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I have posted about this before. All of a sudden after we got engaged I was enemy numero uno. It began with her not wanting him to as much spend money on a ring as he wanted and now she just hates everything. I'm taking her son away, he never talks to her anymore, blah blah blah
FMIL loves me and thinks I'm perfect for her son (apparently FFIL and FMIL decided this from the first day they met me), but she was less than thrilled when we told them we got engaged. We got hesitant congratulations. She's just really protective of her little boy, meh. FFIL, meanwhile, was ecstatic.
i LOVE my FMIL. she is the BEST. simply the best. when we go to visit, she always has presents for me waiting in our room (new bathrobe, some yummy soap, a fancy jelly, whatever). she makes sure they have skim milk (they like 2%) which i like. when they go on trips, she sends me postcards. she ALWAYS wants to hear my boring stories, always tells me how wonderful i am, the list goes on....
i. love. her.
yeah she was excited. I think she knew it would happen since we've been together so long, so we had talked about it.
But definitely excited for us, i think she was somewhat surprised that we were waiting to not only to get engaged but even to have the wedding too. I think she would have rather things happen sooner but owell :) i think our relationship has stayed the same though, not closer nor farther apart relationship wise.
She was very excited! Her and FFIL have joked on many occasions that if FI broke up with me, they'd like to keep me instead of him lol. I know that I am EXTREMELY lucky!
She was excited until we revealed our "non-traditional" reception plans (really not that untraditional, but they aren't impressed)
she was so excited. my engagement ring is a family ring, originally his great grandmas, but before me she was wearing it and was trying to get him to give it to me two months after we met (he did it 11 months after). when he did propose, she wrote us a cute card about how special it was to give us her ring.
my FMIL was VERY excited, she went straight to the " oh my grandchildren are going to be so beautiful" LOL We've become closer during the whole wedding process to, we understand each other a lot better.
We have dated for 4 yrs...and I've yet to meet his family 
Once changed the second we told FI we were expecting a baby. She is the first grandchild and FMIL didn't feel she was ready to be a Granma yet (her exact words and no this feeling hasn't changed in 18 months)
So our engagement still isn't really recognized be FMIL. I was introduced as his girlfriend at Christmas and we have been engaged for almost 2 years.
DH and I have been together for almost 8 years now. MIL and I got along for the first 7 years, she even considered me to be her daughter. Then a few months after he proposed and she went on this "this is how a wedding should be and your ideas aren't good enough' rampage. Now we don't even speak. Oh, did I mention that I think DH has mommy issues and she has attachment issues... well, I think after we almost called off the wedding, the mommy issues has somewhat disappeared. Her on the otherhand, still a witch.
Hopefully things won't change from the way they are. I expect she'll be a bit excited, unless somehow BF's sister gets engaged/sets a date/seals the deal before we do.
I think she'd be more excited about being able to plan a wedding, but like I said to my friend, she's got her own daughter who has similar taste, she can plan when it's BF's sister's turn.
She did go from harassing us to get married to telling us not to get married, marriage was crap all in the course of a dinner... so we'll see.
Mine was very excited. She said it was about da** time!!!
She does have a point. We have been together for just over 9 years.
My FMIL was shocked when we told her we were engaged (although neither of our fathers were), but she was, and is, excited about it. FI's parents like me. Its only his younger brother that's been a pain in my behind since the announcement. He went from being a pretty okay guy to being an all out, complete jerk. My urge to smack him is getting worse and worse. We used to visit every single weekend, but he's so unpleasent to me that we've not been to visit in almost a month. Ergg...
however, my FMIL is awesome. She was the only one who would go dress shopping with me (both my mother and sister basically told me to sod off and my friends acted like I was asking them to come get extensive dental surgury done with me.). FFIL and FMIL have come to all our major meetings- caterers, DJs, etc. and FMIL and I e-mail back and forth about details all the time. Love her! :D
Our engagement was A LONG TIME COMING!!!! So everyone including FMIL was just ecstatic.
There was no 'she finally acknowledged my existance' option.^^ Now we have a pretty good relationship and she's ecstatic to visit my home country for the wedding there.
My FMIL and I were friendly prior to the engagement. She apparently really liked me. Then we got engaged and went through a very rough patch for a bout a yr. This past holiday season things were better, but who knows.
We didn't get along amazingly while my Mr. and I were dating, but I enjoyed hanging out with her and she was always very sweet - she just called me by his ex-girlfriend's name a lot and was a little weird about me coming to family stuff in the beginning. After we got engaged, she came and visited us at our new apartment and launched into her turbulent history with FFIL (they're divorced). I'm a pretty positive person, so I couldn't take all the trash talking. I finally stood up to her and asked why she was dumping this all on me, and she said (AND I QUOTE) "you didn't matter before when you were just dating Mr. O...you could have been gone any second. Now that you're getting married you're important and you need to know these things." She's suddenly become jealous, irrational, and insanely manipulative. It makes me really sad, honestly.
Sorry there was no "she decided the wedding was all about her and left me in the dust!" option so I didn't vote.
(First thing she said when I said we're engaged? I KNOW. Had to make sure I knew he told his mom. Crazy horrible woman.)
she was happy for us. 100%.
99.9% of the time we get along, we have a MIL/DIL relationship that i am GRATEFUL to have...!
BUT, i have noticed since we've moved into our house (post engagement)... emotionally, she is a LOT more sensitive than she used to be... esp with FI's attention to her.
i LOVE my mother in law, but i think she's definitely going thru the normal withdrawal symptoms of letting her only son go to his soon to be wifey.
I think she's excited and has been a lot more close lately and seems like she would like to get even closer. She calls me more and tells me not to hesitate to give her a call to catch up. Still kinda weird for me though, she has always been nice, but I just don't want to get too close.
I love FMIL. We were close before the engagement and it's even better now. She had started wondering (and constantly asking FSIL) when her son would propose. I kind of enjoy FMIL more than my mother these days...mom caught the crazy when I got engaged.
She didn't really react much besides the congrats. Or maybe she was just more excited to my FI than me. But now that we are married I feel more accepted and welcomed into the family by her. She wrote some really nice things in our guest book and I will always remember them. She's one of those lady's who doesn't really express feelings much, but it was nice to read what she said in our guestbook.
Don't even get me started. Let's just say, Mr. Rainbow's brother is the "favorite". My FMIL has thrown about 3 or 4 parties for my FBIL and his wife, but Mr. Rainbow and I? Not one. Most of her friends didn't even know that we were engaged until Mr. Rainbow's grandmother's funeral in December... so... YEAH.
She made what should have been a completely happy & exciting time turn into drama. She was so extremely upset that she wasn't the absolute very first person to know about it that she cried and cried. Talk about an awkward visit! She also said that she never thought my fiance would propose to me...um, thanks?
I've honestly never really felt like she's liked me, though. I think she just more or less tolerates me.
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