- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
A couple years back I found out my now FI had cheated on my with some girl he had met at school (its more of those schools to pass your test to graduate HS). We started dating when we had just finished freshman year of HS, by the time graduation came around, I graduated and he didnt because he hadnt passed his TAKS (exam) so he was sent to this school to try and pass it there. He met this girl when he was 19 and the girl 21 and we were having a lot of problems with our relationship. I would argue about every little thing, he would pick me up to go out somewhere and not even 5 minutes later I was already yelling, of course that drove him off into her, especially since I was saying no to sex as well at that point. I found out January of 2009 that this had been going on for about two or three months when he came out and told me (she says its started in october, he says december idk who to believe). I heard so many different stories from people on how they were always together at school, wearing the same color clothes, and this other crap it drove me crazy. One day this girl starts fighting with another girl I went to HS with so one of her friends calls me angry and tells me whats going on about him cheating on me. I just couldnt believe it! I knew we were bad but I would have never imagined it. Hours later I get a text from him saying that he needed to talk to me, he isnt the sentimental kind, so when he picked me up from school since i already knew I wasnt talking to him. He actually had tears running down which shocked me the most. He found somewhere to park and starting crying bad and thats when I got bad too. I guess you can say I’m really nice, because after what he had just done to me here I was trying to make him feel better. He wouldnt stop saying sorry and well we broke up for about two weeks, but i couldnt bring myself to let him go. At one point he did say to leave him alone because he wanted to be with her, but then later he said it wasnt true he wsa just angry because I wouldnt stop telling him things for doing that to me and well eventually things got straightened out and we got back together. Up until this day I try asking him questions about it, but he just tells me to forget about it that he is trying his best to prove to me that he loves me and that he will never do it again. Ever since I found out and I was able to forgive him for cheating we have been closer and our relationship feels solid. We spend all the time together, we are under the same contract so I know who he talks to, and he really has became so much better and loveable.
I gave him a second chance because we had been together a long while already, because in a way I felt it was my fault why he had to look for what I couldnt give him somewhere else, and because I love him with all my heart that I just couldnt bare to lose him. Btw, I always was those to say you cheat on me its over, but when it actually happened, it wasnt over.
If you read it all, thank you for taking the time to read. I know its long, but I needed to let it out. Now tell me your story.
*Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me*