(Closed) Did he stick to his timeline?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I wouldn’t say we set a timeline, but we did discuss our “goals” in life…. marriage kids, etc.  So far, everything has fallen into place…proposal, wedding later this year, and hopefully baby next year.  We didn’t want to set specific dates because you never know what life is going to throw at you.  If I, or my FI lost our job then we would have to put things on hold.  Also, you can never plan on how easy/hard it will be to have a baby.

I would support your friend as much you could. At least her and her SO have talked about the future and have a plan, which is more than most people I know.  Just be ready to offer more support and encouragement if things don’t go exactly to plan.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@HappilyEverAfter54:  hmmm…..this is a tough one.  I’m not a fan off timelines in romantic scenarios which is ironic b/c i set a timeline essentially for everything else in my life.  my FI had no timeline and never made mention of one.  I think a timeline is a tag bit unromantic but to each his own.

Bottom line – Doe your waiting friend love this guy? If so, he’s probably worth waiting for. Guys will come around when the time is right.  If you love a guy, for the most part, you can wait until the timing is just right for both of you.  If she doesn’t love him, she should move on to the next fish in the sea or whatever

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@HappilyEverAfter54:  It’s really hard for some/a lot of guys to commit.  And it’s a big step.  Without know either of them or anything about their situation really, it’s hard to make too much of a judgement call.  It sounds like she isn’t putting him in any kinda of situation where he needs to act right away…they seem pretty “comfortable.”  Some guys don’t see any need to change things when they’re just fine as they are.  He could be afraid.  He could be immature.  he could be unsure if he loves her or she’s the one. 

How long have they been together? How od is she?

These days woman have babies without being married all the time.

My best advice is to just do what it seems like you’re doing and be a good, supportive friend for her.  If this guy is “the one” it will all work itself out.  if he’s a dope, she needs to figure that out sooner rather than later haha!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

idk… he says by a year…. we should know if we want to be married… well, we already know we do…. he also says it won’t be long; so  the ball is pretty much in his court! So far, he is sticking to the timeline!

Post # 9
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

FI told me he would propose sometime in in 2010… and he did so in november. I hadn’t been “waiting” that long though. There was no specific month picked out.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No time line for us. In fact, when we first started talking, I was told he was dead set against marriage. He wanted nothing to do with it. I believed that all the way up til the proposal. You’re damn right I was shocked.

Post # 11
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2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

He said he would propose by the end of the year (’09), and he proposed on Christmas Eve.

Post # 12
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2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

our only timeline was determined by how long it would take for his divorce to finalize. we got together while he and his ex were seperated and living apart but not legally divorced yet.

Post # 13
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1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We moved in together, and I gave him six months to propose or I would have to move out as I was not going to just shack up. We already knew we were getting married, it was a matter of saving up money for my dream ring. Moved in together Dec, he proposed on St. Patty’s Day!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

We didn’t have a time line, but I do have 2 friends that do/did. One said that she wanted to be engaged by her birthday (and this was discussed with him and he said yes to that). Her birthday was in Jan, and still no ring. I think the other wants to be engaged by October, so he still has some time.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I’m in my 30’s and I was kinda coasting along but one day I decided to ask him to give me a general idea of when we would be getting married. No proposal, just married and living together etc. He told me before my next two birthdays. I’m hitting that mark pretty close and my engagement period was 8 months.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mine was early!  I only wanted a timeline because I’m a planner and I needed to know something was happening, cuz I wasn’t waiting around forever. 🙂  We didn’t pick a day or anything but he said it would be by our 6 year anniv. and it was 2 months before on NYE.

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