Post # 1
So in the midst of talking about the sizing of her future ring, I showed my girlfriend messages from an etsy seller and myself. In those messages, I was questioning how much in advance I should order the ring to be ready for a vday proposal. I’m not sure if she saw it or not, but I definitely did (maybe because I knew it was there) so she must’ve right?
She wouldn’t be the type jump for joy or tell me right away, but would tell me after I proposed.
Now i’m freaking out, should I change the date to a later date or what!
Post # 3
@otto2008: no!!! Not later! Do it earlier if you want to surprise her. If she’s expecting it on V day and you don’t do it, she will likely be pretty bummed out to say the least.
Post # 4
@otto2008: Or what you could do is wait until the morning after V-Day!
Make V-day really normal and maybe do dinner and then the morning after wake her up to some breakfast, flowers, and a gorgeous proposal 🙂
Post # 5
@otto2008: Did she see the ring too? Was that supposed to be a surprise? I agree with everyone else…throw her off by doing it before Vday or have a super romantic breakfast the next day (though that could kind of sour Vday for her if she is expecting it.)
Post # 6
@otto2008: I found out when my FI was proposing a week in advance, and I don’t regret that at all! I got to be really excited leading up to it, and the details were still all a surprise, and it made it so much easier on my FI, who has anxiety. 🙂
It all depends on your girlfriend. Do you think she’d appreciate being proposed to on Valentine’s Day or a surprise more? I love surprises, but I also love looking forward to things. And personally I like that he did it on kind of a random date, because now it’ll always be a special date to me, but I can’t say an extra-special Valentine’s Day proposal would be a horrible thing.
Whatever you decide, I’m sure it’ll be one of the happiest moments of her life!
Post # 7
I dont know if she saw that part or not, if it were me I would be focused on trying to scan for details or pictures of the ring. If she did see that you were going to propose on Vday, I dont think you should propose AFTER Vday. I think if anything you should propose on Vday like you planned, or before to suprise her. If I found out that my SO was going to propose on a certain day and he didnt I would probably panic and wonder why he didnt. If She is expecting a proposal on vday and does not get one it may be upsetting for her.
Post # 8
@Future_Mrs_Dr_I: agreed! Doing it later would be torture if she knows you were planning it for a specific day.
Catch her off guard a day or two before V day.
Post # 9
definitely earlier! The sooner the better! If she is expecting VDay she will be shocked if it is WAAAAY sooner!
Post # 10
I would do it before Valentines Day, both to throw her off (if she saw) and because Valentines Day proposals are so.. expected.
Post # 11
@luckylady3090: No I’ve already talked to her about the ring and the sizes involved in the ring. I was going to make it a surprise, but after telling her about each of the rings that I wanted to get her and her not liking them, I decided out jewelry tastes are not on the same level so I asked what she wanted and she came up with this morganite/cushion halo. I had no idea what morganite was and when i saw the price compared to the diamond I was going to get her, I jumped right on board!
Post # 12
Definitely don’t wait until after Vday. Propose on Vday or before.
I was expecting a proposal on our 6 year anniversary and when it didn’t happen I was so upset. The next day I couldn’t hold the tears in and SO knew what was wrong. He said I had the worst timing (for getting upset) because he was planning on asking me that night, so I ruined it 🙁