Did you both have E-Rings?

posted 2 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 2
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432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My mom’s girlfriend recently proposed to her. The ring is a wide band with an inset diamond. Very much my mom’s style. I should mention that she is the more stereotypically feminine. After that they went to pick out a ring for the other partner. They had a hard time deciding what to get her, but after lots of shopping decided to get matching rings, both have diamonds. 

I don’t think there are any rules to what you should do. One of my favourite ring sets here belongs to a woman who occasionnally will post her wife’s equally blingy set. To me the only hard part is whether this engagement is going to be a surprise for your girlfriend. If she’s not expecting it, can she afford to buy a ring on short notice? If you two have a joint bank account that makes it easier for the asking partner to budget for two rings. Maybe buy both at once? Or talk to your girlfriend, set a date to propose and both come with rings for the other? Only you know what is right for your relationship in this regard. 

Congratulations and good luck ring shopping!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

uncltredpearl:  I have an e-ring while my FI doesn’t. I asked her if she wanted one and she said no lol. I think it would be cool for her to still get two rings though. She wants a blingy wedding band, but I know that she’ll probably want a plain one to wear occasionally too. I think it would be nice for her to have the option to wear one or the other or both together since I will have that luxury 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know there is a woman on here with a really pretty blue e-ring and she sometimes posts her partner’s, which also has a pretty blue stone.  Blue zircons maybe.  So, I think both partners can go pretty engagement type rings.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had a friend back in nursing school that got engaged to her partner last year and they both have rediculousLy pretty diamond engagent rings! I couldn’t imagine having to buy two diamons rings at once, I think is pass out! Lol

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Idk I guess it depends on the couple’s preferences–I’m hetero but I thought it was kinda sexist that I got a ring and my fiance didn’t-makes it seem more like territorial marking than a symbol of the bond between the couple. Just my 2 cents.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

uncltredpearl:  Sounds like you have this totally under control! Both those rings look great, and even if you went with the other one for yourself, they both have similar elements so would coordinate well together! Happy planning!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My wife and I both have rings. We went shopping for them together and each picked out what we wanted.

Hers is a .5 ct emerald cut set east-west:

 

Mine is an .5 ct round in a trellis:

And a pro pic from our wedding:

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you want a ring, get it! My husband wanted an engagement ring, so we got one for him! His ring is a fairly simple metal band with alternate brush paterns, but if he’d wanted some bling, that would have been fine. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

MrsMayaBee:  One of the rings my FI is considering is an east/west emerald from David Yurman (her fave jeweler). It looks a lot like your wife’s ring Tee hee!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lubeznik Center for the Arts

Both my partner and I are pretty feminine and have feminine style, so we both got e-rings. Here they are: 

Post # 15
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Newbee

Both my partner and I will have engagement rings. (We’re actually both going to do proposals as well. I’m buying her ring (with design input from her) and she’ll buy my ring (with design input from me)). They’ll be the same metal and same type of centre stone (not the same cut), but in different styles to suit our individual tastes.

I think one of the big advantages of a same-sex relationship is that you have the freedom to decide 100% what works for you both as a couple because there’s not really a societal expectation of how things “should” be done.

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