Post # 1
My cousin is getting married soon, and her bridal shower was this past Sunday. My mother and I went together to get her a gift card to one of her places of registry. Well, when she opened the card, she noticed that just her name was on it, and she gave a little “huh” remark. Since it was a bridal shower and not a couples shower, we just put her name on it. If it had been lingerie we would not have put his name on it. He was nowhere to be found that day, so it was just a bridal shower. Did we do something wrong?
Post # 2
Not that I know of.. I mean, as long as she doesn’t have the opinion already that you disapprove of her marriage, it’s most likely no big deal. If she does, then she may think that this is a snarky way of expressing that disapproval. But really, aside from that it seems like a complete non-issue.
Post # 3
No you didn’t. Sure the gifts are for both of them, but you are only showering her that day. Not him. Don’t worry about it. I had my shower a couple weeks ago and my FI wasn’t mentioned on any of the cards or anything.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - hotel
Could she have been saying ‘huh’ as in thinking ‘ooh it’s only in my name, I can get myself something heheee’ kind of way. I know I’d be feeling a little guilty about wanting to spend money on myself so would probably come across awkwardly.
But if she was being funny about it, it’s her problem not yours.
Post # 5
No I think you’re fine! As PP mentioned it was a shower for her not both of them!
Post # 6
Nope, I don’t think you did anything wrong by writing just her name. I’m pretty sure the vast majority of my shower gifts were addressed only to me. Who knows what the “huh” was for…
Post # 7
Maybe she was expecting gifts from the registry and it hadn’t occurred to her that people sometimes get gift cards for people for where they ae registered as well and she was reacting to the gift card rather than what was written in the card.
Post # 8
What? Did she say thank you? Maybe she was just reading the card.
Post # 9
All of my shower cards were addressed to me, and not us as a couple – as it was not a couples shower. I wouldn’t have thought twice!
You did not do anything wrong!
Post # 10
I don’t see a problem with what you did. Tons of people address bridal shower gifts to the bride only since she’s the guest of honor. If it was a couples shower, I could see where including both names would be more necessary.
Post # 11
brendaray2009: I always thought that bridal shower is the presents for the BRIDE as opposed to Wedding gifts – presents for the couple?
Post # 12
Where I’m from people only give physical gifts at showers, maybe it was the gift card that threw her off, not the name. Not like it’s bad to give a gift card, it might just have been unexpected!
Post # 13
It’s a BRIDAL shower. Yes, you know the guy is likley going to use or “enjoy” the gift, but it’s a party for the BRIDE, so of course the gifts would be addressed to her. If the “huh” was actually over that then she needs a lesson in being more gracious. Please tell me the “huh” was at least followed by a thank you…
Post # 14
brendaray2009: I see no problem with what you did. I never address a bridal shower card to the couple, just the bride.
Post # 15
cpick: No, she registered for gift cards as well. She gushed over the gift cards my aunt gave her, and they were not even for the store she is registered at!