Post # 1
Following my post about what makes some “marriage material” I’m wondering if anyone here is doing anything (or did do anything, if you’re now engaged) to show that you were ready for marriage/ show that you’re wife material?
I’m not certainly not saying that you should be expected to change just so your man will propose, but just wondering if anyone did something like, say, cooking classes (or cooking more for him, if you live together) to show your domestic skills, going to the gym (to work on your image and look your best for him), or making a few career moves.
Keen to know what (if anything) people did and if it helped or not.
Post # 3
A close friend of mine went wedding dress shopping/browsing and let her BF hear her make the appointment. When he asked why, she told him she was at the place of her life where she was ready…and wanted to have that perfect dress pre-meditated for when the big day came. lol for her it worked. He ended up calling me to help him ring shop!! LOL
Post # 4
It made me laugh when I read this because I am not a great cook but last night I made a point to make a really good dinner. It took all my self control to not say something like “don’t you wish I was here to make dinner for you every night?” So I guess I am trying to prove that I am good wife material lol!
Post # 5
I bought an ‘engagement outfit’ a new top and shorts that i was gonna wear during the day, and i decided to wear a dress i already had (funnily enough the one i am wearing now) at night, and he proposed after dinner 🙂
Post # 6
I’m not doing anything out of the ordinary. Right now we are going through some stuff and whenever I am being supportive he’ll tell me I’m wife material, that feels good. 🙂
Post # 7
Oh god, no. Haha. Those things fit into the sterotype of wife that I will never want to be. My husband’s big push was that we would already be living together before we proposed. So, we moved in and the proposal came a few months later.
Post # 8
I’m just being myself.
I personally love to cook and bake, and I bake for him regularly, but we don’t live together and we’re both extremely busy so we don’t get to eat dinner that I cook very often.
But otherwise, I haven’t bought any engagement clothes yet…I probably will when the trip to Beech Mountain gets closer, which is where I think he’s proposing in November. 🙂
Post # 9
It’s not that I’ve done things to intentionally show him that I’ll be a good wife, but I have done a few things that he has commented on. For example, packing his suit case, sending him text reminders for things I know he will forget, and of course, making him food.
SO is pretty traditional but also came from a family with a highly ambitious mother who was an entrepreneur. I know he appreciates the fact that right now I am very focused on my career, but I also have some very traditional views with respect to gender roles and family. I guess that’s a big part of why we work! 🙂
Post # 10
Nope, I have not done anything differently than I usually do. After all, my word about whether or not I am ready should be good enough, plus, he is marrying the real me, not a person who I pretend to be.
Post # 11
@elle_z: I’m the same way! My SO knows that I’m an awful cook, I rarely wear makeup, sweatpants are my go-to item of clothing, and I obsess over random things. I may have the 1950’s housewife values (privacy for us is a huge deal), but other than that… I’m just me. He knows who I am and that’s the reason he’s marrying me.
But in all honestly, I have said that I want to learn to cook for him. He says we can just do it together. 🙂 Compromise.
Post # 12
I’m fairly domestic, so that’s not something that’s new, but I think it’s a big part of why he thinks of me as ‘marriage material.’ Initially when we met, he didn’t think I was warm or maternal, so getting to know that side of me helped him realize that he could see me as a wife and mother.
As far as preparing for the official engagement- I bought 6 new dresses. We’re going on this week long trip, so I want to look my best when he proposes.
Post # 13
I made sure I looked somewhat nice on the day it happened. Not that it mattered because it was dark out, but it was also my last day of one of my favorite summer classes so at least I looked good for something.
Post # 14
I’m finally starting to learn to cook. I can cook some stuff but FI loves having good dinners so I figured I better start watching people cook and pick up some tips lol other then that nothing really
Post # 15
I’m avoidingcutting my hair becaue I want it to be long for engagement photos haha. I also know when it is coming and I want to get into better shape so my first dress shopping experience can be a positive one!
Post # 16
We take turns cooking for each other almost every night, so that’s nothing new. I have been tempted to try out an “Engagment Chicken” recipe though – can’t hurt! I’ve also been thinking a little (ok, a lot) about dress shopping and engagement pics. So I’ve stepped up my workout routine – even if I don’t lose weight, I feel so much better when I’m running every day!