Did I add an accidental +1?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

you and FI are a unit and he should have been invited.

it sounds like you are close enough to the bride, since you are singing at her wedding, i would have just called and asked.

you already included your FI in the rsvp.  at this point, i would just let it go.  if she calls and says he can’t come, then you can deal with it then.

Post # 4
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Eh, my BF is getting married in July of next year. If she sent me an invite without my DH’s name on it I would’nt even think twice. I would though expect her to know that DH WILL be coming with me.

Post # 5
1286 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You could just reach out to her and ask. Be prepared that she say “sorry, we only allowed plus ones for married couples”. Since you are also planning a wedding (I assume since you refer to a fiance), I’m sure you understand budgetary constraints and the decisions that need to be made.

Post # 6
2694 posts
Sugar bee

@gatorgirl24:  I think you didn’t get a +1. People don’t have to invite your FH but it is a bit inconsiderate. She probably thought that he didn’t need to come if your parents were coming as well. Oh well, too late now. If she doesn’t want him there then she can call you to clarify.

Post # 7
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You could call or e-mail her to ask. Is it possible she either doesn’t know you are engaged, or doesn’t know your fiance’s name (I forgot to include a spouse on a wedding invitation because I didn’t know the name!)? They may be paying per person, so I think it’d be best to just ask her, but don’t accuse her, of whether or not your fiance is invited.

Post # 8
55 posts
Worker bee

Has she ever met your FI? As other posters said, maybe she is only allowing plus ones for married couples or maybe she thought it’d be okay since your parents were also invited.

If the envelope was only addressed to you, I would have assumed he wasn’t invited. If the RSVP process implied otherwise, I would have called or e-mailed her before adding him as a guest.

I think you just added an accidental +1. I suppose now she’ll contact you about it if she has an issue with it.

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