Did he propose when he said he would?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Did he make good on his timeline?
    He sure did! : (25 votes)
    45 %
    No it was sooner! : (11 votes)
    20 %
    No it was delayed and I was okay with it : (9 votes)
    16 %
    Other, explain please : (10 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 2
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    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    How exciting! Ours was more of a mutual decision. We talked about marriage one day, two months later we picked out and bought my e ring together, then two months after that he asked my dad and proposed, now we’re married! It was really simple, like it should be! 

    Post # 3
    Member
    3016 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    Mine jumped the gun by a LOT. We were long-distance for two years. In June of 2013 I left California for England and we moved to Prague together in July. Our “agreement” was that we would live together for at least 6 months before getting engaged (DH remembers it as a year).  We bought the ring before we left England. His plan was to pretend he was aiming for my birthday in July 2014, but to actually do it on Christmas. 

    However, my dad came to visit in August and my now-DH decided to propose in front of half my extended family so my dad could see it! He’s lucky I said yes, ha ha ha.

    Long story short: he proposed either 11 months or 5 months earlier than he was “supposed” to. 😛

    But bear in mind that we are both in our 40s, so neither of us is interested in dragging things out.

    Post # 4
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We never had a timeline. He brought up engagement and took me ring shopping. I knew it would most likely come once the ring was purchased, and even though my ring isn’t expensive by WB standards, I knew it would take a little while to decide on one and save. It was a little more than a year between him surprising me with ring shopping and the actual proposal.

    Post # 5
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    904 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 1975

    MrsWe:  We had discussed our timeline. We knew when we would like to get engaged, married, house, kids. You name it. We stick to the motto: “Fail to plan, Plan to fail.”

    Obviously not everything can be controlled, but a general idea. We were on the same page about everything. Proposed when we talked about, set our wedding for what we wanted in our timeline. A frank and open discussion about what we would like, helped us. Every couple is different. What works for one relationship, won’t always work for the next.

    Very excited for you!! Hope that your proposal and engagement is extra special. Be sure to keep us Bees updated and let us know when he pops the Q! Best of Luck 🙂

    Post # 6
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    1242 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    we had a “deadline” for when we wanted to be married so we had already booked our venue before he “officially” proposed with a ring 🙂 lol but really only by a month or so, because i was really picky about the kind of ring i wanted hehe

    Post # 7
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    1140 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

    MrsWe:  We had a very open conversation about the timeline and the more serious conversation of engagement started in April and he said could I wait until Christmas so that he could get some money together (which OF COURSE was fine with me). He proposed at the end of October the same year so it was unexpected and early.

    Post # 8
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    919 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We jokingly had a “timeline”… it wasn’t really set, but we have been together over 5 years so I gave him a due date of when he needed to propose one night being goofy, which was w/i a month. We both knew it would happen and were just waiting until he graduated college. He actually proposed A DAY BEFORe his “due date”… we both still laugh abt it. I honestly DID NOT think the proposal would come anytime soon so I was Stunned!!

    Post # 9
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    2092 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

     

    MrsWe:  I picked “other” because we never did have an official timeline discussion. We both knew pretty soon after meeting that we would eventually get married one day. About a month into our relationship he said, “One day I am going to ask you to marry me, for real.”, to which I replied, “And when you do I will say yes, for real.”

    11 months later I had a ring on my finger. When my man tells me he’s going to do something he does it.

    ETA: How exciting for you!!!!! Try to relax and enjoy the next year. I hope it’s wonderful and you get what you want next summer!

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  sillysillybee.
    • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  sillysillybee.
    Post # 10
    Member
    6028 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We never had a timeline. We talked about engagement, went ring shopping, and he proposed a few months later. He “sat” on the ring for a couple months because he made up some story about not being able to get the ring, blah blah. He was trying to throw my off so it would be surprise. It worked, I was totally surprised.

    Post # 11
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    306 posts
    Helper bee

    MrsWe:  I’m not sure if this is odd or not, but there was no “his timeline”. We decided we wanted to get married, and we decided when it would happen. It was a joint decision. He bought the ring we both selected together as our favourite, and then proposed one evening a couple of weeks later. Easy peasy lemon squeazy. 

    Post # 13
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    2704 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    MrsWe:  

    He sure did! Apparently he picked his proposal date after we’d been together for like 3 months. Last summer we were talking about marriage, he said that by next spring we would be engaged, then proposed in the winter. I was so excited when he said this, but totally surpised when he did! Goodluck girl! But try not to think about it too much (I know, easier said than done) it will drive you crazy!

    Post # 14
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    1108 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    No.  He didn’t say when he would propose or even if he was going to propose. 

    Post # 15
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    918 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    We talked about it and I asked him for a “ballpark” date so I wouldn’t be caught too off-guard, but still be surprised – I wanted to get him an anniversary ring, anyway, and give it to him when he gave me mine.  This ensured I wasn’t late getting it haha.  He proposed right when he said he would – in the summer.

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