Post # 1
Last night, we got together for dinner with another couple. We hadn’t seen them in quite some time and somehow a story of something that happened over the weekend came up. In the story, I was super annoyed with DH for doing what I wanted him to – and my annoyance was evident in the story telling.
I kind of glossed it over, but I was mad at myself, because I didn’t want the story to be a husband bashing session and I want to be the type of wife that builds up her husband in front of other people vs. tearing him down.
I’m trying to decide if I mention anything to hubs about feeling bad for telling the story. I’m not sure if he even picked up on it – so, in telling him – maybe it would make him feel bad, where he didn’t feel bad before.
I think if I still feel bad about it by the time I go home tonight, I’ll mention something… I guess I just feel bad in general for what transpired.
Post # 3
I think I would say something just to let him know that you’re aware of how your story came across and that you’ll make a conscious effort not to let it happen again in the future. Honestly, you could tell him everything you just told us. You’re a great wife for wanting to build up and support your husband!
Post # 4
You are only human and sometimes, our emotions get the best of us. I don’t think you need to mention it to your husband unless you absolutely feel you need to 🙂
Post # 5
I would apologize regardless of how he may or may not have taken it. DH and I are like that and apoloize when we know that our hearts weren’t right on a subject. *sigh*
I would just say like
“Hey I kinda feel like I wasn’t very uplifting in sharing that story last night… Sorry if it made you feel bad in anyway.. I love you so much and you’re such a wonderful husband.. I don’t want to make you feel any different!”
I’m sure that if it didn’t bother him he’ll be fine with you apologizing b/c it bothered you and if it did kinda bother him he’ll feel affirmed that you still think he’s all that 😉
Post # 6
I would mention something – that way he knows you are aware of it.
I feel the same way, I don’t want to be the kind of wife who tells negative stories about my husband all the time, and if I was a bit fustrated and told a story in front of him to outsiders, I would feel bad too.
Post # 7
I agree…even if he did not notice he will appreciate hearing you say that you appreciate him.
Post # 8
That is always so awkward, and it happens to us all the time. The other night we were over at friends’ for dinner and they brought up something that had happened that was a bit of a sore spot between FI and I (unbeknownst to them) and it was very uncomfortable. It happens, but as long as you communicate clearly between yourselves and it’s clear you love him and he loves you, don’t worry too much about it!
Post # 9
UPDATE: So, last night, hubby and I were talking and he asked me how I thought last night went. I know the instance in my head was NOT what he was referring to, but I couldn’t hold it in any longer. I told him I felt like I owed him an apology for not reflecting him in the best light.
Here’s the kicker: HE HAD NO CLUE WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT.
And – the FUNNIER thing – was he thought I was annoyed at the particular situation for an entirely different reason.
Anyway – it was all good – conscience cleared, lesson learned, and hubby feeling fine. Triple win!
Post # 10
Ha ha! Yay for triple wins! I’m glad it all turned out so well. 🙂