Post # 1
Hello to all the lovely Bees 🙂 I’m new to the boards but I’ve been lurking around for a bit! I just got engaged on December 21st and I’m so excited, and even more excited now that I’ve found WeddingBee!
Anyways, my point of my post is that I chose my ring myself, and we both decided on something that was very cheap. We didn’t want to have to make payments, we wanted something that we would be able to just pay for right away. We really don’t have a lot of money, so while browsing around we found this ring from Walmart. I know some people may shudder at the thought of a ring from Walmart, but it was what we could afford (it was 320 for the ring and the wedding band) and something we both liked. Buuttt, now that I’m looking around more on the boards I kind of feel like maybe I should have waited and saved up more for a better ring? Could you please let me know what you think? Thank you for listening!! Happy to be here!
(P.S. Sorry if the pictures are too big, i don’t really know how to resize them to where the ring is still clear!)
Post # 3
Of course you made the right choice! It was a ring you both liked and it suited your budget for the time being. You wanted to be engaged with a ring on your finger, and voila! Just because you didn’t spend as much as others, doesn’t cheapen it 🙂 It’s beautiful. If ring envy gets to you, then maybe make that your “promise ring” (while of course, still saying you’re engaged!), and when the time is right, make that your right hand ring, and upgrade 🙂
edit – also, you are not the only one who suffers from ring envy. You probably won’t find too many bees who haven’t experienced this. These boards will definitely do that to you! What matters, IMO, is the sentiment behind the ring.
Post # 4
I think the ring is beautiful, especially for that price! Plus later on down the line (like 2, 5, or even 10 years) it looks like it’d be easy to upgrade the center stone if you so choose…with a diamond or any other stone. Trust me, no matter what ring you have, you’re going to see other rings you admire and even envy. Nothing wrong with that, but it’s important not to compare yourself to others and remember what your ring represents for you and your FI. Congrats on the engagement!
Post # 5
@alohapanda: I think your ring is lovely (and wise). Too often I think the emphasis is on the cost etc. of the ring as opposed to the sentiment. If you start feeling bad go on google and look up the stats about newlywed couples debt (and why they went into it).
Post # 6
I’ve dealt with some ring envy in the past and here is what I have come to learn: There will always be people with bigger/fancier/more expensive rings than yours. It’s inevitable. You have to make peace with what you have and realize it is beautiful and unique and YOURS. That’s the more important thing.
Secondly, your engagement ring is representative of where you are NOW in your lives. You can always build on it and add onto it down the road. I like to think of it as the foundation, just like you build a foundation for your love to grow on.
I think what you have is very pretty and looks great on your hand. Congrats on your engagement!!!
Post # 7
Thank you so much everyone! You’re all completely right! And what some people said about upgrading or adding on to it later, we actually talked about that before! Maybe one day when we have more money we can upgrade the diamonds or even add a single in the middle! I love being here, you all made me feel so much better! 🙂
Post # 8
As lomg as you love it, it is the right ring! I agree that not blowing the budget is always wise. So much better than being in debt for something so unessential as a ring! And, your ring is “real” and it can stand the test of time. Meanwhile, if you ever choose get it reset with say, one center diamond, those 9 in the middle… can you say diamond earrings?? and/or some other nice diamond jewelry?? 🙂
And yes, there will always be more expensive (and more affordable) rings, no matter which we have. Just have confidence that yours is right for you two right now… that’s what matters!
Post # 9
@Reign14: Exactly!! +100000
@alohapanda: Hah, I know exactly how you feel. I think everybody feels a little bit insecure when looking at everybody else’s rings. Even the girls with super super expensive rings feel insecure sometimes. Before I found this website, I picked a ring that I wanted and loved (in our budget.) Then, I found this website and I started feeling insecure about the size of my center stone and because my ring is so different than everybody’s. Then I realized how much I love my ring and what it represents. The ring is special to us and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I guess being a little insecure is just part of the process. Your ring is gorgeous and you made the perfect choice, be proud of it!!! Congratulations on the engagement!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Vegas baby!
My honey proposed on the 29th, with no ring. We went the next day and bought a $20 cz until we can afford the moissaniteco ring that we’ve picked out. I am totally enjoying rocking this little cubic zirconia. If you’re happy that’s all that matters. Congratulations on your engagement btw! And NOTHING wrong with a ring from Walmart if it is what you wanted. Mine is from JCPenney!
Post # 11
If you like it, rock it girl! There will always be a prettier/shinier/more expensive ring out there. There are always prettier/shinier/more expensive things in every aspect of life there. If it suits you and your FI (and your wallets), that’s all that matters. It’s not the ring, it’s the marriage. And, like PP said, rings can be upgraded in the future (great milestone anniversary present!). Congrats! 🙂
Post # 12
I think it’s beautiful!!! And that you’re very smart not to go into crazy debt over a ring. Bling is fun, but there are more important things in life, and it’s good to know what to focus on. Congratulations!
Post # 13
It’s a pretty ring and like pp said it’s the setiment that counts. Congratulations on your engagement.
I hope you have a fab time here and welcome to the Bee.
Post # 14
@alohapanda: I felt EXACTLY how you feel!!!!! FI and I picked out a ring that we could justifiably afford. (3 months salary for a RING.. is that a joke???) Anyways, mine was a little more $1200 for the ring (and another $1200 for the band.. which is ridiculous, but it’s a Neil Lane band and it’s the only one that fits the shape of my engagement ring)
So anyways, like yours, I don’t have a center stone. I have four, which I loved at first, but now I’m seeing all these HUGE (1ct+) center stones, whether diamond or otherwise and I felt bad about mine. I knew I shouldn’t, but I did. Now, I’ve realized that when I saw them all side by side, I still picked mine, and I can feel good about it. I know you felt the same way! Your ring is beautiful, there’s no reason to not love it!!!!!! It’s sooo pretty and that’s ALL you paid for it? Honestly, I’m envious that I wasted so much money on mine!!
Loving it and being comfortable is way more important than a flashy ring that puts you into debt anyways. (Really, DEBT for a piece of jewelry? It’s just not for you and I!)
Anyways, here’s my ring! Which I never posted, but I thought I would join you in the “I don’t have a center stone” club! Go us!!!
(FI and I were holding hands at our engagement shoot, it’s the only one I have)
Post # 15
I love your ring!!! First things first, EVERYONE gets ring envy on this ring board, haha! Your ring is a great size! I love cluster, composite rings. I have one myself 😉 And I like that your center stones are surrounded in milgrain, as if to emphasize the little stones in the center, instead of making it seem like a bigger stone. Composites are beautiful in their own right! They sparkle like crazy don’t they? 😉
Search for posts with “composite” and “cluster” to fall in love all over again with that style.
Congratulations on your engagement!!
Post # 16
Don’t worry as long as you love it thats all that matters my ring cost 75 dollars from a pawn shop and then a little to resize it but I love it and its totally us.