Post # 1
For those of you who have upgraded or altered your ring, did anyone in real life (friends, family, coworkers, etc) ask about it? Did they seem judge-y? How did you handle it? What exactly did you say when they asked?
We are keeping my diamond and just resetting it into a more intricate pave setting, rather than a plain shank. I’m a little bit concerned about people’s reactions. Rings around here are really small (compared to the bee!) and I’m concerned about people thinking I’m materialistic. In reality, though, he knew I wanted a sparkly setting but couldn’t afford it at the time, and we both agreed that we would upgrade at some point. I know it’s no one’s business and I shouldn’t care and all that, but I am a little concerned about his family thinking that I am a gold digger or something!
Post # 3
Yes, but only because I worked in a jeweler store at the time and everyone knew everyone’s ring…LOL My family (besides my mom and sister) never knew or noticed.
My take is this….unless they are into jewelry they probably won’t even notice.
Post # 4
@208bride: All my friends, co-workers, and family noticed, and asked and were super excited for me!
Post # 5
No. No one in real life would be able to pick my ring out of a crowd.
Post # 6
Most people in reality appears to be judge-y, including my family. I think I only have one friend actually appreciate the upgrade and said I made the right decision.
It does not bother me and if you show a sign of guilt in front of those people, you are welcoming them to throwing out more ridiculous comment. It is my ring and nope, I’m not being materialistic. As long as my FI ok with it and I am helping to contribute toward it. It is nobody business.
everytime I look at my current e-ring, I just glad I did make the move.
Post # 7
@208bride: Well, we are in college still so my ring was very cheap (~$150). Looks real and nice IMO (and from what others have said) and honestly I would wear it forever if it weren’t for the fact that its made of cheaper stones and silver that wasn’t meant to last. People have already sorta judged me when I suggested upgrading in the future. Not because I wanted “real”, but because my ring isn’t “real” to begin with.
I don’t care. I’m always going to keep the first ring. But if I want to wear something EVERYDAY for the rest of my life, then yes, I am going to upgrade.
Post # 8
Not at all.
My upgrades were milestone related… ten year (reset diamond into more intricate setting… same as you!) and 25th anniversary (larger stone in new setting). We did keep the original upgrade and I will pass it down… if it’s wanted 😀
Post # 9
@208bride: When I say that NO ONE IRL noticed my upgrade, I mean NO ONE. Not mom, sister, best friends, coworkers, ANYONE. And I went from .5c channel set in YG to 1.25c shared prong in Palladium.
Post # 10
I went from a .75 to a 1 ct. specially because I knew it wouldn’t be a noticeable difference. Those who don’t see my ring every day wouldn’t notice the size difference but to me it is a world of difference. The upgrade was for me, after all, and not anyone else.
The diamond in the solitaire is the .75 that used to be set in my e-ring. The bottom is my e-ring with the new 1ct diamond.
Post # 11
I’ve only had to deal with one person with a judgy attitude, but didn’t take it personally. She’s always bitchy to me anyway. Everyone else loves it!
Post # 12
My girlfriends liked it but I showed it to them and had told them about it before we bought it. The only person who noticed and it was a few months later was my MIL.
Post # 13
I’m worried about this. I am about to “upgrade” my ring to a smaller, nicer stone and gorgeous Tiffany Soleste-inspired setting. I don’t want to be all in everybody’s faces with it, but if I don’t say somehing to the people I see every day, it’s going to be weird when they notice (and they WILL notice).
Post # 14
@MammaPants: +1. I didn’t upgrade, but I restyled my engagement ring in honor of our 30th anniversary, and I love it. The only one who notices it is me, and I’m fine with that.
Post # 15
I told my mom, but no one I didn’t tell (which is everyone else) noticed. Or if they did, they didn’t say anything. No one notices our rings the way we do, so unless you are really going with something huge and different, it is unlikely anyone else will notice.
Post # 16
@Taimane: I went from a cluster to one big center stone. My husband and I are tickled pink, but I don’t think anyone I know would find it important. I do really enjoy staring at it though!