Post # 1
I’m curious I guess.
I am only 20. I’m not planning to have a child for the next 5-10 years if at all. I don’t feel like I have a ‘mothering’ instinct. It could just be because i’m young, but I wanted to see if there was a time for you guys when you developed that, or if you always knew you wanted children.
FH and I have lots of animals, and I think of them as my babies (i know that’s a pet peeve for some people, but that’s how I see them, I love them with all my heart). I don’t get all gushy over babies, i’m more worried that i’ll accidently hurt them, or that they’ll puke all over me, but show me an animal and I squeal like a kid at christmas. My friend has a baby, and I have fed and held him before, but I just don’t get clucky! Any time I tell someone I don’t know If I want children, they tell me i’m nuts or think i’m some kind of cyborg! I told my mum about how I wonder if i’ll ever want kids and she said at my age she felt the same way, but eventually wanted children a lot. Was it like this for anyone else, or did you always want kids?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
For a while in my mid-20s I thought i might not want children. Mostly, I was concerned about the overpopualtion of our planet and the fact that our world is so hostile to people in so many ways… what if my child were gay and had to face the discrimination of our world, the constant war, etc. In the end, the feeling that my child could help make the world a better place won out against the potential that the world is getting worse and not better and I was honestly encouraged by the election of Barack Obama in 2008. I can see a more open, loving America on the horizon. I just hope we get there. I’m due in January and it really does concern me that women still make so much less than men, that gay people can’t marry in most of this country, and that we often blame rape on the woman still.
Post # 4
I don’t have kids yet but I have always wanted to be a mom. It feels impossible at this point. I want to have kids but I don’t want to have someone else raise them because Fiance and I can’t afford for me to stay home.
Eff this economy.
Post # 5
For a long time I wasn’t sure if I wanted to have kids but it’s definitely changed in the past few years and now I know I want them for sure. Just need to figure out the logistics of which one of us will be able to stay home–I really, really hate the idea of daycare.
Post # 6
Until I was about 20, I was dead set against them. I wanted to be a balls to the wall career woman who spent her loads of money on fabulous luxuries and never had to worry about babies. Darling Husband convinced me, though. Through conversations with him and my own self-reflection, I came to realize that a more family-oriented life would make me happier. Changing your mind doesn’t happen all at once. I’d say it took about a year for me to be convinced that I want kids. Anyway, now I’m kind of baby crazy, and I cannot WAIT for Darling Husband and I to be parents!
Post # 7
I think baby fever often waits awhile to kick in. I wish mine had. I’ve wanted babies since I was like 17 (and am luckily married to a guy who wants a baby like yesterday, so we’re trying!). I wouldn’t worry about it. I mean, some people never wants kids, but sometimes you can be dead set against it and then wake up one day and really, really, really want a baby.
Post # 8
When I was 5, if someone asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would answer “vet or teacher or janitor or doctor. But most importantly, a mommy.”
So yes, I have always known I want to be a parent! 😛
Post # 9
I was 30 before it even crossed my mind seriously. 32 before I decided I wanted them, definitely.
Post # 10
Don’t want kids. 🙂
Never saw myself as a parent when I was younger.
Post # 11
I was never ever having kids – at exactly your age. Until my then fiance (now ex husband) and I went to the hospital about an hour after his niece was born. When I held her all just born and all, I changed my mind. Best decision I ever made, now I have a beautiful 8 yr old girl. Something just changed for me in that moment, holding not only a newborn but a 1 hour old baby. Pretty sure it was all I got from that relationship LOL
Post # 12
@mrsSonthebeach: those things are concerning – but the thing I find hopeful is that we can be raising the generation that changes all of those things for good. It’s all in what we teach them to be.
Post # 13
I was never one of those “I was meant to be a mom” type of people. I have friends whose biggest dream in life is to have kids, and that’s great, but that has never been me. In my late teens I debated whether I even wanted to have children, and if I did, maybe I would just adopt or foster.
Then I met my SO and after some time I got a bit of baby fever. As our lives are finally getting figured out and coming together, I’m thinking about five or 10 years down the road, and I see kids. I am so stinkin’ excited to have kids with him, and I have no doubts about wanting to someday be a mom.
Post # 14
I’ve always wanted to have kids 🙂
Post # 15
Thoughts about having children didn’t even hit my radar (or my friends) until we were 26-27 and then it was the only thing everyone was talking about. Maybe its a biological clock thing?
Post # 17
I was always dead in the middle (not on option on this poll). I thought I’d be happy to have kids if the right situation presented itself (happy partnership, stable mood, right timing) but that I’d be okay if that never happened.
Whereas some of my friends would be devastated not to be a mother. Now that the timing has worked out for me and I’m in a happy relationship with my husband — I’d be upset if we couldn’t have a child. But it was never the main priority in my life.