(Closed) Did you and your DH start a family earlier than you had planned?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Did you and your DH start a family earlier than you had planned?
    Yes : (14 votes)
    27 %
    No : (10 votes)
    20 %
    Kind of? : (5 votes)
    10 %
    We found ourselves ready before our actual plan to start a family. : (5 votes)
    10 %
    We were pregnant by accident/was a surprise to us! Oopsies! : (15 votes)
    29 %
    Other - please, do tell! : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Yes….but…. in our case it happened by accident. I was on the pill and found out I was pregnant shortly after the honeymoon.

    Do I regret it?

    Nope…..

    Post # 4
    Member
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yep! Me and my soon to be FI had a surprise baby.. oops! We wouldn’t change her for the world but trust me.. enjoy your time with just you and your DH. It’s always so much harder to steal alone time once you have kids.

    Post # 6
    Member
    924 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Yes and no.  We started trying three months earlier than we had planned because our situation changed and the one thing we were waiting on happened sooner than we’d thought it would.  It took us four months to conceive though, so we ended up starting at about the same time we’d talked about in the first place. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Yes… by accident. We found out we were going to have a baby 2 months and 1 day after we got married, so that means we conceived in the second cycle I had after the wedding… not planned. We were planning to wait probably 2 years until I was done with my PhD and had a longterm job. At least I got the PhD done a few months later, but now the little one is coming in less than a month and we’re really not in the best place financially to handle it, but then again, that’s from a fairly comfortable middle-class upbringing… many family raise children with much less.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    DH and I didn’t everything backwards… baby, house, THEN marriage. We were 21 and 24 (and together just shy of 3 years together) when our DD was conceived, but we made it work. Were we young? Sure. Do we wish we would have done the house/marriage thing before having a child? I know I wish we would have… but, sometimes things happen, and you have to roll with the punches.

    All of that aside, our DD is such a blessing, and I couldn’t picture our life without her.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1351 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I know exactly what you mean! I lived abroad for 3 yrs, DH partied hard in college with the boys while maintaining a 4.0 in accounting, DH got his masters, I graduated law school and passed the bar. I’ve traveled extensively, and DH has no interest in traveling. The ONLY thing we haven’t done is bought a house, which is what we’re waiting to do. We’ve been married almost a year. Not that we’re “bored,” like you said, but yeah, I get what you’re saying! We said 1-2yrs. It’s been 1yr. I’m ready to start now! I think we’re still going to at least wait until our 1yr anniversary in a coupel of months then start NTNT!

    Post # 12
    Member
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Haha, yup! We’d been together for a year when we had our final timeline talk: move in together, get engaged, buy a house, get married. The first cycle after we moved in together, we were pregnant!

    We stuck with the plan, bought a house when she was six months old, got engaged a few months after that, and then made it official this summer. DH is 35 and I’m 27 so it’s not like we’re kids or anything, and I am amazed at how much stronger our relationship (and now marriage) becomes as time moves on. We’re going to have #2 as soon as we can 🙂

    Post # 13
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is difficult for me to answer because… we got to a certain point and were okay with whatever happened. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    627 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’ve been married for 6 months and I’m 6 weeks pregnant. We were trying though. If it had been just his decision, he would have waited a couple years I think. He had some traveling that he would have liked to do and stuff. I really wanted to have kids now becuase I feel like it’s time, but he’s always known I wanted kids right away after being married. If we were younger, we prob would have waited for a couple years and done some more traveling, but I feel like I’m at the age where I want my kids. ( 28 in Jan )

    Post # 15
    Member
    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    No, for us we ended up pushing it back. We thought it’d be around per 2nd anniversary well that came and we decided to wait longer because I hadn’t gotten full time at my job yet. Well that didnt work out and we decided to look at my current schedule as a blessing and started trying just recently. I will say we had a discussion about every six months after we were married to see where we were and where we wanted to be before we had a kid. It helped us a lot to know what we wanted to accomplish or do before ttc and take a look and see where we were and if we were being realistic or not.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1351 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @Ellegee:  THANK YOU! YOu are proof people CAN buy a home after they have a baby/with an infant. I’ve read countless times on here how if you don’t buy home before baby, you’ll never be able to :/

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