Did I totally mess this up?!

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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10999 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@clarwar:  My ceremony began at 6 p.m., and my reception was scheduled until 11 p.m.  My ceremony went until about 7:10 p.m., when the hors d’oeuvres hour began.  Our timeline ended up derailing so I wouldn’t pattern yours after mine, but I thought my experience may be helpful to you.  My dinner was supposed to begin around 8 p.m. but, because we were late with the ceremony and taking formal bridal pics, and getting ready for introductions, we didn’t actually have our toasts until 9 p.m., with dinner served thereafter. I went upstairs to freshen up after dinner and had no idea it was 10 p.m. by that point, and my DH and I still had not had time to dance with our respective parents or greet our guests or take family photos.  Long story short, we hurriedly danced with our parents, cut our cake, and went outside for family pictures, and our wedding was over. I actually missed out on my own wedding reception. It was heartbreaking for me. So, just be sure that you leave yourself enough time.

Post # 4
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736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Brielle:  This is exactly why I am paying for unlimited rental. I can have the venue from 10 am til sunrise but I don’t want to miss those precious moments. 

I am so sad for you.  

Post # 5
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@clarwar:  Yikes, Texas heat in summer….I hope it does not get too hot.

Post # 6
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10999 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  Thank you. I was so sad for me, too, lol.

I cried and cried and cried over this for months. I just kept going over  and over  it in my head, all during my honeymoon and for months thereafter, knowing that there was no possible way to “fix” it, and yet, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. What was particularly upsetting is that I didn’t marry until very late in life, and I had looked forward to my wedding for decades, and my parents spent tens of thousands of dollars, and everyone ELSE had a fantastic time. I, on the other hand, missed so much and truly grieved over this.

On the other hand, our ceremony  was so  beautiful and so  meaningful! Since it obviously was the most important part of our night, I’m very thankful that I was able to savor that. 🙂

Unfortunately, I could not have rented my venue for the entire day unless I was willing to commit to paying for two weddings, since my venue booked two weddings per day at the facility. I also wanted to have a formal, evening wedding and knew that I could not properly have my bridesmaids and the mothers in long dresses or my FI/DH and the groomsmen in after-six formalwear if my wedding started prior to 6 p.m. 

Post # 7
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736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Brielle: I’m really happy you had such a wonderful ceremony as I do believe that is the most important part of the wedding.

If I were you, I would have a recommitment ceremony later on and have a great party!

Post # 9
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Some suggestions:

1. Have your toasts and speeches (and not too many, please) in between courses. Nothing’s really happening at that time anyway.

2. Don’t announce your bridal party if you don’t really want to. Everyone knows who they are, since they stood up front with you for 25 minutes. Do a programme and put their names and relationship to you in it. 

3. First dance opens the dancing, so that’s 3 minutes MAX. You can also have your emcee/dj invite your guests to join you partway through the song, if you REALLY want to move things along. 

4. If you’re doing a receiving line, have it only be you and your husband, to speed things up. Everyone will congratulation/greet your bridal party/immediate family throughout the cocktail/reception. 

5. Cake cutting can happen right when you enter the reception if you want. Someone could toast the new couple “happy future, blending of a new family blah blah blah…” and then you cut that sucker right then and there. Bam!

6. Alternatively, if you’re serving it later in the evening, cut it right before your first dance to maximize photo-op time for the camera-happy guests. Segue to first dance. Bam! 

 

 

 

Post # 10
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@clarwar:  If I were you, I would do your first dance immediately after being introduced, and your cake cutting after that! A bonus to getting those done early is your photographer will be there to capture those shots for sure!

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