(Closed) Did the wedding change anything?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not at all!  So when people often ask, "How’s married life?" I’m always like, "Uh, pretty much the same as before!" 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

For me, the biggest difference is that there’s no eject button… even in a committed relationship, you can always break up by mutual consent (or even if only one of you want to).

But now there’s a mutual decision not to consider that option – and that took some getting used to!  That said, it really helps solidify the idea that you’re a team that’s committed to working through anything together!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

sounds silly but married seems more like we are a stable unit. not just two people, but a unit. we’re on the same team, moreso than before.

Post # 7
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i noticed my husband seems to have forgotten my name and introduces me to people or has conversations and refers to me as just "my wife"  🙂

 

Post # 8
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796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Day to day doesn’t really feel different; we lived together for a while too before we got married. But I think Mrs. Bird of Paradise is right, the feeling of being a more solidified team is there. And the pressure for grandkids is real, and intense, now that we’re married. 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i am not yet married, but i’ve heard that things change. i’m okay with change…things are always changing. but, i don’t feel being married should mean we should feel more committed to each other. i would not want to marry someone who does not feel fully committed to me….married or not. sometimes, i feel not being married could also mean more of a committment. when you’re married, it’s harder to break-up…..what with lawyers and such. there are people who stay together just because it’s easier than getting a divorce. it doesn’t mean they are committed to each other (except on paper).

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ha! I just had this discussion with everyone. They want to know how it "feels" to be married.

My boring response? "Um….the same…." Because we’re just legally bound now. We’re married, sure, but it’s not like we’re two different people suddenly. I think you’re setting yourslef up for failure if you think marriage is going to be this huge "omg it feels so different!" point in your relationship. Some things are different, particularly if you haven’t lived together and stuff, but to me, it doens’t feel any different than it did a month ago. He and I are still the same couple we always were….  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I don’t think it changed much for us in terms of our daily life.  We do pretty much the same things as we did before, especially since we lived together before we got married.  However, I think it changes how other people see us–especially our families.  We dealt with this while we were engaged, but I think being married has changed our family dynamic in some respects. 

Also, we’ve always spent holidays separately and this year, we’re trying to work out a solution so that we can see each other AND spend time with our respective families.  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Alot of people have asked us if we feel different, but we really dont.  Other than having a new last name and saying "husband" and "wife", it feels the same.  Weve been together for 6 years by the time we got back from our honeymoon so it really didnt feel all that different (other than being sad the wedding is over!)

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