Post # 1
Have any of you traveled with your SO?
How long did you travel together?
What kind of awkward/scary/weird/stressful situations did you face together? Did these situations unite or divide you?
Do you think travelling well together is indicative of a good relationship?
Lastly, do you think that the traveling made you stronger as a couple?
I’m not talking 1 week all-inclusives, but if that is the travel experience you have, feel free to talk about it too.
Post # 3
We did 12 days in Wales and England. Our luggage was lost for the first 5 days, we struggled with the differences in driving, I lost my wallet with ALL my documents in it (only for an hour…fortunately the bus we were on passed in the other direction and it was still there!), we got crazy lost driving around Brecon National Forest.
We’ve done several week long camping trips – not loop camping, I’m talking canoeing for 2 hours until you find the site you like, digging a hole to toilet in, and so on. Each one has gotten a little more challenging.
We’ve done plenty of weekend and 4/5 day getaway roadtrips too, with car breakdowns, getting lost. etc.
Between all of those things, we definitely bonded, learned about each other, and most certainly strengthened our relationship.
Post # 4
I guess I should answer my own thread questions!
My FI and I (Before we were engaged) traveled throughout South East Asia for 6 months together. This was both our first time on a major trip and I think that we got through the experience remarkably well. There were a lot of situations that we were faced with that could have been difficult if we didn’t work as a team, but most of the time it was a breeze. There were two times where we experienced theft first hand and both times we could have played the blame game about who’s fault it was, but instead we decided that there was no use making the situation worse by blaming eachother.
We have also driven across Canada, as well as been on a 3-week Atlantic Canada camping trip. Usually takes us a few days to get into the groove of being with eachother for that amount of time and we generally tend to bicker in the beginning. We always have a ton of fun regardless of what challenges we face.
I think through our traveling experiences we have learned to work as a team, and most importantly not place the blame on the other person (even if it was their fault) because it just makes a bad situation even worse.
I definitely believe our travels have influenced us in many ways including what kind of relationship and future we want together. We’ve seen eachother at our very worst (explosive food poisoning) and seen eachother at our best in some of the most life altering experiences (Bathing elephants at a rescue).
Post # 5
My SO has driven me across the country a couple of times for school. The first time was after we’d been together for just 3 months. I think we were both a little scare of what 30 hours in the car together could do to us, but everything was fine and I think it was actually a lot of fun for both of us. I know that’s probably not the type of travelling you are talking about either, but we’ve done other vacations together also.
I think most of the other vacations have been 1 week cruise/all inclusive type vacations/ trips to see friends/family or weekend trips.
I think travelling well together is definitely indicitave of a good relationship. Lots of unexpected an maybe stressful things pop and it’s a good way to see how you can face challenges together. I think I was most impressed with him on a long hike we went on last summer. I would have quit if he wasn’t there, he was really good about pushing me in a positive way. We’re planning the same hike again this summer, so in the end it turned out well.
Post # 6
I am in month 8 of an extended travel adventure with my husband. We have traveled in China, Malaysia, Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, Thailand, New Zealand, and Canada (we live in the states).
Besides the obvious incredible logistical challenges of not having a “real” home anymore, packing up your life, and being in completely foreign enivronments all the time where you don’t speak the language, and don’t know much about the culture (which is also part of the fun!!), my husband fell incredibly ill with amoebic dysentary while we were in Cambodia, and relapsed in Laos, causing us to take an emergency flight to Thailand for medical care. There will never be anything that could bond us more than sleeping side by side in a rural Cambodian clinic, willing him to make it through the night, or navigating Bangkok to get my husband to one of their (excellent) international hospitals.
Besides that, being together in hostel/hotel rooms 24 hours a day and having to decide on the logistics of extended travel as you go along (you can’t pre-plan an 8-month trip!!) really showed us how to disagree with each other in healthy ways (since there’s no buffer, and no where to escape to!), and also showed us how to let our very different personalities work together in the most stressful of situations.
We know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that we can make it in any situation for the long haul. So glad that we learned everything that we did before kids!
Post # 7
@crayfish: We’ve been to a lot of the same countries!! I can definitely relate with everything you’ve said. You can’t escape and you’re forced to deal with any kind of conflict that arises. A lot of the time you feel completely like it’s only you two especially in countries where you don’t speak the language. Is your husband feeling better now?
Post # 8
Fi and I have traveled a lot through our relationship. we have been on a cruise to alaska, mexico 2 times, vegas, short trips, and backpacking in thailand. traveling can be stressful in a relationship because you are together more. we have gotten into fights during our travels but int he end, this has only made us stronger. we know why we got into fights and we now know (in all our travel history) to let eachother have their alone time and we’re god again. we have travel plans in the future so it hasnt ruined us yet.
our biggest was a 2 and a half week trip to thailand, we were pretty good most of the time and we were also with 2 other couples (friends of ours) we got into small arguments, but another couple we were with, got into a big argument for the evening and she was ready to pack her bags to leave him and go to Laos… they talked it over and theyre still going strong a year and a half later and actually they just got back from one of their trips to japan!!
Post # 9
@blueskye: Yes! 100% better :-). They gave him the wrong medication in Cambodia, but the doctors in Thailand really knew their stuff. Thank god for travel health insurance – we ended up only having to pay $200 for a total bill over $2,000!
Post # 10
BF and I went to Vegas for 5 days, just the two of us, and it went pretty well. Then in December we went to Florida for a week and went to a NFL game and Disney/Sea World. We went with his friend, friend’s wife and his brother.
The only problem we had was I don’t have his endurance (BF is like crazy athletic, he runs marathons and triathalons and ultra marathons [where you run furthr than a marathong, his goal this year is to do a double marathon on a trail, which is harder than a road race]). I on the other hand have trouble running a 5k (I’m working on it though, hopefully I’ll be good to go for our next trip).
Also, I was not a fan of going with the other couple. The more time I spend with BF’s friend’s wife, the less I like her. BF isn’t too happy about that, but she did a lot of things that annoyed me, like questioning my purchases at the outlet mall we went to (she thought $30 was too much to spend on a cashmere sweater from Barney’s, and thought that I just spent too much money in general at the outlet mall, which is really none of her business. BF goes on a trip with them every year, and I can see that this might cause a problem down the road, because I either just won’t go, which will cut down on our together trip budget, or I’ll just get really annoyed with her and the trip will end in disaster. It’s something BF and I will have to talk about if he/we ever decide to go on a trip with them again. I’d totally go on a trip with BF and his brother again though.
Post # 11
FI and I went backpacking through India/Thailand /Malaysia and Sri Lanka and yes, it does make you stronger (or break you up!). It just presents you wiht situations where you either have someone to support and understand you, or you don’t. I think it’s a great, great idea to do this. Better not to have something to regret…i’m learning this now as I wish we had the chance to travel again together 🙂
Post # 12
We havent travelled for fun much since FI is in tourism management. We did move half way accross the country for 3 months within the first year of use meeting which was very interesting. We decided to come back and settle in. Im trying to get him down to Peru for a while and Costa Rica but who knows when we will have the time.
Post # 13
We haven’t gone on vacations overseas, but we went on a long weekend about three hours away just a couple of months after we started dating. I was actually nervous at first, but it went really well. We didn’t live together at the time, but it turns out we were comfortable together.
Last year, before we moved in together, we went to New Orleans and it was one of the best trips I have been on. I’m hoping in the future we will do a lot more traveling together. He really is the person I like to spend my time with.
Post # 14
absolutely. We drove across the country together – when they are literally the only other person for you to depend on, and you have to work together, the relationship is definitely strengthened.