Post # 1
Okay, so it’s not very often that I get “pregnant lady” crazy but today I just about HAD it with my mom…. also known as my BOSS.
I currently work with an in-house client of hers doing books & some light accounting 1 day a week. Well, a couple of weeks ago the client asked my plans for when baby comes (since I’m already in my 6th month). I told him I’d talk to mom to see what we could get worked/planned out.
So today while I was doing in-house work for her (which I do twice a week) I asked her what her thoughts were and we should start thinking about my taking time off.
She looked at me like I had 3 heads! I proceeded to explain that I’d really like to take 6 weeks (UNPAID) b/c I want to EBF and wanted to be sure to be able to really build my supply, along with of course getting to know my new lo.
She looks at me like what I’m asking is absurd and says “You can’t just take the baby with you?….” She was really serious too! She wants me to take my new born with me and breastfeed there WHILE I’m on the CLOCK if I have to.
I tell you I could have walked out & quit RIGHT THERE! UGH. I know that still being upset about it 6 hours later is kinda crazy but that just REALLY bothered me.
I’m not crazy right?.. =/
Post # 3
WHAT!? *shakes head* There are no words for that……
Post # 4
Ever wonder if you had a baby seat at her job and didn’t know it.
Post # 5
Your not crazy!
I think you will just have to feel things out- pehaps a few weeks into things, you will feel comfortable with brininging the baby or making arrangments. Is she going to fire you or is it just her reaction that is bothering you?
Is you mom like the baby Martyr who has gone through everything you have gone through ( aches, sytmptoms, problems etc) plus walked up hil 6 miles in the snow with a smile on her face and went to work all while having a baby? You know what I’m saying?
Post # 6
@tksjewelry: I usually have something to say about everything but that one pretty much shut me up.
@WILLIAKELLLB: She probably did! lol
@Eva Peron: She is like that! She’s gotten better but this one kinda blew me away. She won’t fire me, but the last couple of weeks with this on top & still fresh sure is causing me to want to quit! Right now we HAVE to have the income though…. it’s not alot but Darling Husband is transitioning jobs. =/
Post # 7
What do you mean by in house? At her house or different client;s houses? If it is at her house I can understand why she would think that. If you would have to drag the baby around to several different places then no it would not be feasible.
Post # 8
Oh my. Yep that’s a no. She’s crazy.
Post # 9
@StormyRose: “In-house” means at their office. Most of my clients I can work on from home but for her and this particular client I go to their office.
@mwitter80: Yea. I don’t generally post rants (this is I think my 2nd one ever) but this one has me thrown for a loop at still has me pretty upset.
Post # 10
Yikes. I guess that’s a peril of working with family, huh? I bet if she had the same conversation w/ an employee who wasn’t also her daughter, she wouldn’t have handled it quite so badly, but I could be wrong. I think it’s totally crazy that she doesn’t understand your desire for actual maternity leave. That being said, you’re doing the right thing. Step away from the situation for a little while and cool off before bringing it up again. Also, it might be good for you to write up a plan of how your clients’ needs might be met while you’re out on maternity leave. That way your mom/boss can see that you’ve thought things through and that there is a plan in place. Good luck!!
Post # 11
@runsyellowlites: bahahahahhaha hhahhahahahahah that. is. hilarious. I honestly was shocked when I read that because I was putting myself in the place of the client and you bringing a baby younger than 6 weeks to my home and proceeding to breastfeed him/her during our session…..I would find it hilarious. Seriously hilarious.
I’m sure your mom was just not thinnking straight….I mean:
1. you won’t have the energy
2. you can’t just take a newborn into homes where there are any types of germs/pets
3. no client wants you whipping out a breast while your doing their accounting
No you did not overreact
Post # 12
@skibobrown: Thanks for the great advice! Right now I’m the ONLY employee she has and cover all of her clients (with her bookkeeping business), this one client being the only one I go to their office & do their “daily” books so they’re really the only ones in question. She already made clear that she isn’t going and covering them for 6 weeks, so I guess we’ll have to see what happens in the next couple of months. And you’re absolutely right in the fact that she would NEVER pull this with the girls that work under her with her Non-profit Organization.
@TurtleDoves: YES! This is what I was thinking through too as she looked at me so matter of factly & expectantly… I plan on breastfeeding exclusively which I know at some point will include public but how exactly am I to do an hour feeding session while punching a 10 key… that & I can only imagine the guy that runs the place walking in to ask me a question and me having a baby on my boob! ROFL
Thanks so much for the support ladies… I really wanted to make sure I wasn’t just being crazy. Unfortunately I had another “you can’t be serious” moment with her late last night (about 11:30) Darling Husband & talked and if things don’t change (this is 1 of a handful of things that have happened) then after the 1st of the year I will probably be stepping down from working with/for her. Definitely not looking forward to how that will happen. =/ lol
Post # 13
maybe tell her you’d consider it so long as the baby is put on payroll as well?? 😉
Post # 14
Oh my, I can just imagine that your client would LOVE to have you on the clock while you’re breastfeeding!! I mean, doesn’t every working lady get to take their newborns with them when they go to work?! Come on, Mom, get with the program. You’re definitely going to need some maternity leave… and I’d bet you’re going to even want more than the 6 weeks you asked for. I’m guessing she’s coming from a selfish standpoint, “how is this affecting me? look what you’re doing to my business!!” It’s a very inconsiderate attitude, and I’d imagine if you weren’t mother/daughter, she wouldn’t treat an employee this way.
Post # 15
Good lord! nope. sorry ma.
Post # 16
Why can’t your mom hire a temp for six freaking weeks?
By The Way, you’ll need recovery time too! What if you have a c-section? You won’t be able to do any lifting (like carrying a baby in a car seat to work!) for some time.