and I was very bouncy). He hadn’t asked my parents’ permission (which was something I always kind of wanted, but hadn’t told him). Even with all of these things, it is still absolute perfection in my mind. As I started to type this, I almost stopped, worried that if I listed all the not-perfects that I would get sad/mad. But the feeling that is overcoming me as I type is just pure happiness – that the proposal was what felt right to him and came from his feelings, not what others expect. That makes it special to me.
All of that being said, if you really feel like not getting exactly what you want, ring or proposal, will upset you, I would talk to him. It will be a piece of jewelry that you wear for forever and a moment that you will look back on for forever. You don’t want bad feelings with either of those! Good Luck!
Post # 8
My FI picked my ring completely on his own (I didn’t even know that he had a ring!)
He had it custom made off etsy and I LOVE IT. It’s a conflict free diamond and the band is made from recycled materials. I couldn’t have picked a better ring myself. He even had them put in two topaz stones for my birthstone. He said that when he saw the final product, he just knew it was the perfect ring for me.
At the end of the day, I just love the effort he put into this. It took him months to have this ring made and I never mentioned anything about a custom ring! It was just so incredibly thoughtful and not only do I love it, but he loves it too 🙂 But I should say, the ring itself never really mattered to me all that much…as in, it wasn’t important to me that the ring had a diamond or had a specific cut, etc.
As for the proposal, honestly I think no matter how he does it, it will be the happiest moment of your life. Because (if it’s anything similiar to how I felt) all you will be thinking about is the fact that you’re engaged! I had zero makeup on when he proposed, I was wearing a touque, had my gumboots on, my nails weren’t done, but it didn’t matter at all! At all! My advice: try and not get too caught up in how elaborate the proposal is, but really try and focus on the bigger picture (and what really matters) that this man is asking you to spend his life with him 🙂 That’s just my advice though!
Post # 9
Mine surprised me. He designed it and did a killer job — it’s a three stone with side blue sapphires. I love that he did it all and kept it a secret for the few months it took to get all the stones sent in and have the ring set. I also kinda love that it’s a way better ring than I would have picked out, and totally different from what I would have picked for myself. I get tons of compliments on it.
Post # 10
DH picked mine all by himself. It’s nothing like the ones we tried on a whim (i thought) jewelry store stop. All I told him was that 1) i wanted him to pick and as long as he have it thought and did his best, i would love it 2) don’t go into debt over it 3) not too high set bc high settings get in the way. We talked colored stones a lot and he knew I was open to them, with sapphires being my favorite. Really though, I like most anything that has diamonds and is sparkly. He’s much pickier haha. He knew I preferred more classic, simpler things – i love a solitaire – and that I didn’t want super trendy. This is what he chose, and while it’s nothing like what I expected, I LOVE it and i love the huge amount of thought that he gave. You can’t see it here but it sparkles like crazy 😀
(Posting on my phone; sorry for the giant pic and typos)
Post # 11
We never discussed anything regarding rings nor a proposal timeline. The proposal was a surprise. I didn’t even have anything in mind, actually, apart from thinking I didn’t need a diamond.
DH picked a gorgeous ring out on his own (it was a Tacori, actually, OP!) and it’s perfect. After he proposed, I found out he really thought him being able to choose a ring that i would love was a big deal to him! He spent a lot of time researching and looking for settings. He did say that if I ended up not caring for the setting, we’d take the diamond and find something else, but he’s still pretty pleased, three years on, that he picked something I absolutely love.
Post # 12
@brazilian_american: hellz no he was only into solitaires and im a complicated girl! We picked together a setting we both liked he picked the stone though and ill totally be surprized when i get it! Sorry im not helping here!
Post # 13
Mine suprised me with my ring 🙂 He put a lot of research in to get a good quality stone and proudly gushed to me about what he had been able to find after my surprise proposal!
Post # 14
@marie02: wow that is the most gorgeous unique ring ive ever seen!!
Post # 15
@brazilian_american: I had no clue! Total surprise and all on his own. He knows me up and down and I love that when I look at the ringthat it came completely from him!
Post # 16
Totally, completely his job. I love my ring.