Post # 1
I think I am having my first bridal freak out moment.
I have been engaged for 3 weeks and am getting married in October (4.5 months away!). I went shopping immediately after getting engaged because I was worried about having enough time to order and found my dress on the first try. I loved it. It is the last style I would have thought I would like but once I put it on I felt like a Bride! I teared up all 3 times I put it on (in between other dresses). It felt like the one! (Vera Wang: Kathleen
Fast forward to last weekend when I was looking through Bridal magazines and asked my fiance what he thought about a few dresses. He said he always imagined his bride in a ball gown/a-line type of dress (he didn’t use those terms, but I know what he meant) including a mermaid style one that looks like mine HIs response: “Ugh! thats hideous but I don’t have to worry about that, because I know you would never get something like that, it’s not your style”
Adding to this, I keep reading that short girls and pear shaped girls should NEVER wear mermaid. I’m 5’1 and somewhere between a pear and hourglass (hips are 4″ bigger than my bust)
I already ordered it, still love it, but now I’m afraid I made a mistake!
I’m adding pictures, please please not fishing for compliments but looking for honest opinions about how it looks? I definitely plan on toning up my arms and losing 10-15 lbs
Post # 3
I love it on you and so will he!! Don’t show him anymore dresses. it will only stress you out! Looking at a dress on a model vs the love of his life is totally different! Plus stock images never llook like the real dress!
Post # 4
You’re right – pear shaped girls should NOT wear mermaid because it accentuates the hips too much. BUT! You’re not really a pear, you’re more of an hourglass and the dress looks great on you!! It’s actually a really beautiful dress, you can tell the material is good quality and it looks very nice on you. My only opinion would be to change it to a sweetheart, but I really love sweetheart necklines – so if you don’t, then leave it! Other than that, don’t worry about what he says about dresses, it’s completely different seeing it on you than on the model and he’s going to think you’re beautiful no matter what you wear! And btw, short girls shouldn’t wear poofy ballgown type dresses because it overwhelms them. This dress is perfect for your height/shape!
Post # 5
You look pretty in it. Like you, I didn’t think I would like the dress-style/shape that I ended up choosing but I loved it! You have to go with what you love. The bride should feel beautiful. And most of the time, men think they know what they like, but they are not women and they don’t know how everything will look especially when it’s put together and on the person they love.
My FI insists on taking his pointer fingers and making swirling circular shapes around his chest while asking, “does your dress do this?” lol He’s referring to sweetheart necklines and no my dress doesn’t have a sweetheart neckline but I didn’t run off saying “oh no! is that what he’s expecting? should i modify my dress?” I like my dress as-is. I LOVE your dress as-is so go with how YOU feel. He will be fine.
Post # 6
I think it looks great on you. I wouldn’t worry too much about what he thinks of stock photos. The model in my dress’ stock photo for real looks like a fish lady. Once he sees it on you, he probably won’t even realize it’s the same type of dress.
Post # 7
Stop stressing right now! You look amazing in that dress! Guys have no idea what dress will look good on their SOs. I went through this same thing-when looking at magazines and while (me making him) watch say yes to the dress, my husband’s comments made me think he liked plain, classic dresses…I had a tulle, totally over the top Vera ballgown. During our wedding he said that he couldn’t imagine his bride in anything else-and it’s his favorite dress ever. Literally, the opposite of what he thought he and I wanted.
Wear it and rock it. In my opinion-nothing beats a Vera. (Aren’t her fabrics and subtle details the best in the business?) Perfection, classic, and fashion-forward all at the same time. Also, the long bodice of the mermaid makes you look way taller than 5’1″!
Post # 8
You dont look like a pear at all. I loveeee your dress!!!!! It is so gorgeous!
Post # 9
Loooooooove it! I’m a pear with a mermaid dress but it makes me look like an hour glass! Show off what ya mama gave you ;-p
Post # 10
@HourThyme: You look amazng, seriously. I agree with PP, don’t show your fiance anymore dresses because what he thinks he likes and he’d like on you are two different things. Also, IGNORE those articles and style blogs that say curvy/pear-shaped women cannot wear mermaids. It’s all about whether or not you want to flaunt your curves. An as a fellow pear, I think you flaunt your curves very nicely, love.
I do think the neck comes too high, and the straight neckline is too severe for the softness of the gown. I suggest softening the neckline to a slight curve, a romantic traditional sweetheart, or a deep, dramatic sweetheart (very Old Hollywood):
Post # 11
@HourThyme: I’m really not a fan of mermaid style dresses and if you had describedroiled wouldn’t like the sound of it. However, that dress is GORGEOUS on you!!! And he will too. Not liking something in theory and reality are a completely different thing.
Post # 12
hehe! Thank you ladies!!!!!!
The salesgirl was also super helpful and said that I’m an hourglass not a pear, but I just always thought I was a pear or an apple? It might be like bra-sizes where most girls don’t know what they actually are..
FI is not the most fashion-forward gentleman out there and I really do hope when he sees me in it he will just love it.
@Brooklynwife: Vera is the best, I always knew I wanted a Vera dress which made the search easier, one store and done. The fabrics are amazing and the dress had a fun organic feel that I really like! Also, as a very girly girl I love the frills, poofs, and lace she uses 🙂
OKay, deep breaths! I feel better 🙂
I love it and am going to stick with it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 13
P.S. I will not show him any more dresses!!!! not worth the anxiety!
I would also not be surprised if he picked up on my freaking out and that’s why he went on and on with his commets. He is a former private invesigator and is not only very intuitive but also has a quirky sense of humor. Guess that’s what I get for interrupting him while he was watching a hockey game! haha!
Post # 14
The dress looks great on you!!
And seriously, no more letting him look at dresses. I’m sure he was not actually adamant about that dress style, and if he knew how much this is freaking you out he would take his words back entirely!!
Post # 15
I did the same thing, I showed my FI the new Jenny Packham which includes a dress which is very similar to mine. He basically went “yuck” to all of them! I know he would probably like to see me in something which shows off my bum which my dress doesn’t
While I do toss over the idea of getting a different dress from time to time, I just keep reminding myself that me in the dress is very different from the model, so hopefully he’ll love it
Also your dress Is beautiful and looks awesome on you. And personally I think that no matter what the magazines say, mermaids look best with some junk in the trunk!
Post # 16
Omg I loooooooove it! Don’t change it! Although I do like the alteration advice PP posted about the neckline.