Post # 1
Feeling a little depressed today because it seems like all the cute/creative ideas I have for my wedding are getting shot down. I don’t share a lot of details about my wedding, and when I do, it’s only with the family members that I know are laid back. But even they seem to be jumping in with unsolicited suggestions and contrary opinions and it’s getting kind of overwhelming.
I completely expected lots of opinions but this month I’ve encountered negative feedback at every turn. The family doesn’t like our beverage selections, my accessories, our appetizer ideas, the bridal party gifts. They have suggestions on how the procession should be arranged, how my hair should be worn, etc. even though they know Fiance and I have already settled on something else. Even family friends are coming around with unsolicited suggestions on who the florist and entertainment should be. Everyone is trying to be helpful but I am feeling so overwhelmed, as I always considered our (very small) families very laid back and rather unopinionated.
We are paying for our own wedding, and I am hitting a place where I don’t want to tell any detail to anyone but Fiance ever. Obviously, this would result in some hurt feelings.
Has anyone else felt this way?
Post # 3
I think a lot of brides go through what you’re experiencing, I know I am. Everyone has their own vision and opinions for your wedding, but what really matters is what you want. You’re paying, so if you like an idea, stick with it. With mine, there have been some details which my family has not been too fond of. It’s annoying to hear their feedback, but ultimately I thanked them for the input and kept moving along with the ideas I wanted. My family has even warmed up to some of the details we’re planning now that they’ve seen the progress I’ve been making in wedding planning 🙂
Post # 4
Yup. And if you stop sharing details you don’t have to listen to them. Then when they see the final product they will be blown away because no one understood the vision until they saw it.
Post # 5
I think it’s universal, I’m going though the same thing. Unsolicited advice from just about everyone we talk to. It’s your day, and especially if you’re paying for it, you should do exactly what you and your Fiance want. You may want to just stop mentioning the details to those who are being negative, and just respond with a “we’ve already decided on that” (That’s what Fiance and I have started doing).
My Future Mother-In-Law kept badgering us about everything…photographer, florist, dj, venue, etc., and the one thing I let her get her way on (the DJ) is the ONE thing that’s stressing me out the most. I should have just gone with my gut and booked the guy I wanted in the first place. So, moral of the story…go with your gut and ignore unwanted opinions!
Post # 6
I haven’t really had this problem, but then again I don’t really share anything till after I already booked it. I tend to phrase it as “here’s the florist we picked and basically what the flowers are going to look like”. I haven’t done much of the “I’m thinking of doing this” talk. The only real thing I asked for opinions on was my jewlery while shopping with my mother. She has good taste 🙂