Did I screw up this 'Save the Date' thing?

posted 3 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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1657 posts
Bumble bee

Send the Save the Date now with your wedding website and put all the details about hotels and such on it soon.

Buy trip and event insurance in case there is a hurricane 

Post # 17
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Since it’s a destination wedding, I would not think 5 months was too early for receiving my invitation. I’d like the extra time for planning. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would probably do STD immediately especially since you don’t have all details for ceremony. I would make sure to have a url for a wedding website that you can update as info comes in. 

If you know hotel and date info put that on there too and have more info like links etc on the website 

But if you don’t want to send a STD or want to save money then just do the invite …. No harm either way in my book. Just get the official word out asap 

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Just to add, i don’t think there’s only one right answer here because your situation has unique factors. But you’re clearly thinking a lot about your guests and communicating with them, so i’m sure everything will go fine!

As long as people get enough notice and understands what’s expected of them, i’m sure nobody really minds how their notifications are titled.

Dont worry! You’re doing great!

Post # 20
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Busy bee

Well I may be in the minority, but a save the date five months out seems like more than sufficient notice for me to plan a trip to PR. 

 

Post # 21
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Busy bee

Just build a great website with all the travel details 

 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Send the invites instead if you have them ready. Sounds like guests want full details now anyway. Seeing as there are not many guests I’m sure you’ll be in contact with them leading up to the wedding, but if not then an rsvp reminder might be handy.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Invites now will be fine. It’s destination, and people have been asking for the info so they obviously want to book. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I would send out save the dates now and invitations in July. 🙂

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I guess I’m another minority bee who says your original timeline is fine. 6 months would be better, but it’s okay. I’m not having a destination wedding but the majority of our guests are from out-of-town and I sent out my save the dates 4 months in advance. It was just a situation of that’s when I got around to it, which might sound like a lame excuse, but there you go. Do not drive yourself crazy.

If you want to send your save-the-dates earlier but you think it’s going to take a few weeks to have them delivered, consider going the DIY route. I made my own save-the-dates by designing them on photoshop and printing them as photos from 1-hr photo at walmart. I chose 4×4 squares (18 cents/each). Then I stuck them onto magnetic sticky backs ($10 for 10 sheets on amazon), cut them out, and rounded the corners with a corner round punch. The whole thing cost about $50 for 100 and took me like 2 hours. If you choose not to do magnets it’s even faster and cheaper. I think walmart has a postcard option. They even have save-the-dates. Walmart is not my favorite place but it is definitely a procrastinator’s best friend. 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I think it’s totally fine. I sent out our save the dates 3 months in advance – our guests are almost all in the same state but still.

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