Did my BF get excited by my cousin?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I couldn’t be with a man who called any woman a slut but that is just me….I have glanced at a hot guy (or girl) from time to time and know that my DH does the same. However there is a difference between noticing somebody attractive and lusting after them. Some may comment that it’s natural and all men get aroused by attractive women and I would agree but I don’t think having a penis excuses wrong behavior. He does not get a free pass for having a baby wand and he doesn’t need to be told that. His actions seem to border on disrespectful….  

I can’t tell you whether or not your BF got turned on by your cousin and I think that is a mute point. Focus on his REAL issues. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

SilverMoon:  I think you deserve to be with someone who will make you feel like you are everything he could ever want and more. 

 

Post # 6
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596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Only you know the difference in his behavior. I know what you mean about the bike thing. My FI rides a bike and it’s a nice feeling when he rubs on my leg while riding. It’s like holding hands in a car. He sounded a bit distracted if you feel like he wasn’t giving you attention once you got home. From what it sounds like, he’s attractive to girls with big boobs if that’s what you’re noticing and you’re the opposite. That can start making you feel insecure if you feel he like different types. Do you feel that way? 

 

 And it is kinda disturbing for him to bad mouth women on TV by saying insult sexual references about their body parts and calling them sluts… What’s the point of that? 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Maybe you should talk to your partner about your concerns rather than strangers here who know nothing else about your relationship.

Post # 9
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596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

bowsergirl:  I think it’s good sometimes to get different perspective on one’s concerns about their relationship on here. That way she can get other opinions if she feels she has a reason to be concern and better talk to her bf about them. And she can be more prepared on what to address in her conversation. I think you understand your situation more when you talk it out and get outside views about it. And she is stating what’s wrong in her relationship and how she’s feeling. Doesn’t hurt to try to understand and be helpful. Instead of pushing her away by your comment. Her post is no different than everyone else that writes on here to get advice from strangers. 

Post # 13
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596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

SilverMoon:  I can understand how that’s unhealthy for your sex life and make you feel undesirable. Every woman wants their man to be all over them, make them feel sexy, even if they are sick with tissue up their nose, bed hair and in sweats lol. Doesn’t sound like he makes you feel that way. 

 

Some guys are just dumb and don’t think to romance us as much as we want. I have to constantly remind my FI that I want him to just be spontaneous and throw me on the bed and have his way with me lol. Or be more loving with kisses. I just desire more attention haha. He’s very loving, but sometimes it becomes a routine and a kiss is like an auto pilot feeling instead of a passionate because I love you kiss. Am I making sense??? Lol. I always tell FI at least pretend that you love me, when I want more attention. It’s became our little joke when I feel he’s being a typical guy not being romantic. Lol

 

So maybe talk to your BF about exactly how you’re feeling and what you want from him. And ask him what can you guys do to get that level of intimacy you guys both want from each other. 

 

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Silly_love:  exactly, it’s great to get advice from friends but running to them for every issue in your relationship does not allow for an unbiased opinion and if the OP chooses to continue her relationship without doubt there will be judgment against her SO.

on that note, everyone deserves to be happy and nobody should be in a relationship where they are more often than not questioning their compatibility. There are millions of people out there, don’t settle if you feel you are. As an aside, it seems there are other issues going on besides the aforementioned. If you truly felt this guy was the one I couldn’t imagine picking him apart to see if we are “by the book” compatible.

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