Post # 1
Somewhat inspired by the “it’s my day” thread – Did you think about your wedding from the time you were a child? Anyone else not?
I never thought about my wedding until FI and I decided to have it. Never dressed up as a bride as a child. Had no dreams about the dress or the look or any of that.
I’m really glad, I think it makes planning so much easier. I don’t have any long-term dreams to live up to, and if something (like flowers) is out of my budget, then oh well don’t need it, no heartbreak. I have told FI and parents from day one that I want to celebrate with family and friends, but if I can’t that’s ok, we’ll elope, not a big deal.
What about you?
Post # 3
Nope! Never. Only planning a wedding now because my fiance didn’t want to run off to Vegas. 🙂
Post # 4
Nope. Agree with you that it made planning a lot easier. There weren’t any preconceived notions about what a wedding “should” be floating around in my head, so I didn’t lose much sleep when compromises were necessary.
Post # 6
Nope. I had definite ideas of how I wanted the engagement process to go (ring, proposal) but until FI said he wanted to marry me someday, I had never thought of my wedding at ALL.
Post # 7
Not really. Did I play dress up and “bride and groom” when I was little? Sure. Was that a “dream wedding” or have anything to do with reality? Ha, no. I never day-dreamt about a wedding in my teens or even 20s really. The only time I even thought about weddings were when I was invited to one.
After that, I didn’t start thinking about weddings until FI & I (bf at the time) had been dating for over 2 years. Even though I’m engaged now, I still don’t have any thing pictured specifically in my head. Granted, I haven’t really started planning yet. 🙂 So maybe it WILL be easier! That’s an interesting concept. 🙂
Post # 8
Nope, never dreamed about it as a child, or had a dream wedding vision. Didn’t start thinking about a wedding until after the proposal.
Post # 9
nope i wasnt one of those girls, i never really thought about it until FI and I started talking about getting married
Post # 10
Never. When I was a kid I would dress up as ultimate ruler of the world. Or the evil queen. I don’t think I really imagined I’d get married until I met my fiance.
Post # 12
I really think it makes planning easier! In my mind, letting go of a dream is one of the hardest things you can do, and if you don’t have that dream you never have to let go of it.
Post # 13
Never. As a child i wanted to be a ballerina, i guess i didn´t even know what a bride was. Later, as a woman, i had no thoughts about getting married at all.
The only thing FI and i knew was that we wanted to elope and have a beach wedding someday, but i never thought or dreamed about weddings before we set the date.
Post # 14
No, I didnt. I honestly hadnt planned anything until we got engaged. I never even looked at anything bridal until I had a ring on my finger!
Post # 15
Oh yea, I did! I was one of those little girls who dreamed about her wedding since Barbie Dolls. I grew up in NYC and loved watching the weddings in Central Park. I always dreamed about getting married at Tavern on the Green. I didn’t go to many weddings as a kid but the ones that I did attend, I was obsessed with. Even at 10 years old, I would fight the 20-somethings for the bouquet (and I’d usually get it)!
When I got older and started dating I stopped thinking about weddings because frankly, I never pictured myself marrying the douche-bags I was seeing at the time. It wasn’t until FI came along that my obsession with weddings started again.
Growing up I had a very specific vision of what I wanted but it included a dress with shoulder pads and a Cinderella castle wedding cake so atleast for my situation, being disappointed about not getting those things is totally not true. What I liked 15 years ago is the polar opposite of what I like now so I personally don’t think that my dreaming about weddings has made planning my own any more difficult than it would be for anyone else.
Post # 16
I never dreamed about my wedding when I was younger. The first time I ever thought about getting married was, unfortunately, when I was with my first boyfriend (we dated for 4 years). After we broke up, I threw away all ideas that I had (I was also a wedding videographer, which kind of awoke the idea of a wedding in me).
I didn’t think about getting married or my wedding again until my husband proposed. It made things easier on the planning front, because I was completely laid back about most details. There were some things that I knew I had to have.