Did someone's pregnancy affect your wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did someone's pregnancy affect your wedding?
    Yes - caused quite a bit of trouble : (12 votes)
    11 %
    Yes - didn't cause too much trouble : (33 votes)
    30 %
    No : (66 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    FI and I both have brothers who are having a baby almost exactly on our wedding day. My brother will be attending, FI’s brother will not.

    Post # 4
    6633 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yes and no. I was the one who was pregnant at my own wedding. It did put a little damper on since couldn’t drink at my own bach party.  And I was pretty tired on the actual wedding day.  But we survived it with no huge blimp on the day 

    Post # 5
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    One of my MOH’s was 3 months prego with twins…didn’t negatively affect the wedding but it was hard NOT telling everybody since I was so excited for them! 

    Post # 6
    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @mscuppycake:  my FI’s cousins wife is due the month before our wedding so there is a good chance he might be short a groomsman. One of my BM will be about 7 months pregnant too…so it will be interesting lol

    Post # 7
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @mscuppycake:  My Aunt had her baby the night before the wedding and she was going to be reading something she wrote at the reception. She wasn’t able to make it but we understood that she needed to be with her tiny little man! Luckily she emailed a copy of what she was plannning on saying 🙂 

    Post # 8
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We had 2 pregnancies on our 35 person guest list. One was no big deal. We just made sure she got her filet well done due to her concerns about eating undercooked beef. The other ended up not being able to attend the wedding because of the pregnancy. It was not an easy pregnancy, there were several hospital stays along the way, and it just was not safe for them to travel to attend our wedding. It was a huge bummer for them to not be there, but we totally understood.

    Post # 9
    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    We had a groomsmen who’s gf was given a due date of either Sept 10th, or Sept 20th. Our wedding was Sept. 21st 😛  It really didn’t effect us much because we were sohappy for them!  He was/is over the moon about his new son 🙂  We let him skip the rehearsal dinner, and his gf ended up not being able to come.


    The only thing it “affected” was we kind of had to wait until last minute to decide if he was coming to the rehearsal dinner, staying overnight, and when she had their son on Sept 2nd she originally said she would be trying to come.  It ended up she just couldnt but honestly I expected it! Only 3 weeks after giving birth I don’t plan on going ANYWHERE if I can help it lol.


    One of DH’s cousins wasn’t able to come, but thats because she also had a wee tiny baby, and it ended up raining on our wedding day.  THey just didn’t know if it would be good to bring him down, since even though we had a tent, it was pouring while we were under it at the reception. They played it safe and they definitely should have!!

    ETA:  We also had my brother, who was an usher (16 yrs old) buy the exact same suit as the groomsmen then, just in case he was to be a “stand in groomsman” in addition to being an usher.  And in the end, he had to walk TWO bridesmaids into the reception.  While they were taking pictures before the ceremony, one groomsman got a call that his younger stepsister had been killed in a car crash. It was horribly sad. He wasn’t super close with that part of the family, I don’t think, but he and the new dad groomsman drove down together, so they left together right after the ceremony.

    Post # 10
    2395 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I scheduled my wedding around my sister’s pregnancy! She was my MOH and best friend, so it was no big deal. My niece was 3 weeks old at the wedding – those are some cute photos 🙂

    Post # 11
    6171 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    one wife did not attend because she had given birth a month before, but her husband still came.

    another couple did not attend because his wife was due around our wedding. they are DH’s friends so i don’t know exactly when they had the kid.

    another wife of a groomsman had a 1 1/2 month old at the time of our wedding.  she is breast feeding.  she pumped ahead of time and left the baby with her mother.

    we did not have anyone pregnant (that we know of at our wedding)

    we had no issues, no kids were invited and no kids asked to come.

    Post # 12
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    One of my bridesmaids stepped down, because she was on bed rest, but I didn’t hold it against her. 


    Post # 13
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @mscuppycake:  My sister (Matron of Honor) was due with her second child a week after our wedding day (our wedding day was planned before she got pregnant). It caused some friction at first because we were like “err…are you going to give birth at our wedding?”.  Obviously the likelihood of that was slim, but we were worried about it nonetheless.  She ended up giving birth at 34 weeks and my nephew had to stay in the NICU for a week, but mostly for observation as he was birthed weighing almost 6 lbs! Big baby.  Anyway, the only issue we had was that my sister missed most of the pictures because she had to drop baby off with the babysitter and to pump and to care for baby.  I’m not mad that she missed the pictures, because I understand her reasons, but I think she was really disappointed that she wasn’t able to be in all the pictures.  We just weren’t able to wait for her and keep on our timeline (that we were already behind on).  It sucks, but it is what it is. 


    Post # 14
    38 posts
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @mscuppycake:  I am having this exact issue – we’re getting married next April, sent out our STDs several months again, and FI’s best man has announced his partner (they don’t believe in marriage) is pregnant with their second. I’m worried because their due date is only two weeks before the wedding – their firstborn was was born early so they’re just assuming that this one will be too, and have waved it off as two weeks being plenty of time. FI is worried that his best man might not be there now, but I am actually really annoyed – it was a planned baby, and although I don’t expect people to rearrange their lives around our wedding this couple knew our date and that they were a crucial part of it, and I wish they could have waited just a month. Their first born (who’ll only be 18 months) is a very clingy child as they don’t socialise her properly, and she’s going to hate having another baby around so I’m worried the ceremony will be punctuated by her crying and whining as her Mum will be distracted looking after a newborn. FI is going to tell her she’ll have to sit at the back and if either baby starts crying she’ll have to take them outside. That’s fine – I’m more worried about them not being able to make it as we aren’t getting married in our home town, so if she’s overdue FI will lose his best man.  


    Post # 15
    3989 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    OP, if the baby is two months then why wouldn’t the best man come by himself and his wife stay home?

    Post # 16
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @KateByDesign:  +1.  I would hope the guy could still come and mom and baby could be on their own for a couple days.

    We are in our early 30s and have a bunch of friends who have had babies in the past year, but they were all 3+ months old at the time of our wedding.  Thankfully NOBODY canceled – they either had a family member watch the baby for the night, or they brought the baby and hung out until ~9 pm.  Really happy our friends weren’t dropping like flies because of the babies 🙂

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