Did you always find your SO attractive?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
2578 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I met my DH on ICQ Messenger (started off platonic), so the attraction really came from his personality and conversation. Of course he sent me pictures, but it really was his personality that pulled me in. We ‘met’ after 5 months of talking online/phone and the physical attraction was definitely there, as well, even though he wasn’t really my ~type~ (as funny/weird as that sounds)… I feel that I fell for him for who he was and how he made me feel, rather than for his looks. That being said, after 13 1/2 years together, I find him incredibly sexy and can’t get enough of him. I tell him every day. He’s my Woobie. <3

Post # 3
15 posts

I suggest seeing guys that are kinda “meh/ okay” in their photos in person…

I’m an online dater…and let me tell you…many men do not look like their pictures. If their face looks like their pictures, their body doesn’t. Even if they seem great online – they are shockingly scary in person. My FI looked better in person than the picture…he says the same about me (yay!).

Try OkCupid. 🙂


  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  AML8.
Post # 4
4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I didn’t meet my SO online, we actually met in high school. When I transferred I thought he was weird, gross and probably didn’t shower often. I’m not sure why I thought these things but that was my impression lol We just started being friends and connecting and our relationship/attraction grew from there.  And I also know now that he takes multiple showers a day and I’m more gross than he is haha 

Post # 5
857 posts
Busy bee

SittingWaitingWishing:  I am back on online dating myself. I find that my online dates some seem better looking in person than their pictures, some worse looking and same just as I expected from thier profile. I try to keep an open mind thru the entire date. By the end of the date some seem even more attractive and some less so. So in my experience if your on the fence about thier looks, give it a try anyway and meet them! You might be surprised!

Post # 6
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We met in high school. I didn’t find him physically attractive at all actually, it was his nerdiness and shared morals that really got me interested. Not to say he’s a bad looking guy but I still would not be attracted to his face if I was looking for a man. But I’m attracted to his face in the sense that any time I see him I’m filled with love. 

Post # 9
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

SittingWaitingWishing:  I didn’t think FI was necessarily unattracted, but he wasn’t the most handsome guy I had in the rotation. He was my boss and we quickly grew to be friends and then eventually lovers. It wasn’t in immediate sort of attraction, but the more I got to know him, the more I realized what a beautiful person he is. He is handsome, but it was his kindness that won me over. 

Post # 10
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Yes, I did. I can say he’s grown even more attractive with love though

Post # 11
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Industrial/Modern

I’ve known my fiance for almost 13 years (the majority of that time in a friend capacity)… I’ve always had a thing for him and found him attractive. 

Post # 12
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I met my SO on match. It was definitely NOT list at fie add t sight for me! I had such a great time talking to him that I kept going out with him. My sister and best friend were encouraging me to continue seeing him. He’s a n ex football player. 6’5, shaved bald head and a big teddy bear. So not my usual thin, dorky nerd type. Lol. By our 4th date I thought he was cute. A few weeks in and I was hooked. Now I look at him and see him for the sexy beast he is. Lol. It took time though. I’m so thankful now that I kept seeing him with an open mind and didn’t friend zone him right away because he didn’t fit the picture in my head. 

Post # 13
332 posts
Helper bee

SittingWaitingWishing:  I didn’t meet DH online. However, I did my fair share of online dating prior to meeting him. I know this isn’t a direct answer to your question, but best advice I can give anyone who does online dating is to go into every “date” with very low expectations, and an open mind. Do not write someone off because they have an average-Joe appearance.

No, you may not find your future husband right away. However, you will inevitably meet a lot of great people who could end up being great friends if you keep an open mind…. Even if there is no romantic connection. I met a few awesome guys on Eharmony that I didn’t hit it off with romantically, but are still AWESOME friends of mine to this day. Some who have helped me out in my toughest times. I sincerely feel like that was the most valuable thing that came out of online dating for me. Totally worth it.

Like a PP said, personality can KILL any attraction for a guy who is handsome online and it can have the opposite effect on a guy who you did not think was up to your physical standards. My absolute worst dates ever were with a couple guys that I thought I would be most attracted to. They sometimes were the most socially awkard and/or cocky, piggish men. There’s really no way to know until you give them any potential interests a fair shot. 

Now, to answer your actual question… Yes, while I did not think my DH was my epitome of hot and sexy when I first saw him, there was something completely striking about him that I couldn’t quite put my finger on. Something about the way he carried himself. That’s something you can’t see or judge online. We only had a few minutes of VERY limited conversation in a work setting, but I was def intrigued by him. Apparently it went both ways, because we couldn’t forget about eachother and he ended up tracking me down over a month later. His humble and sweet personality is what made me absolutely adore him on the first date. That alone is what made him completely drop-dead gorgeous to me. 

So, you never really know what your future holds. You could end up with the one guy you would have least expected. Just have an open mind and have a blast with it while you can! 

Post # 14
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - My parents' back yard

SittingWaitingWishing:  I didn’t even think about it at first. I was kind of seeing someone else, so when I met my now husband through a friend, everyone was just having drinks and talking – I actually asked him his opinion about my boy situation, haha. Also a couple of my other friends were into him because he is Australian and I didn’t want to be a part of that. Once we met up and talked more we really connected and I realised that I found him really attractive, and that we loved being together.

Post # 15
8679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My husband and I started off LDR, so our relationship was built on everything that wasn’t physical.<br /><br />Yes, I always see attractive things in him.

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