Did I screw up this 'Save the Date' thing?

posted 3 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

Can you send them sooner? (Like, next week?) That will give people a little more notice. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

At this point I would probably just send out the invitations and skip the save the dates. 6-8 months out is when airlines have some of their best rates and people can start making arrangements. Or if you really want to still send out the save the dates, send them right at the start of May and send out invitations near the end. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If your guests are already aware, I don’t think it’s a big deal.  I probably would have sent them a bit earlier, but I don’t think you’re too late to send them.  Like the PP said, if you can get them out earlier, I would do that. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Can you send out save the dates around the first of May? Maybe with a website added that talks more about location, places to stay with prices, etc? It might take a while for people to book flights and hotels, and in your case some people might have to get a passport!

So I’d be sending them out as soon as you can, 6 months or more would have been idea but I don’t think it’s too late if you send them out early in may.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Another for skipping the save the date and i’d just send invitations early. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I would just send out invitations on may 21st and skip the save the dates. From what I read the norm for destination weddings is to send invites 6 months before the wedding so your guests can book flights and hotel rooms if necessary.

Post # 8
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Newbee

Send the invites instead of save the dates. It sounds like you verbally told the people you’re inviting that it will be a destination wedding and date. If most are tech savvy your can send an email save the date with a little video and a website link that will have a the preminary info with a mention of official invites to follow soon. That gives people a way to look at flights and plan for time off and budgets. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I personally don’t think 5 months is too early for an invite to a destination wedding. It does feel very late for a save the date.l (which i thought was about or just under a year for desination weddings)

Some guests might be trying to get the cheapest flights possible etc (I know I would!)Then a reminder nearer the time should be sufficient, if you feel it’s necessary. 

Post # 13
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Newbee

I think it will be fine. We had a friend do a destination wedding at a resort.  They booked and made arrangements through a travel agent who we would all need to book through or was recommended we do to get a preferred rate. They let us know in march for a July wedding. I wish they had given us more notice because the deposits needed to be made within two weeks of the invite. Ultimately we couldn’t go because of budget reasons. We just couldn’t come up with the money on such short notice and make arrangements with work as well at that point and I would need to get a passport as well. We had already booked a vacation for ourselves right before they gave us notice so if we had a heads up we couldn’t have been in a better position to attend. The more time you give the better in my opinion with a destination wedding. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

If I were you i’d do an e-vite save the date now (like tomorrow) and then mailed invitations July or Aug. While some people iwll book their flights early, many will prob want to wait til closer to the time to commit.

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