Did Someone other than your father walk you down the aisle?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Who walked you down the aisle?
    Father : (17 votes)
    17 %
    Stepfather : (4 votes)
    4 %
    Grandfather : (5 votes)
    5 %
    Mother and Father : (16 votes)
    16 %
    Uncle : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Brother : (10 votes)
    10 %
    Other (please explain) : (43 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I don’t have anybody to walk me down the aisle..:(

    Post # 4
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My mother and her husband [techincally my step father, but he is the same age as my brother, and I do not see him as a father figure.. as they had married after I was grown], are walking me down the aisle.

    My father will be recieving an invitation, but I am warning him that he won’t be walking me down the aisle.. he will have the option of declining to attend.

    Me and my father have never been close, he suffered from many addictions when I was growing up.. mentally and physically abused me and my brothers, and always mentally abused my mother. Our living situation were horrid, and we were just a hot mess.

    The best thing he ever did was walk out. I’ve seen him once since their divorce was final [over 10 years ago], and he sends me birthday cards, normally with the wrong birth date because he can’t remember what year I was born… [for instance, on my 21st birthday, he sent me a happy 16th, even though I was 16 the last time we seen each other!].

    Me and my mother have always had our ups and downs, and sometimes I’m not always happy to be around her [and she is super pessimistic, pushy, and often times mean], but her and her husband have done more for me than my father has ever do, and have supported me in horrible times.


    Post # 5
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Whoops, forgot to add that we will have to make the aisle larger to accommodate my mother, her husband and me in my really poofy ballgown.. but we are going to make it work!

    Post # 6
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Long story but I plan to walk alone.

    BUT I don’t do well with all eyes on me, I keep having dreams I take off running in fear.  So we are working on a couple plans, like my uncle comes and gets me if I panic.  Or the groom does that too.  Or even cousins/ushers step up too.  But I am determained to walk alone!  So as long as I can see my sweetie I should be fine!

    Post # 7
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My mom walked me down the aisle

    Post # 8
    659 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m not married yet, but my Mum will be walking me down the aisle : )

    Post # 9
    38 posts
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My brother is doing as my Dad’s a minister so he’s actually marrying us Smile Originally my Mum was going to do it as my brother’s also a groomsman, but she really wanted to have that moment of seeing her son giving away her daughter, so I’m happy to give her that.


    OP, how wide is your aisle? Could they both give you away? Or perhaps if your father gives you away, give your grandfather a speech at the reception (or the other way around) so that they both have their moment. 

    Post # 10
    1690 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My mom and my step dad walked me down the aisle. My real dad got the first dance. 

    Post # 12
    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Both of my parents walked me down the aisle. If I was you, maybe have grandpa walk you down, or grandpa and mom. 

    Post # 13
    2630 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I voted other – the groom and I walked in together.

    Post # 14
    319 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @FutureMrsMonit:  I had the same situation- I was thinking about asking my grandfather and then my mom got mad and insisted she walk me…  I’ve decided to walk alone!

    Post # 15
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @FutureMrsMonit:  My situation is very similar my dad (step dad) was my dad for years, BUT things came up later that seperated us quite apart.  My other step dad passed away a couple years ago.  I have 4 brothers (1 passed away) I’m not close too and even if they are able to make it (all 3 are out of state) I wouldn’t want them to walk me.  I have a couple uncles that have played “dad” in my life.  My FI, asked one uncle for my hand.

    I decided to walk alone only in order not to offend or honor one more than the others.  Keeps things neutral, to broken of an immediate family to cause any more damage over something like this.

    I have 2 friends that married girls from the Phillipines there is a cultural thing that I REALLY Like that I plan to do in my own wedding.  At the beginning of the wedding is the sitting of honored guest.  They can be walk in either as a couple or with an usher.  For instance, I will have his Elder Pastor & his wife walk in, my sisters and any brothers escorted in at the beginning of the ceremony.   Also have my step dad, walk in by my niece. I have a couple people, it will be quick but still gives honor to those family members and family members in my life.

    Hope that helps!


    Post # 16
    10837 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Glasgowbound: Same! 

    I would’ve had my Grandad to walk me down the aisle, but sadly he is no longer here.

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