Post # 1
Hello Bees. While reading a rant against the opinions of the engaged bees on the board the scientist in me began to ponder.
How many of you dreamt of your wedding/Mr. Right since you were young girls (for the sake of argument let’s say ages 3-18)? Has it affected your relationships? Does it make waiting more difficult?
Not looking for snarky answers or to bash anybody. It is an honest question, sparked out of curiousity, poll pending. Thanks in advance!
Edited to include Engaged bees as well as Waiting Bees
Post # 3
Nope. Occasionally when I was really little I used to hang the sheer drapes off my head to pretend I was wearing a veil, but that was it. I honestly had no opinions on dress, decor, or anything else for my own wedding until I actually got engaged. Guess if I couldn’t envision the guy waiting for me at the altar, I couldn’t envision anything else about the day either 🙂
ETA: Oops, you specified waiting bees, but this seems like a topic that engaged and married bees can contribute to too. But to keep on topic, I never felt like I was ‘waiting’ for a proposal before he actually asked.
Post # 4
@linguo42: Oops, I voted too. Sorry.
Post # 5
@JenniMichele: & @linguo42: You’re right. I have since expanded it.
Post # 6
Married bee chiming in:
When I was about 12 I got really into fashion and I dreamed of my wedding look…hair down, bohemian dress, walking through the forest. -type look.
I kindof sortof stuck with that….but ended up a bit more traditional. My Mom said the dresses I was trying on made me look like I was wearing a nightgown. Here’s how I ended up:
Post # 7
Yes. I when I was in late elementary to middle school I totally dreamed about my wedding and the man I would marry. As for the men, it was whoever I was crushing on at the time, i didn’t necessarily have a “dream guy”.
Although, I did draw out everything about my wedding from what the church looked like to the dress to where my bridesmaids would stand, to who was invited, to how I would dance.
Post # 8
I knew in college that I wanted to get married outside somewhere, that was the extent of my “dream” – before that nope, never dreamed about my wedding.
I didn’t even start planning or thinking about what I wanted until after I was engaged.
Post # 9
Not me! I wasn’t really a tomboy, but I was just a very, very independent girl. Never really thought about men, weddings, babies. I think I was too busy dreaming of some very cool career that I wanted to go into, running around in the woods, or reading some nerdy book, lol. Come to think of it, Mr. Right just kinda fell into my lap, but I still dream about my future awesome career (disease investigator extrordinaire!) and spend a lot (A LOT…tons) of time reading books. Mostly nerdy ones 😉
Post # 10
I responded to your other post in the other thread. But no, I never dreamed of my wedding or the person I would marry. I remember thinking that I wanted a long train on my wedding dress after seeing someone’s wedding on TV when I was young, but that’s about it.
I didn’t start planning until after we got engaged. I figured we would just do a dinner with 20 or so people… turned out to be very far from the case!
Post # 11
I am definitely that girl who has dreamed of her wedding since she was a little girl. I used to make my friends & siblings have pretend weddings ALL the time lol I did know that I wanted a ‘good guy’ and someone who was always there for me. I think it was more so because I grew up with an abusive father and told myself I would never let anyone treat me or my ‘future’ children that way. So, I would fantasize about a life I could have, where I would be happy. Nothing over the top, just happy. It’s only affected my relationships in that I am not the girl who will stay in something where I am not happy, and I was willing to wait for my ‘Mr. Right’ until I found him. It doesn’t make waiting more difficult for me. I’m not married yet and I definitely thought I would be by now-BUT I have an amazing guy in my life and I wouldn’t trade him for time! Of course I would love to be engaged, but I know it is coming and I don’t mind waiting to have what I’ve always wanted.
Post # 12
I was really into weddings when I was little (5-10 or so) and then when I was a teenager I didn’t really care, when I started dating guys I didn’t plan on getting married at all, until I met my FI and then he proposed 🙂 I wasn’t really waiting for it, we were telling each other we’d love each other forever, and one day he just asked to make it official
Post # 13
Very interesting. Thank you for the ladies who already replied. Keep ’em coming! I’m always interested in stuff like this.
Post # 14
Sorry – engaged bee and I voted. But I can say, I never thought about my wedding until I was engaged even though I had after been a bridesmaid in all of my friends weddings. It makes planning a lot harder for me cause I don’t even know what “kind” of wedding I want – big v. small, formal v. causal, etc!
Post # 15
I’m going to answer this even though it’s in the Waiting section. I have never dreamt about a wedding. Nor was I ever waiting. I’m the type of person who lets things happen the way it’s meant to be. 🙂
ETA: I never really cared about getting married. I saw my mother go through horrible relationships and two divorces. I was also never a girly girl or a tomboy. I don’t know how to explain it. I’m just me. Hah.
Post # 16
I never thought about getting married until I met my husband, and even then, it took almost 3 years of dating him before I started to think about it, and he was the one to start the conversation. It took 9 more months after those talks started before he proposed, and even during that time, I didn’t really think about an actual wedding. I would have been happy to have gone to the courthouse, or to Vegas. He talked me into having an actual wedding, with the dress and the tux and the family and friends. Looking back, I’m glad he pushed for all that, but it was never anything I had given thought to previously.